That would be hard for me. I understand why you don’t want help doing the dishes, but could you let a guest help dry, or something, so they’re not just watching you?
Hey, some people just enjoy when others watch.
Exhibitionistic scullions? I’ve never heard of such a thing. I don’t doubt that there are people who are like that, but it’s a new one to me. 
OK this is going to sound totally trollish, but is actually a genuine question. It also applies to Halal FWIW…
How does staying kosher make you a better person? I got the whole “saying grace” thing not that we need to thank God for our food, but that it’s good to take a moment to formally appreciate what we have.
As to Kosher / Halal / don’t eat beef / vegetarian on Fridays I just don’t get. Yes it’s good to make your life harder to show your devotion to certain ideals - but isn’t there better things that you could spend the effort on? For instance, save the extra money spent on two sets of dinnerware and donate it to charity?
We could, except we do all our dishes in the dishwasher, so there’s really not even anything to watch.
Where the hell does that come from? It’s just part of her religious beliefs. She never said it makes her better than anyone else. You’re starting a debate on her right to practice her religion as she sees fit, and that’s not appropriate in this forum.
I did have a post typed to answer this, but thought better of it. I don’t want to be seen as formenting and arguement, it is a genuine question, but if it offends then nevermind, consider my ignorance unfought.
For genuine questions that have the risk of offending, it is better to start the search for answers elsewhere.
Consider your (and my) ignorance fought.
In addition to AllWalker’s suggestion - if you wish to get more general answers you’d do well to open a thread in General Questions about it, rather than hijacking a unrelated thread with a question set specifically to a single person.
Of course, Dope tradition being what it is, you probably should wait til after sundown on Friday night…
I might be way off, but I read the question not as “how does keeping kosher make you better than everyone else” but more as “how does keeping kosher make you the best you that you can be”.
I’ve been known to be wrong though.
Back to the original thread: I guess I’ve been lucky.
My mother-in-law lived with us for 10 years, and she sometimes did things that irritated me, but I wouldn’t count those as worthy of going ballistic.
The only occasion I ever really saw red was when a guest got very drunk (I don’t mind that if a guest is staying over), and then proceeded to put out his cigarette on the newly varnished wood floor! He’s never been invited to my house since.
That’s how I read it to. Or at least I got a clear sense of “why are you bothering when you could be devoting to the effort to something that’s actually meaningful?”.
Chasing the cats around the house and banging on a pan? What is he, three? No, I guess not if he’s old enough to be nearly divorced and bankrupt.
To the OP, is changing the TV channel so bad? Unless you mean messing up the remotes so they don’t work, which can be aggravating for someone who doesn’t know how to put them right.
When my daughter & her family (my SIL & Angelboy, my grandson) moved in with us last month, I told them there was only one rule: this is a non-smoking household, so take it outside. Everything else is just common sense.
Drama-mama, SIL’s mom, stopped in & lit up a cigarette. I took her to the door & invited her to smoke outside. She informed me that she smoked in her own house & could smoke anywhere else. As I pushed her outside, I asked, how about the city or county courthouse? (Our municipal buildings are smoke-free). Not my problem.
Also, my SIL uses my car to look for work (well, not anymore…he interviewed at a local Wallyworld last week & was told that he was hired pending background check/drug test.) The first time he returned my car w/the gas tank empty, I lit into him. It hasn’t happened since. (Quick hijack…gas around here is $2.02/gal on a good day; how high is it where you live?)
Otherwise, we’re good.
Love, Phil
$2.02/gal on a good day…in 2002.
Recently $4.50 ish, now about $2.30 to $2.70 depending on the neighborhood.
Note that there is no official answer to this.
I think it makes me more aware of when I am eating animal products. I think that’s a good thing because I know animals do suffer for us to have meat. It’s also a way to eat less meat without going vegetarian (especially for someone who likes cheese as much as I do).
If I didn’t have two sets of dishes, I’d probably have about as many dishes as I do now. This is because I’m too lazy to hand-wash dishes and feel wasteful if I run the dishwasher with less than a full load.
I don’t really care what visitors to my house think about keeping kosher, as long as they are willing to play along. I’d rather not discuss it at dinner, since these conversations don’t tend to resolve anything and just get people worked up. Think what you like, just don’t use my meat plates when you’re eating dairy. I put out the right dishes and silverware the night before for guests who aren’t used to keeping kosher (especially if we know they’re likely to get up before we do), so it won’t be hard.
The not eating meat on Fridays is supposed to remind you of Christ’s sacrifice by making one of your own. You can do something else, but it should still be a sacrifice of some kind. If you’d like to talk about the usefulness of sacrifice we can, but I don’t want to hijack this thread further so it’d have to be else where.
I’ve had mostly good houseguests, but two extremely bad experiences.
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An old friend of mine came to visit, sat down and clipped her toenails in my living room over a trashcan. She also ordered me around, handing me her garbage after she was done with it (I think it was a banana peel) because she was 6 weeks pregnant and too exhausted to get up and throw it away.
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When my father-in-law visits, he’s always asking me to make him sandwiches and coffee. And by asking, I mean usually ordering. “Overly, I’d like a sandwich. When you go to the store (Um, I wasn’t planning on going), I need cucumbers, tomatoes and chilis. Can you go to the store right away? I’m hungry.” Or “Overly, I need coffee. When it’s ready, bring it to my room.” This is mostly a cultural thing, I think - he’s always had servants. Still, I always have steam coming out my ears by the time he leaves, which is mercifully quickly. He rarely stays long.
Whoa.
You guys have had some doozies for house guests. We’ve only ever had family and very old friends over, so we’ve never had to deal with anyone acting like this.
As for things I wouldn’t suffer though, I can’t even think of anything a guest has done that’s bothered me. Thinking about it, overt rudeness to my husband or my other guests would probably be the biggest thing that would get someone the boot, not that it’s ever come up.
This isn’t infuriating, so much as weird, but my mother-in-law’s husband once asked if we had any higher wattage bulbs that he could replace the bulbs in the guest room with. (The bulbs that were in there already were of some normal wattage, I forget what exactly.)