I know there’s an old SD column on the origins of the F word, but I couldn’t find any information about the first written occurence of the popular phrase, “fuck you”.
TSD, anyone?
What does “TSD” mean?
the straight dope (WAG)
Partridge’s calls it at “(?) latish C.19.”.
From Word Origins:
In other forms it is even earlier:
The OED gives the first written use of “fuck” as an imprecation in James Joyce’s Ulysses, “God fuck old Bennett”. Ulysses was published in 1922, but set in 1904 (on 16th June, 1904, to be precise). Earlier written use of “fuck” was with the meaning of sexual intercourse. Note that Ulysses was banned in some English-speaking countries for, among other things, its use of the word “fucK” in print, so it’s going to be hard to find much written evidence of the word over several centuries, even if it was frequently used in speech.
Note also that “fuck” does not appear in the first edition of the OED, even though the editors undoubtedly knew the word. They would have decided not to give an entry for it and a few other taboo words, but changed the decision with the supplement published in 1972.
No citation on the specific imprecation 
“fuck you” even though Joyce’s usage is of a similar form?
One does assume that “fuck you” or “fuck him” or “fuck Old Bennett” were used in speech? Differently than the usage “subject fucked object”?