I have a very dear friend I’ll call Stacy. Stacy is a very sweet, talkative, somewhat overbearing girl. She has major self esteem issues that lead her to beleive that the only way to gain any self respect or meaning was to have children. She is so lacking in love that she wants to have a child to get it. So when she was 19 she got pregnant. She spent her 20th birthday on bedrest because her body inexplicably was treating the fetus as a infection and attempting to eradicate it. As a result, she had to give birth at 28 weeks, and the baby,a boy named Jacob, didn’t make it. She spent 6 months after this drifting between bad and worse. Then, last month, she got a job at a daycare. She began to take a turn for the better, often telling me and anyone else who would listen that this job filled a void her son left. Some of the mothers of the children became concerned about the “unnatural affection” she had for these children. One even called the owner and told her that she was afraid Stacy would kidnap her daughter. As a result Stacy was fired for “Unnatural non-sexual affection for children”. Stacy is very upset, and not being a mother or knowing anything at all about children, i don’t know what to tell her. On one hand, i thought from the beginning that she was trying to “mother” rather than teach or care for. On the other, if it were MY children, i would be happy to know that her caretaker had a vested intrest in her wellbeing.
What, if anything, did Stacy do wrong here??