TN*hippie, also, as they said, felching is strictly an anal thing. When you get to that side, write back.
TN*Hippie said
The LIONsob earned his red-wings years ago. Alas, this practice is something I can no longer allow him to indulge in without the use of a tampon to stop any blood seepage. (I know, way to much information, but TN did ask)
Why ? Well, I have Hepatitis C which is passed through blood. I don’t want to pass this to him, and though there is little chance of him getting it from me sexually, I don’t want to take the chance. Just one of many life-style changes this disease has brought into my life.
And yes I do kiss him after oral sex, no I don’t want him going down there after intercourse unless I’ve washed first. Just a personal quark of mine.
ruadh and javamaven - don’t feel alone. I don’t like it much either. It’s not icky or gross, by any means. It just doesn’t do anything for me.
Lest anyone think I’m a prude, I’m certain there are things that I do practice that would make the devil himself flinch. ;).
Now fellatio…that another subject entirely. mmmm.
trisha
Yeah that’s a pet peeve of mine jazzmine. Say you don’t enjoy doing something in bed and people automatically assume you’ve got some sort of hangup. Since I’m on the subject anyway I also don’t like being on top - it’s just not comfortable and I get tired too quickly and, whatever anyone says I don’t get off any easier that way. Been there, done that, not my thing, end of story, please don’t assume I’m just prudish.
What she said
(really can’t believe I’m posting this :o)
Dinner after intercourse.
Sure, why not? I mean, it came from me, and I expect her to do it, what’s the problem?
Red Wings.
Well, I supose so. I’ve never done it, it dosen’t apeal to me, my wife dosent want it, but I supose in the right circumstances…maybe.
Serious answer, TH, better?
Redwings - nope, and it’s simple why not - I don’t like the taste. Selfish? Perhaps, but I’m not sure that makes me evil.
I do, however, er, um, pleasure those parts down there where the blood isn’t actually flowing from. (psst, I mean the clitoris).
As for eating after sex, absolutely. HOWEVER, I once learned the hard way that semen doesn’t keep (I pleasured a GF the next morning who used a diaphragm). OH MY GOD was that nasty.
BTW, on the SDMB, there is NEVER TMI. We are fighting ignorance here people!!
V.
Never truly felched. Felching is all anal.
I’ve never really met awoman who didn’t almost require a kiss after going down on her, doesn’t bug me in the least. I don’t mind giving a kiss after receiving head either.
I’ve never earned my redwings, per-se, but I’ve known many women who liked sex on the rag and I’ve indulged every one of them.
-Sam
I’d just like to point out that I’m glad ChiefScott isn’t here to see this.
Either way: Yes! Yes! YES!!
I don’t particularly like having sex during menstruation, because orgasms hurt like a sumbitch at that point. Plus I generally just feel gross that week and really don’t want any activity down there.
As far as kissing after oral sex, no problems here.
[slight hijack] JavaMaven, I have found for me, that making love while on my period is not only a lot of fun <though messy, that’s what dark towels are for> but it actually helps relieve my cramps a lot. Has anyone else found this to be true for them? Plus, during that time, I am always in the mood. Just ask Mr Bear.;)[/slight hijack]
As to him going down on me during that time, he never has. I’ve never asked him to. Would I like it? Don’t know. And, I have no way to find out this year at least. Some days I don’t know how I’ll survive this time alone, but I digress.
As I was checking the preview, I saw ChrisCTP’s post. I’m rather surprised at that, Chris, since it’s the opposite for me. Just goes to show we’re all different, doesn’t it?
SuaSponte, that doesn’t make you selfish, after all, you go on to say that you will still offer pleasure to your lady.
Yes, indeed, I’ve had a couple of GFs whose cramps were somewhat relieved by way of orgasm. Better than anything you can get over the counter.
Cunnilingus in general:
At first I was suuprised that some of you don’t get off on it…but seriously, a guy has to knopw what he’s doing and what the individual gal likes. Experiment…or just ask. Every GF I’ve had liked it a little differently.
And he’s all mine…BWAAAAHAAAAA!
I used to think this way, then I met my husband. It is SO DAMNED GOOD TO BE ME. That’s all I can say
Zette
EXACTLY. Better than anything available OTC. And, the guy has to know what he’s doing, what you like. Then, it’s heaven…
Zette, I say the same thing about Mr Bear. Aren’t we lucky!
Count me in as another person who doesn’t live for cunnilingus. Not that I don’t get off on it - it’s just that it’s not that much more exciting to me than getting diddled.
Granted that part of that may be technique - I’ll be the first to admit that my ex was not a great lover. However, it may also be partly personal preferences.
What I much prefer is to come the first time in a lovemaking session when my partner is inside me. If my partner tries to make me come before he enters me, it’s just not nearly the all-emcompassing experience that I get otherwise. Now afterwards, I love to be played with. Alas, I have never had anyone go down on me after sex; I think that would be an incredible experience.
Also, I don’t mind kissing my lover at all after cunninlingus - for me to enjoy it I have to clean up first anyway, so tasting myself on my lover’s lips doesn’t bother me.
As for cunnilingus during my period - no thanks, the thought bothers me enough that I wouldn’t be able to enjoy myself (and that’s the point, eh?) TH, keep in mind that for you it’s just a little blood, but women are usually socialized to treat it as sewage - waste to be flushed or thrown away as quickly as possible. In addition, at best, it’s a hassle for a woman - at worst, it’s associated with pain, embarassment, nausea, and negative moods.
My husband is uncut, and yes, sometimes he needs to cleanse a bit before we go to it, but trust me, the hygeine issues of a foreskin are no more complicated or disgusting than those of a vagina, even discounting menstruation. Also, I think mind-ripping orgasms are worth the extra effort - once you go intact, you’ll never go back ;).
Kissing afterward, either way, is not even an issue for us - why not kiss? Besides, I don’t think that well-maintained genitals taste bad in any way at all.
Finally, red wings - he has 'em. But it’s not that big a deal, as SuaSponte said, when you’re lying on your back, the clitoris is topmost. Since that’s what I want him to concentrate on anyway, it works out fine!
Also the kissing after oral sex: why and why not?
curious,
TN*hippie
TH - I think I need some personal experience before I can answer that question…
Any volunteers?
My boyfriend is pretty much open to anything! He has gone down on me after we’ve had sex and I’ve kissed him afterwards. It’s not a big deal, I know what I taste like. We both love oral sex - giving and receiving - and have no problem with kissing each other afterwards. As for him earning his Red Wings… only a couple of times. He usually focuses on the “upper region” during that time. I have a friend (male) who says that you haven’t really earned your Red Wings until you’ve sucked out a chunk!! Gross!! :eek:
BTW, I’m surprised no one has mentioned getting a rim job!
purplebear, I have to agree with you. My hormones are RAGING right before and at the beginning of my period and once we are engaged in the act, I seem to forget all about those pesky cramps, at least for a little while.
Although Mr. Golf has no problem with cunnilingus after intercourse, I prefer it beforehand. I love the feeling of sex once I am having an orgasm and he slides into me. And I have no problem with kissing him. Doesn’t “taste” like anything.
Mr. Golf has earned his redwings and although I felt a little uncomfortable the first few times, he doesn’t seem to have a problem with it at all.
After reading this thread, I think I need to make a phone call and see what Mr. Golf is doing for lunch today.