Prompted by the current thread asking for men’s opinions about blow jobs, and because I’m always trying to learn more about how women think - what constitutes a good vs. bad blow job for the ladies?
Please mention external factors, such as the type of man you are with, or the actions that make for a positive experience, things like how oral sex fits into foreplay and the entire sexual relationship. But also include the subjective factors: things like attraction, feelings of closeness, arousal, fantasy, any positive feelings at all.
Male dopers, feel free to add things that your female friends and significant others have told you.
Hygiene is pretty darn obvious. Keeping myself well trimmed as well. Apparently women appreciate a mouth full of hair as little as I do.
I’ve had mixed reactions to being circumcised (not being to common here in Sweden). Almost all reactions have been positive (been told it looks nicer and feels cleaner), though some girls have to be taught how to satisfy a guy without a foreskin.
In my experience it’s about 50/50 whether asking a girl to go down on me turns her on or off. I’ve always been taught never to ask, learnt recently that at least a few of the girls I’ve dated enjoy being told what to do once in a while. So do I on the other hand, so why should I be surprised?
There are wildly popular fad news stories that youngsters do this a lot. Ask the question where the legal youngsters congregate. (I’ve no idea where legal youngsters congregate. There was a poll with early results showing not too many on these boards.)
For me, I’ve got a bad jaw and can’t do BJs for as long as I’d like to be able to do them. Like, I have to take the guy’s johnson out of my mouth and flex my jaw a bit (while I switch to licking or something) before I continue. I feel like if I could sustain a bit longer with it in my mouth, I would be better.
That being said, I do really enjoy giving them. Cleanliness is key for sure. I don’t mind not trimming as much but the last guy I was with was trimmed and it was a real treat.
I don’t particularly give them with very casual partners. For me, at least, the action is a bit more intimate than intercourse.
I’m sort of weird about it because I like the power it gives me over a guy and it makes me feel dominant (which is weird cuz you’d think I’d like to be that way with a casual partner)…but I also enjoy doing it because I feel like it’s a really special gift to my guy - which I would suppose is a submissive impression of it.
I don’t remember how I felt about it with my past partners, but 2 partners ago the guy said “No one has ever made me cum from a BJ alone” and I took that as a challenge. I made him cum. I heard him brag to his friends about it. Super duper proud of that one
The last partner told me he’d never had one, so it became a regular thing. Apparently all his pals knew of this lack of experience on his part, and I became a bit of a hero. Score another one for me!
One of the things that makes it fun for me is seeing, hearing, and feeling the enjoyment a guy gets from it. Conversations are nice, but it’s nothing next to the nonverbal feedback-- moans and gasps, muscle tension, hand squeezing, the silly-looking facial expressions, etc. It’s hot, and it makes me feel good to see I’ve made my guy feel good.
Unfortunately, most guys have practiced years of stealthy masturbation, sometimes by necessity, and have learned too well to stifle any expression of pleasure. So until he comes, I may as well be blowing a mannequin for all the feedback I get.
So, unless we’re in a semi-public place or there are people in the next room, let loose a little. Having fun? Let me see it! It doesn’t make it a bad BJ if you don’t, but it certainly makes it more fun and memorable for me if you do.
One caveat: Gently thrusting while holding my head is good. Abruptly shoving your dick down my throat is not.
I hadn’t thought that the lack of positive feedback might come from years of having to keep it quiet…
I like everything about his body and paying close attention to his special friend is wildly arousing for me. I like him to talk to me…I’m such a bad girl but I do this so well. I like my hair handled. I like directions…more this or that. I’m super lucky—he can finish for me and then go on to finish me.
Heh. I came in here just to say, “For the love of god, keep your hands off my head.” But if I’ve got my hand around your dick, and so can keep you from inadvertently choking me, it’s fine, I guess. I like to use my hands elsewhere, though, so I need to be able to control my head. Even a hand resting on my head can feel a little suffocating.
Besides that, I kind of feel that if you just want to thrust into a wet hole, I have another one that’s much better suited for that. If I’m giving a blow job, I’d rather you lie back and let me entertain you.
But by all means, do let me know what you like or want more of, and feel free to show your enjoyment.
And yes, please keep it clean, guys - and that includes your asshole.
