How are fetishes formed?
Is it because of the environment a person was raised in?
Or is it because of the abuse of a psycho aunt? 
Not sure where this belongs, but I figured it would be moved if it needs to be.
I’m having trouble finding anything on the psychology of fetishes that’s not on a BDSM website, and there’s a limited amount of time I wanna spend Googling this. Anybody else wanna try?
As a generic answer, almost no psychologist would ever consider environment to be the sole element in causing any psychological predisposition. My own idea (and this is an IMHO comment) is that fetishes only manifest themselves given societies conducive to the freedom to manifest them. To a large extent I think they are pretty much everywhere, sort of lurking.
I don’t know where they originate from but I think there is a good possibility that we are born with them, or at least pointed towards them.
I have had a serious foot fetish all my life. I know for a fact I had it as far back as kindergarten and probably earlier. I can’t explain why I like womens feet. I never could. And I don’t mean I think womens feet are cute. I mean I feel about womens feet the way most men feel about womens tits and asses. Not to give TMI but when I jerkoff I normally think about womens feet. If I date a woman who will not let me near her feet, I know it won’t work and normally end it because I know if I fall for her down the road I will be unhappy sexually. That is how strong it is.
This is why I believe that people are born homosexual and it is not something they can control. IT works the same way as my fetish. I could NEVER turn it off or decide not to like womens feet and I don’t believe that homosexuals could turn it off either.
So in a nutshell I think the foundation of a true fetish (something that someone MUST have in order to have 100% satisfying sex) is laid either at birth or shortly their after.
If you are looking for the true definition of fetish, it comes from one of Freud’s writings. I can remember the exact reference, but if you type in Freud and fetish, you should come up with quite a lot. Originally the word was used to indicate an “object” (either real or imagined) that a male assigned to a female in order for him to deal with her lack of a penis. Since then it has been appropriated by society to mean just about anything one has a I]desire* for.
I think Jon Stewart from The Daily Show said it best:
“If you drive past a pumpkin patch and you feel a little tingle in the loins…and then you drive past another pumpkin patch and again feel a little tingle…expect at some point in the future you are going to be found screwing a pumpkin.”
Or a traffic cone.
And when you’re caught, don’t try saying:
Damn! Is it midnight already?
But why would you want to have sex with a golden coach in the first place? 
I vaugely remember reading something to the effect of; fetishes are form from ones fear of the vagina or at least their intimidation of it. So in order to vent ones sexuality they focus on another part of the body or activity.
I’m sure there is more to this but I’m working off of memory here. Sorry.
I also remember it had something to do with being born from the womb? Oh well maybe some one else knows of what I’m talking about and be a little moe clear than myself.
I imagine there have been countless theories about fetishes (one of several paraphilias). Some could, I’m sure, be easily demonstrated as developing through simple classical or operant conditioning (the feel of certain fabrics or the appearance of stockings and garterbelts may easily be associated with sexual arousal from early days, and then carry strong sexual valence thereafter). Some are much more difficult to understand. I read a case study of a young man who had a strong fetish for vehicle exhaust pipes… but only clean and highly polished ones which were softly emitting gases. Sorry, I can’t explain that one!!! I doubt that the guy who has it can explain it either.
Either way, as long as we are talking about fully consenting adults, fetishes can be fun to explore. Some people get a bit scared about them., however. I have a male friend who is planing to get married in a few months. He has not yet told his fiancee that he loves to wear women’s underwear because of the feel of it and knowing that he is doing something taboo. It is a HUGE turn-on for him. I have encouraged him to tell her before they get married… I’m betting he doesn’t and thinks she’ll be fine with it AFTER they get married. Big mistake!
Hey, it’s not a good night if you don’t end up with a traffic cone.
Bloody brilliant, Bryan.
Stinkpalm, I’ve gotta ask you: do you like just any female feet, or do they have to have a certain look, size, or texture for it to be a turn-on? I have a hard time believing my feet would give anyone a woody.
Kalhoun they must be a certain look size and texture. For me if I girl does not have attractive feet I am not attracted to her at all. If you took Tyra Banks and put ugly feet on her, or big ankles, I wouldn’t pop wood around her. It’s that strong of a fetish.
Wow. Don’t you feel like you’re missing a lot? What about boots? Do you like boots?
So I’ve had an attraction to Asian men since birth?
Esprix
Nope. Not into shoes, boots or anything like that. Believe it or not my fetish is even more specifc than what I have divulged thus far, but the rest is a secret.
Esprix, saying you were born attracted to Asian men is probably not analogous to a fetish since a fetish is something that you can’t typically enjoy sex without. I am guessing that you do find other men who are not Asian attractive as well, you just prefer Asian men.
Saying that you have a had a cock fetish since birth is probably closer to a fetish than the Asian man thing since being gay you probably would not enjoy sex at all without a cock involved somehow.
How YOU Doin’?
It isn’t so much an issue of how long the fetish has been present. A fetish typically involves requiring something not normally associated with sexuality being necessary for sexual acts in some capacity—which is not to say a foot fetishist requires sex with feet, but rather that interaction or stimulation (visual, tactile, whatever) via feet would be a necessary component to engaging in sexual behavior.
It is, AFAIK or have found, considered a disorder of sorts, albeit one that most don’t give a hoot about since it is not really a factor in any harms that might befall a person. Indeed, the fetishist has sex much as anyone else would, albeit the path to sex might take a circuitous route, and some behaviors leading up to sex, or some sexual stimulation, would not be normal in a statistical sense (rather than a valuative sense).
Some might tend to look at it as a matter of perspective—after all, doesn’t a heterosexual woman need some stimulation by a male? And don’t we all often have favorite modes of foreplay, so much so that sex isn’t the same—or isn’t possible at all—without it? It is only the transfer of this requirement to what is (again, statistically) not normally considered sexual objects.