Female Vulva and Frequent sex. Not really TMI, but....

In My Humble Opinion
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It is a common bit of “accepted knowledge” by guys that girls who have a lot of sex tend to have a changed apperance in vulvas. I tend to disagree. I want to figure out the Straight dope on the subject. Obviously the basis for this idea is pretty easy to figure out. But one thing that I commonly hear is that girls with a large inner lips that sort of stick out past the outer lips have that because of frequent sex, or whatever. I tend to think that it is pretty much BS, but and most experience that I’ve had seems to disprove it. I have known girls with almost no inner labia who were pretty sexually active from a young age. But also, these girls didn’t like to have very vigourous sex. But one girl who I did know that did like pretty vigorous sex did have large inner labia. Also I noticed that she also had a pretty insensitive clitoris. With other girls it was pretty senstive, but with her it was fairly common for me to apply lots of pressure during oral sex in order to pleasure her.

One thing that I do know is that skin, does stretch, and once it does, it doesn’t stretch back. There are cells that come in and provide extra skin. They don’t go away, obviously.

So my question is this, does one’s sexual lifestyle affect their genitalia? For instance, if a girl likes hard sex, does that affect her clitoris sensitivity, or does it affect her vulva in general? One story that I’ve heard that it comes from having sex while not being wet enough…I don’t really buy that either.
Okay here’s the only TMI part…

One time, I accidentally made the mistake of choosing the wrong lubricant for sex… I had these two creams, or aftershave’s to be precise. I had bought one that didn’t contain alcohol before for uh… personal use. I accidentally bought the one WITH alcohol. Well, needless to say…it did some damage… But the funny thing was that she seemed to heal a lot faster than I did. I know, for instance that your mouth heals a lot faster than other parts of the body, and maybe this is because it is in moist, yet tender area. Could the female tender bits be the same?

That would seem to disprove the myth too…

Also, I have seen various plastic surgery websites (hey I was curious) and one of the procedures was to reduce the inner labia of certain females because it was large. One of them was a fifteen year-old and that would seem to suggest that it is just a natural state that never changes…

Again, I never thought this was true, but I just want to confirm. It seems founded on urban legend, but its something that gets repeated by so many guys as if it is fact. In fact, I think I am the first guy to reject the notion, that I know.

What do you guys think?

I’m a guy, btw.

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my inner labia have always been large/long. As far as I’ve noticed there’s been no change down there over the years, and I’m a pretty frequent visitor. :slight_smile:

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The size of the lips and sensitivity of the clit is what influences the sexual preferences, not the other way around.

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As opposed to the male vulva? :wink:

As far as I’m aware though, these supestitions are pretty much bull. One of my lovers had rather largeish inner labia, and she’d had 'em since way before she lost her virginity.

However, as for the contention that repeated sex makes a woman’s vagina itself looser… I’m not so sure. Kegels can deal with that though if it is a valid causal relationship.

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Check out the vulvas on porn stars, which are on display in some parts of the Web I understand. Presumably, they’ve had lots and lots and lots of sex, but I’ve noticed absolutely NO uniformity there. The vulvas tend to vary tremendously, if they were all subject to this mysterious sex-related change in appearance, I’d think there’d be a certain amount of consistency. I think the people who say frequent sex can affect the appearance of the vulva are, to put it gently, in Snopes territory.

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I think that the effect of intercourse on the labia is likely minimal. To think otherwise sounds a bit like male fantasy creeping in.

As far as labia-altering experiences go, childbirth probably has a far greater impact.

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Okay, as a frequent, and often rowdy visitor to my Lady’s unmentionables, I don’t think that this myth has much going for it, either for the appearance or tightness of the area.
While an extended session can result in looseness of the vaginal muscles, a short break usually ‘fixes’ this, and I’ve not noticed any difference in tightness over the last 8 years.

I think the ‘large inner labia’ myth may have more to do with porn culture- since so many of the actresses are bare down there, you get more of an eyeful. So there might seem to be a correlation between larger inside areas than usual. Also, when directors are looking for starlets, this might be an area where they tend to go with young women that have more peeking out, to increase the visual stimulation for the audience.

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There was once a porn star named “Fiona Flaps”. So-called for her voluminous inner labia.

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Such is the beauty of the female form, as varied in size, shape and color as are the flowers of a garden, also being my favorite of the tulips! :wink: :stuck_out_tongue: