And you are. Everyone in the Have You Ever Been Called Ugly thread whose picture I’ve seen can reasonably be described as Hella Cute.
So let’s hear it. When did you finally realize you were as hot as you are?
For me, it was shortly before I moved out. I had just put on some nice clothes and was doing my hair and shaving for a night out or something. Suddenly, I looked at myself in the mirror, and -
oh my god!
I have cheekbones! And my face isn’t really that big puffy circle I thought it was! And this shirt makes me look like I have pecs!
Oh my god, girlfriend, (I said to myself,) you look fabulous!!
And it kept on going from there. Now I have a photo of myself that looks as good as I think I do. See it here: http://www.facelink.com/bozhemoi
Well dude, I’m not gay, but if I were, you would be so my type!
For me it was when I got sick of people calling me names and picking on me and shaved myself a mowhawk, bleached half of it and spiked it. I tore the crap out of all my clothes, scrawled obsenities all over them and put roofing nails through the eyelets of my combat boots. Oh, and I got a few tattoos.
People stopped calling me names. Nobody picked on me.
My mom was the only one who thought I looked ugly. But she still loved me anyway.
Come to think of it, that was about the time I lost my virginity and started to get laid…
C’mon, you guys. You’re not ugly, you’re all good-looking…(I don’t see a picture of you, dewt, but you gotta be cute…all dopers are.) And besides, it’s all subjective, anyway.
matt_mcl–you’re a cutie…why’d it take you so long to figure that out?
pepperland girl–all I can see in your picture is the side of your face, but I think you’re pretty. Especially that happy smile.
drain bead–if you’re not gorgeous, you’re darned close.
silent rob–gimme a break, guy. You look good to me and you’ve got a nice smile.
Me? I don’t think I’m gorgeous, but I’m pretty enough for your average, every day purposes. No supermodel, but happy enough with the way I look, for the most part.
I’ve never thought I was “ugly”. I never said I thought that way. Other people have said as much but I never thought so. No, I really don’t think I’m model material, but I’m happy-ish with my physical appearance.
I’ll never be “gorgeous”. I think I look pretty crappy most days. But I no longer believe I look ugly. On a good day, at the right angle, I may pass for “cute”.
I remember a kind woman, a co-worker, who clarified this whole issue for me. We worked at this store, where people milled in and out all day. I was making some casual comment about how I was ugly, and this co-worker said, “Look around you. I think if you compare yourself to the whole of humanity around you, you can consider yourself to be attractive.”
I think what she meant by that was, there are all kinds of people, and some of them are pretty funky-looking. No, not ugly, but some people almost seem to go out of their way to not look too attractive. I, at least, made some attempt. (I happen to believe that most people can look attractive if they try. I don’t mean - lots of makeup, an exhaustive beauty routine or some torturous diet. Maybe just not wearing too-tight clothes, unflattering clothes, or too much makeup.)
Anyway, what this dear woman said got through. “Attractive” is such a general term, and really can apply to most people.
I did however, quit buying into the “you’re ugly” crap. I took a good look around. I’m average. There are people fatter, skinnier, taller, shorter, better dressed, worse dressed, etc. I fit right in the middle. I realized that I have good hair, good teeth, a good complexion and that what I had wasn’t bad. Yes, I look better with makeup(cause I’m pale), but I’m not ugly and to tell you the truth, I’ve never met an ugly person…at least not physically ugly. I’ve met some pretty ugly people, but that was what they were on the inside…no matter what they looked like on the outside.
I realized that I’m not butt ugly when i got out of high school and went to college. Getting away from the people who had screwed with my head since elementary school did wonders for me.
Self image goes a long way in improving your looks. When I didn’t take care of myself, and always walked with my head down (literally), I didn’t look that good. Now I know that while I might not be drop dead gorgeous, I’m not bad looking at all.
I’m not ugly or beautiful, I’m just me which is how I like it. I went through a phase where I thought I was the ugliest person on earth. Then I met someone who was gorgeous who was the ugliest person on earth.
I don’t know about anyone else, but when I left high school and went to college I made the mistake of trying to let sex substitute for love or effection. You know the drill…“Wow…all of these people, and they don’t know me from Adam (or Eve as the case may be), and some of them even think I’m not stupefyingly unattractive! I’d better sleep with them while they’re still deluded!”
Took me two years, but I finally got over THAT.
I still don’t consider myself overwhelmingly attractive, though I do have my good days. Over the last couple of months I have had my ego stroked in unbelievable ways by five different people, so I have to assume I’m not hurtin’ in the looks department.
Me too, and it fundementally changed my life and my views on ‘ugliness’ and ‘beauty’. So much so that I was tempted to start a pit thread on this subject. I can’t stand to hear truly beautiful people call themselves ugly.
About the same time I submitted my pic. Just kidding. Actually the way I see it, most of the time I am pretty average. I jump to above average when i get all dolled up (see pic), but it’s not like I walk around day to day looking like that. Some days I attract a lot of attention, other days I could blow up and I don’t think anyone would notice.
I sent my picture to the people pages on 8/7/00, and they haven’t updated the pages since. How am I supposed to take that? But if you click on the “www” link below, you’ll be able to see me… Let the crush threads begin.
Whether or not I think I’m ugly or gorgeous is of no consequence. One thing I’ve learned is that people don’t want to hear it. Almost everyone thinks they’re unattractive in some way, it’s just a matter of finding someone to see the attractive part of you (something I’m looking for, btw. Love me! Love me!).
¿De qué estás hablando, girlfriend? Is your mirror faulty? Or are you impugning Satan’s impeccable taste?
