Just wanted to say, the decision to stop drinking - for whatever reasons - creates certain associations in your head as well as in the heads of others who know you. A lot of people - friends, sisters, BILs, etc - were surprised when I quit, saying they did not think I had “a problem.”
-I readily admit that at one point in my life I drank WAY too much.
-I am equally sure that when I quit quitting was the right thing for me - for countless reasons.
-And I readily admit that very few people - if anyone - completely stops drinking because they are certain they never had a problem with it.
But now, after I have ghone without a drink for 6 years, there now seems to be a widely held belief that at the time I stopped drinking my drinking was “out of control”, and that should I choose to begin drinking again, it is inevitable that I would revert to my heaviest drinking days.
I actually hung onto the calendar I kept for 1 of the 2 years immediately before I quit when I was trying to moderate. *(Just found the one calendar easily. The other one is probably around somewhere. Didn’t cherrypick the lighter year.)*During that year, there were a total of 10 days on which I drank more than my allotted 4 beers, and I never had more than 6. Most - if not all - of those seemed to have occurred on holidays, vacations, etc. Less than 5 weeks out of the year that I exceeded my 14 drink allotment - I think the highest was 20 over x-mas/NY.
At that time in my life, with a recent history of heavy drinking, with no hstory of extended sobriety, and with 3 teens/pre-teens to set an example for, I can easily see that putting down a 6-er at one sitting was not desireable.
What I find curious - and a little bothersome - is that a large number of people (including my wife) seem to feel that the 2 years of moderation, 6 years of sobriety, and ay number of other changes in my life and the lives of everyone else, means that now 1, 3, or even 6 beers is some horrible thing. Yeah, maybe it isn’t the best thing for any number of reasons. But when I look at everything else I do, I think if that is the worst of it I’m doing all right.
I feel as tho I can keep dry with no big difficulty (tho I still occasionally yearn for a smoke after 25 years without!;)) But if I would occasionally like a drink, I’m not certain that it shouldn’t at least be a matter of legitimate consideration - instead of my wife’s immediate reaction “I’d divorce you.”
Sorry if I brought that thread over here.