You know that particular period in your life when everything has been running oh so smoothly… humming along oh so fine… and then something comes along and screws it all up?
You start to get this sinking feeling - like this one problem is now the nemesis of you - and for a short (or long) while you get all frumpy, anxious and scared (maybe not all in the same order).
So why does it make me feel so much better after talking about my problems and getting a second opinion?
Like a while ago I had problems with this wierd sensation I was experiencing. I won’t go into too much detail about it but I posed a question on the SDMB and I believe that KarlGauss answered it.
Just hearing an answer seemed to make me feel much better, less dis-oriented and more happy. Do you find that talking on the SDMB actually works for you? Why?
I don’t know, even just to hear that other people are going through horseshit whilst carrying a heavy cart seems to make me feel better. Is that a bad thing? Why do I feel like I’m not “alone” in this wierd scenario we call life and do any of you feel the same after a chat on the SD ?
When you have problems, your head can go into this endless loop, and you end up talking yourself into feeling worse and worse and worrying more and more. I think that getting some sort of feedback can help you gain your perspective. You see that some people have already been through that, or some people are going through worse or better. It helps to bring you back into reality and the realization that life will go on.
Like garius said, talking about things can really help situate your emotions and figure everything out. Takling to yourself doesn’t really help, because you never really gain much focus on other aspects of your dilema/issue. And if your problems are coming more from some sense of impending doom (or just overall emotional ickiness), talking to someone about it really helps because it lets you know (at least subconciously) that there are people out there that care enough to listen to your problems, and that in the grand scheme of things, you’re not alone.
The worst feeling is when something’s bugging me, and evertime I try to talk to someone, they’re too busy. It makes me feel abandoned, and then I’ve got that to deal with as well. But just having one person to listen to me bitch and offer perspective on my situation, really helps clear my head and helps me to calm down. Knowing how it helps me, I’m also super interested in how my friends are doing and try to be as supportive as I can. Unfortunately, lots of times, that just leads to problems, so be careful (and stay away from emails!).
That’s why they’ve developed such things as “psychologists/psychiatrists/councilors”. I mean, these people are paid to listen to others complain. If nothing good came about from talking about one’s problems, how come these people get paid so much?