I know this thread is dying, but I went to the mall this weekend and need to vent.
I used to be a size 22 before my gastric bypass (110 lbs. gone) and the only place that had decent looking clothes in my size was Lane Bryant (and sometimes Walmart, if I was low on funds). It was very frustrating, as LB is quite expensive. And ITA, yosemitebabe about places like LB thinking everyone is 10 feet tall (I’m 5’2").
When I got down to a 10 or 12, I would walk into a mall and let out a “wheeeeee” at all the choices. But now that I’m a size 2 or 4, I’m finding it difficult to find items in those sizes that aren’t made for a 16 year old (I’m 33). And the stores that carry size 2, like the Limited, Lerner, etc. don’t appear to have any pants in different lengths. And you KNOW the new hem never looks right when it’s done.
I also have a lot of loose skin from the rapid weight loss after surgery. Most of it is around my middle and on my arms and it’s definitely an issue! I saw the cutest short-sleeved spring sweater with a collar at The Limited and the skin on my arms was gross! I’ve got to stick with the 3/4 length sleeves this spring/summer, rather than the cap sleeves that seem to be in style now. ::sigh:: Oh well, I’m getting the arm skin taken care of before next summer.
Cheekymonkey,
I have to sleep with a pillow between my knees. It does hurt.
Flat chests tend to be more sensitive, too. This is off-topic, but it’s Monday morning, and I feel like I have the right to say it. OK? My ideal is a nice b-cup.
Has anyone ever started a “show us your tits” thread, just out of curiosity?
And one more gripe, if I may, at the clothing industry:
Shirts never fit me. The sleeves get too short and the waist rides up. Always has. If I buy the biggest shirt in the shop (I’m talkin’ regular mall boutiques) it’s like a balloon around me, but if I buy one that fits around my body it’s much too short for my arms, and the waist of the shirt hovers just about exactly at the waist of my pants. So, if I raise my arms, someone’s getting a flash of my belly.
I can’t help it. It’s always, always happened. I hang my shirts to dry so they don’t shrink in the dryer, yet after about 3 washes they always start to ride up. Rather than replacing my shirts every three weeks I just deal with it, and hope that those subjected to a flash of my belly do the same.
Note to clothing manufacturers: Women come in more sizes than Small, Medium and Large.
I hear ya, hun. I went through quite a weight loss, myself (although it missed me and most of it found its mommy again). At the time, it hurt to sit on wooden chairs. Not only would my lack of shmaltz hurt my butt bones, even my ribs hurt if I leaned back.
That’s how I can empathize. I look at them and I feel the pain, 'cause they’re bonier than I’ve ever been.
First of all, I think that the whole “small breasts are more sensitive” thing is BS. The argument is made that small breasts have nerve endings concentrated in a smaller area. Sure, but that means little. Sensitivity is a subjective thing. I’ve know IBT women that felt almost nothing, and DDs that could barely stand to be touched. A short survey on another MB bore this out. Size has little to do with sensitivity and pleasure.
That having been said, I have long wanted to start a Pit thread on this very thing. I hear statements like “All men love large breasts”, I hear small breasted women berating themselves, and I hear about how augmentation surgery is a booming business, and I want to scream. Worst of all, if I express a desire for small breasts, I get looks like I’m either a liar or a weirdo. Or shallow. Fuck that, I am none of the above.
OK, maybe I’m shallow. Fair enough. Give 'em to me itty and bitty and passing the pencil test. Firm yet jiggly, pointy yet flat. Drool
Sweet Jesus, this had me cracking up. Can I have it as a sig?
I agree that just because it fits you, doesn’t mean it looks good on you. When I go to try on clothing, I’ll take about 15 items in with me (if they allow it) and leave with maybe one that’s actually flattering. All of them fit, but they still look like crap. I’m enternally grateful that I’ve got the common sense to realize that.
Yosemitebabe, I’m with you on the lowcut dress thing. Drives me crazy. I’m 5’4" and wear between a 7/9 and 10/12, depending on the brand. Most dresses now easily show half my bra and boob. It’s frustrating as hell. Unfortunately, I can’t sew to save my life. Hell, ironing is touch and go most of the time.
Joan Crawford, that is . . . Joannie has the answer to everything, and I know prove that by quoting from my personal New Testament, My Way of Life:
"A mirror doesn’t usually get any message across because it’s like a piture that’s been hanging on the wall for as long as you can remember. You really don’t see it anymore. . . . have your best friend (or your most critical acquainstance) take some candid snapshots of you from all angles, dressed just as you usually appear . . . The same hairdo, the same makeup, and of possible, the same expression on your face. Be honest! Be sure to have her take rear views, too.
“An 8 x 10 will show you the works–and you probably won’t be very happy with it. Sit down and take a long look at that strange woman. The shock of taking a photographic inventory may send the average woman to bed for a week. But it could be the best thing that ever happened to her.”
I saw a girl just today at the grocery store. She was very pretty, in that new-age hippie style, with long straight blonde hair, pretty blue eyes, a nice, if a bit thin, figure and a healthy-looking bosom. She was wearing those superlow jeans and a 3/4 sleeve lycra-enhanced shirt that showed her belly. And you know what? She looked AWFUL – because those clothes are flattering on NO ONE. Had the waistband of her jeans been somewhere in the actual vicinity of her waist, or had her top not been sausage-casing-tight, she would have been breathtakingly attractive. The unfortunate effect of this clothing combo made it look as though she’d fallen asleep fully dressed in Wonderland, with an empty bottle labeled “DRINK ME.”
To the OP: Check out old-fashioned Levis - student cut or classic fit, or if you look really hard, you can still find 517 boot cuts with the low, but not superlow, rise. Perfectly fashionable without crying out “I’m desperate to look 14 again!”
Which I am not. RANT If I judge myself by the Designers of today, I am a gone to seed quasi-jock of my ute now frumpy bloated cow. AKA: Past her prime. The farkers. Anyone else 5’4 and feel like the fashion industry hates, hates, hates them? [/rant]
Where I bowl at there is a group of women who all have these lovely curvy bodies and wear the best fun fashions (bowling and fashion usually don’t mix.) I look for their table every week because I am envious. Nice style, great bowlers.
( Note to self: remember when you use to think bowling was retarded and that you admired the ambisexual-tomboy look to the point of obsession? All the arsensic in the water is softening up your inner bitch.
Then there is the 19 year old who doesn’t have it down right yet. She’s a curvy galwho doesn’t know how to dress her body yet, I think she thinks she is skinny.
Week after week, she wears one of those belly baring shirts and low riders and what do we see as she walks by?
Belly flab hanging down over the low riders. Every week one of my pals and I resist the urge to do in an intervention. Every.freaking. week.
I see that every day when I stuff the stretched out baby fat skin into my pants containment device.
I do not need to see it on some one else.
It’s just wrong.
It is just a matter of time before she learns, like we all did, through painful photographs of bad hair, black eye liner or tight jeans that cut off all circulation.
A fashionista is not born, they evolve. and I am on mouth-breather stage.
If any of this made sense, it was pure coincidental.
I can have such a hard time finding jeans. Anything other than plain jeans are generally just a little bit too long (which for me is if it hits the floor) and can’t be hemmed without ruining the design. Regular jeans are just a pain to find in my waist-size. Plus by now, I’d like a little variety in my pants, the only difference between most of my jeans being around the waistline.
Sorry for the mild hijack and milder rant, I needed to get that out of my system. You may now go back to your regularly scheduled ranting.
Those low-riders really are awful! I’ve seen women so thin I want to shout “Eat Something!” at them wearing them, and even THEY look fat. They have rolls bulging out just below their protruding, bony, hips. It’s just not a style MOST women should be wearing!
Muscle-bound man, mid-forties, about 6’2", bald on top, mullet in the back, skin-tight Gold’s Gym tank top tucked into purple and pink spandex shorts, and biker boots.
I laughed until I cried. But not where he could see or hear me. He was at least three times my size.
Attack the fashion cluelessness—that’s okay. But to attack their worth as human beings? Just nasty.
Would it be equally funny if I wrote a little “article” about small-boobed or really skinny women and how hideous and worthless they are? Or what about skinny, short men who are losing their hair? Yeah, that would make a hee-larious little article.
Hoo boy. I sure never meant to offend anyone by posting that. The thing to understand about Maddox is when he gets pissed about something, he takes it all the way, sort of hoping to offend. I disagree with some of his more serious conclusions, but I’ve always enjoyed the articles. And he didn’t attack their worth as humans. As for the last question, yeah, it probably would be funny as long as it’s written well and you don’t take it to heart. It’s a style of humor not everyone will enjoy.
