For MY Mom, and For All of Your Mom's Who No Longer Walk This Earth

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Mother’s Day is here, and I miss my mom. Well, I miss her all the time, but sometimes certain things make me miss her DESPERATELY, and Mother’s Day is one of them. A few nights ago, Delilah played a song on the radio for a man who lost HIS mom, and it really got to me.

So this is a Mother’s Day card for my beloved mother, and for any of you who have had to go on after losing your mom, at least in physical presence. May God Bless and Keep You, and may this song remind you that your mom is not really gone as long as she is alive in your heart and mind.

I love you, mommy! Thank you for being a marvelous and loving mother, for teaching me the things I needed to know and for making sure that even after you were gone you would still be fresh in my mind when I need you. For loving me so much that you would NEVER be gone from my heart. If I had a chance to start from the very beginning and God let me choose my parents, I would have chosen the ones He gave me.

For Our Beloved Moms on Mother’s Day

[sub]Oh, and for those of you who notice these things, I POSTED A VIABLE LINK! WOO HOO! Maybe it is a Mother’s Day present for mom…her daughter finally posted a VIABLE LINK! :)[/sub]

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Hey, congratulations on the viable link, Cheri! I, too, have learned the art of posting viable links recently. Isn’t that great? :slight_smile:

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{{{Cheri}}}

Your mom did a wonderful job being a mom. She ended up with one pretty terrific kid.

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::reads the link, thinks about my mom and all those who are missing their mom right now::

Thanks, hon. Your mom is sitting up there beaming at you, I’m sure. It’s an honor to be your friend.

{{{{{{Cheri}}}}}}
::chokes up, tries not to cry, slowly slips out::

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Yes, Flam…we have learned how to post a viable link.

Now about that bolding thing…:slight_smile:

evilbeth, darling girl…thank you so much, I am not really all that special, but I am so honored that you feel that way. Thank you so much! Thursday kisses and MUCH LOVE to my darling Emma Kate. And ::huggles:: to you and Stephen! (And love, too, of course.)

Thanks, purr darling…I hope our respective moms are rejoicing over our friendship as much as I am! It is indeed an honor to be YOUR friend, as well.

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Cheri, I’m usually good at bolding! I don’t know how that snuck in there… oh well. :slight_smile: I’m sure your mom is looking down on you from heaven, proud that she did such a wonderful job raising you to be the person you are today. (I can say that even though I don’t know you, right? I hope so! :slight_smile: )

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CERTAINLY, sweetie, and I am just thinking (NOT fondly) of all the coding mistakes I have made over the past couple of years. :frowning: I am really quite lame in so many ways. And thank you so much for your kind words.

Oh, and BTW…you are about to get to know me a whole lot better, since we are about to have a DopeFest in Vancouver in July, if everything works out the way I think it is going to. Did you know that I live in Bellingham? I look forward to meeting you.

Take care!

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Cheri, I’m know your mom is very proud of the person you’ve become. How could she not be? I’m sure she lives on thru you.

Much love,
Jim

And way to go on the link thing, I knew you could do it.

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This is a wonderful idea Cheri! I would like permission to resurrect the idea around Father’s Day.

My mother and I don’t always see eye to eye, but I love her just the same. And lucky for me (since I was in the middle), my sister and my mom finally are speaking to one another again, and just in time for Mother’s Day. :slight_smile:

Anyway, back to you - I am sure your mom would be proud of you and I haven’t really gotten to know you very well yet. But I feel confidant in saying that from reading your posts on the board and meeting you at the Birthday Party for you and Grace here. Any parent would be proud to have a daughter like you. :smiley:

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Dammit you made me cry. I lost my mom about 6 years ago and I still miss her alot. Just recently March 10 th I lost my mother-in-law. She was a really great lady. I think she loved me as much as her son.
For all those people who have lost their moms:

MOM:YA DONE REAL GOOD AND WE ALL MISS YOU EVERY DAY.

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Thanks so much for starting this thread-I’m 47 and I still really miss my mommy. sniff

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I hate Mother’s Day.

For weeks now I’ve been seeing these banner ads that say SPOIL MOM and store window posters that say “Show Mom She’s the BEST” and so on. I would LOVE to spoil Mom, to hug her one more time and tell her that even after 20 years, she’s still with me every day, if only because I see her when I look in the mirror. I would love to smell that Mom-smell of her skin and her hair. I would love to have a grown-up conversation with her. I want to ask her stuff. I would love to tell her that I love her so much and I miss her so much, but I’m never going to see her again.

I’m crying now.

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ya know, coding correctly may make your post look swell, but if the content stinks, who cares?

Thanks Cheri once again tough time of the year.

I’ll always remember my favorite mother’s day Card I gave her. on the front it said “Who taught me to wear my galoshes when it’s raining?” “who taught me never to say bad words” “who taught me to always carry a clean handerchief” Inside was a character standing bootless in puddles while they wiped their nose on their sleve and said “Nobody, but you sure as H*** tried hard”.

Here’s to you, mom. :smiley:

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I can barely see, trying hard not to cry being at work still … I lost my mom 6 months ago and i must admit things like her bday and now mother’s day are really hard

Thanks Scotticher for the link (and congrats on being able to do link it correctly)

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Trust you to start up such a wonderful thread for Mother’s Day and mothers everywhere, Scotticher. You are, and always shall remain, a wonderful person.

It’ll be 5 years come September since I was last able to talk to Mum. Stars above, it still hurts, though the pain is slowly giving way to happier memories. But the last thing Mum wanted to see happen was that I write a book on the history of where I live. Right now, that’s close to coming to be, plus I publish a historical journal, set up websites on the stuff, am about to give a talk on local history at the library, and I push-started a historical society. Around here, they call me a “community historian”.

And Mum isn’t here to see it. Damn, damn, damn. :frowning:

Thanks for the link, treasured lady – such gorgeous words.

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Well, the last thing I wanted to do here was to make people cry. Although, sometimes crying is a GOOD thing, so maybe this is better.

As I said, this is just sort of a Mother’s Day card for our moms who are no longer here on earth so we can spoil them. And now that I think about it, it is maybe a gentle nudge to those of you who still HAVE your moms here…hold them close, tell them you love them, spoil them rotten, allow the differences and celebrate what is important. They won’t be here forever.

Thank you, Lord Jim and Moxmaiden… I think she would have found a way to be proud of me no matter HOW I turned out, she was just that kind of person. But I do think that she felt that I got all the important stuff. If she lives on in me, I am much better than I think I am.

And of course you have my permission, Melissa darling! I hope you are appropriately treasured on Mothers Day, because I think you are the kind of mother MY mother would have been proud of. And I am proud of you, too. Congratulations on your mom and sister mending fences…what a wonderful gift for your mom this year!

a35362 honey…one day, only weeks after my mom passed, when I was still DEEP in grief…I was having a difficult day, and this woman walked past me at my office and…all of a sudden I felt such…PEACE. I couldn’t figure it out for a minute, until she came past me again and I realized she was wearing “White Shoulders” perfume. My mom always wore “White Shoulders” when I was a child. Just the smell took me back to my childhood…back to the time when I could climb up onto my mom’s lap and no matter what was wrong in my world was okay because my mom was there. I understand.

Oh, and I think she knows. I truly believe that. Just because she isn’t across the table from you doesn’t mean you can’t talk to her, tell her all the things you need to tell her. She may not be here to answer…but I believe she will hear you. Love doesn’t die.

My darling wring. I LOVED what you shared about the card! One time I gave my mom a birthday card …it had a cute little purple monster on the front, said Happy Birthday. Inside it said…“From your little monster, with love.” She loved it, showed it to everyone who came anywhere near her for weeks. She carried that card to church in her BIBLE, for heaven’s sake! And pulled it out and showed everyone who said hello to her. Okay, now I am crying too.

I am so SO sorry, jools. This is so difficult, such a very hard year for you. Please email me if you want to talk. I see your email is listed, so I am going to email you with my address. I care, and I want to help if I can.

Ice Wolf…I hardly know what to say to you, honey. You are such a wonderfully loving and giving person, and have always been so very kind to me. I know one thing for sure, your mom IS proud of you. And she DOES know that you are fulfilling her wish and dream for you. As the song says, our moms are just a breathe away from us…they will always live on in our hearts because…because they didn’t move INTO our hearts after they died, they established themselves there so many years ago. And they will never leave.

Just one more thing here. I appreciate and take into my heart with gratefulness all the very generous and kind and loving things you all have said to me, here and elsewhere. But my mom would have been the very first to say to me…“Cheri, all these people have been so very KIND about you…but you and I both know you are not even anywhere NEAR where you should be. How can you become a better person? Figure it out and work on it, honey.”

[sub]Of course, if any of you had ever criticized me to her, she would have verbally ripped your guts out. She was THAT kind of person, too. :smiley: Again, this is the fabric of love. Loving someone and wanting them to be the very BEST person they can be, and finding a way to encourage them to BE the best person they can be.[/sub]

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I knew I shouldn’t have opened this sniff . One of the reasons I’m glad I changed my work schedule to 4/40 is that I wasn’t at work today. My work unit has a Mother’s Day lunch the Friday before Mother’s Day; unfortunately they have it in a cleared area near my cubicle so it’s hard for me to ignore it.
My Mom died sixteen years ago after a series of heart attacks; typically, she had not mentioned to any of us that she had been having heart problems. She spent her last two weeks in a coma. I had visited her a few days earlier and spent an hour sitting by her bed telling her how things had been going for Mrs. L & I; the last thing I said to her was “You stay out of trouble now” (family joke).
The worst thing about losing her was how it affected my wife. Her mother had died when she was a child, and her and Mom had grown very close. (When we announced our engagement to the family Mom had practically knocked me over to hug her and welcome her to the family, leaving me standing there saying, “Uh, Mom, remember me? Firstborn?”)
Even after all this time, something will remind me of her - hearing a joke that I first heard from her, buying marigolds to plant in front of the house - and I think I lucky I was to have had her. And I try not to think about how mad I was that she had to go so soon.

Hi, Mom.

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Thanks for the great link. I’m getting weepy. I lost my Mom in 96. She had a lot of health problems most of her life, but she died from staph aureus sepsis at age 57. A great lady who never let her handicaps get her down – they slowed her down a little, but she would just keep going. She put up with a lot of nonsense from me in my youth and never lost her cool.
I have dreams about her where she’s still alive – they are very vivid dreams. I wake up partly still in the dream and expect the phone to ring and hear her voice saying, “What’s up kid? I was just thinking about you.”

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beerchick What an awesome tribute to the person you are…I know you must have been a wonderful daughter if your mom-in-law loved you so much. Let’s face it, it isn’t all that often that a woman truly loves the woman her son chooses. Your mom must be very proud of the daughter she raised.

And I feel your pain, honey…mourning your mother, and now the mom you grew to love. I hope you have a wonderful husband, who can hold you and understand. It isn’t easy to love…it is so much harder to lose.

** jlzania**, I am so sorry. I wish so much that I could help you in your grief. I know I can’t, all I can do is to tell you that I miss my mommy too. Just like you miss your mom. It is just so …see, I can’t even formulate words here. You have my prayers and best positive thoughts. You ever want to talk about it, or about anything, please email me. I understand. I care.

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It’s so touching to read all of these messages. <sniff>
This is for the mother-in-law I never knew. She died just six months before I met the man I would later marry.

Thanks, Anna, for raising such a wonderful son. Thanks for giving him to me.

Love,
Christine