To be fair to him,* he doesn’t use his .sig very often. I had to look it up in his profile to familiarize myself with what you were talking about. Also, IS that actually from the Bible? It’s just I’m used to seeing attribution (book, chapter, and verse) when it’s a Bible quote.
*(“being fair” to people is just something I like to make a habit of. It’s one of the character flaws I like to cultivate, just so I can say I have some. Like my insistence on using Oxford commas.)
This thread hits close to home. Nieces and nephews on one side of the family write thank you notes, the other side doesn’t. We’d never cut the latter off from Christmas gifts because of that, but we often have no idea whether they got them.
But it drives my (quite proper) nonagenarian mom crazy. We sometimes have to cut off her twentieth rant about a gift with “Did you give just so you’d get a thank you?”
Send a similar present again and again until they contact you asking what is going on. And you innocently say “Oh, I thought it went missing 'cause I heard nothing from you…” After that they will thank you every time as soon as possible.
I do indeed! Here’s my Thank You form which allows you to thank me specifically, and at length for my donation of the mustard. Don’t go drinking it, you drunky.
If you hadn’t posted this, I would have missed the followups from Bullitt. So, in the spirit of thankfulness, I’d like to gratefully acknowledge your acknowledgement of Bullitt’s acknowledgement (that he erred) and say also that I got a much-needed reminder that sometimes, people can learn & grow.
Just one more data point: I gave a small donation, and received a very nice personal “thank you” message, which came to my email through the GoFundMe site. I was one of the first to give, and as more and more people gave money, it probably made sense to give a more collective thanks to everyone.
If i hadn’t received a personal thanks, i’m not sure what my reaction would have been. I might have been a bit miffed, but that would have gone away once i saw the more general thanks.
I understand why the OP started this thread, but i’m also glad that he’s reconsidered his position a little bit. If nothing else, this thread serves as an excellent reminder (assuming one were needed) of what a flaming asshole D’Anconia is.
I am emotionally crippled right now; I’ve been in an odd paralysis for about two years. Many people have reached out with their thoughts and prayers over this time, and each one has brought much-needed solace. I have tried to return the kindness, to express gratitude for the outreach, but I know I have failed both to express the enormity of the appreciation to some and to ensure completeness in reaching out to everyone who has personally touched our lives. It is a burden of guilt I carry, and though it pales in comparison to the overall weight of misery I shoulder, it is nonetheless a heavy piece of straw.
If compassion gives you cause to help, let that compassion carry over to the social formalities that should be in play – and add a modicum of forgiveness for social inelegance.
Well said, Rd, and my wife is very forgiving while I am less so, and she is a constant reminder to me that I need to be more forgiving. This thread is a case in point. And thank you to those who have recognized my small step towards the right direction.
Well…I guess I just saw this for the first time this morning.
Bullitt, I am sorry if you did not receive a personl thank you. I used the GoFundMe site to personally thank everyone that donated, and I also used the thread as a platform for expressing my gratitude as well.
There were many anonymous donations, and I sent them thank you notes as well, but perhaps some of these didn’t get through? I wondered that, because the GFM website uses email addresses to send out those notes, so if someone didn’t post their email address, maybe they didn’t receive it?
All GFM says each time you send one out is “Your Thank You Has Been Sent”. This is why I also used the thread to express thanks, a) because I was sincerely grateful and blown away by the generosity of the board, and b) just to be sure that I had thanked everyone.
I grew up writing thank you cards for family members that bought a Christmas present, or a birthday card, etc. There’s no way that I didn’t at least try to thank each and every one of you personally.
So, again I apologize if you didn’t receive one personally from me, believe me, I tried to send it as I did to everyone else.
And I am doing pretty well, by the way. Still no drinking, still going to AA, still struggling with this sickness every day. But at least now I can keep the lights on a little longer.
FoieGrasIsEvil, I owe you an apology. I am sorry that I called you out publicly. It was wrong to do that. I should not have done this. I am truly sorry.
I’m glad you are doing better. Keep up the good work, keep fighting the good fight.