Read the diary. It contains the answers you seek.
Big heads. They’ve already been, you know.
Call wife on cell phone while she is out of town. Do this a few times. Then have sister call husband on his cell phone. Examine the times and locations of the calls when they come in on the bills.
I’ve read the diary. It runs from March '09 to March '10. No mention of my wife in any way. Mostly “inner thoughts,” about the nature of life and work and such, sketches, book quotes and Steve Covey-like self-improvement lists.
You should not only read the diary but you should keep possession of it. Hide it in a secure location not in your home. If your wife or BIL get their hands on it again after they find out you are aware of it’s existance, the diary is going to dissappear for good.
Now it’s time for **Wilbo523’**s plan:
- Read the diary
- Call the BIL and ask him if he is missing his diary. If he says “yes”, then tell him that you found it in your house, and ask him if he knows how it possibly could have ended up there.
- Tell your wife that while you were putting away the laundry you noticed BIL’s diary in her drawer. Ask her how it ended up there. If her story doesn’t match up with BIL’s story, ask her why BIL say’s differently.
So that’s … Weird. I was going to weigh in seconding the possibility that he gave it to her, hoping she would read his soulful pinings and realize she too had feelings for him, but now that you have read it, I don’t know what to say. How could it have ended up in her underwear drawer?
Maybe it fell out of his bag while they were boinking in a hotel room or backseat of a car and she found it after he left. Needs to give it back but tried to hide it in a safe place until she could do so. Didn’t worry too much about it being found since the contents are innocuous.
So…you BIL is sharing his inner thoughts about the nature of life and work and such with your wife.
I just about suggested starting an affair with his wife but…no. Don’t do that. Time to get a red sports car.
That actually puts my mind a little more at ease. Is it possible that she has kept it in her drawer since March? Has she seen him since then?
It could be that she’s just waiting to see him to return it to him. Doesn’t explain how she got it in the first place, though.
What… he shouldn’t boink his sister?
Am I a bad person for being disappointed that the journal didn’t contain something more amoral and salacious? Don’t answer that.
Oh, but they say the best revenge is porking your own sister…
ETA: Wow, I must type really slow.
It’s a trap!
It just seems like a weird thing for your BIL to be carrying around with him. Especially if he hasn’t written in it since March. So it seems likely that he gave it to her for some reason, and she hid it from you for some reason. Did it seem like pages could have been missing? Maybe post-March?
There could be some legitimate reasons. It has sketches in it. Maybe he likes to carry it around in case he sees something interesting he might want to sketch. (I’ve done that.) Maybe he carries it around because he might have a deep thought while not at home and wants to write it down before he forgets it. (Jack Handy probably did that.) Maybe he wants to have his self improvement lists handy.
They’re having an affair. They’ve had deep conversations, he’s talked to her about his journal/diary and she asked to read it so he let her. Now she doesn’t think he’s as deep and sensitive as she once did and doesn’t want to admit to him that she’s read it yet to avoid hurting his feelings. Or maybe she wants to have it to feel close to him.
Either way, if they’re not fucking then they’re having an emotional affair but I think it’s both.
So you said currently your wife is out of town?
Did we know where the BIL currently is?
sj15010, Please read the above again, as I believe it’s the best post in the thread so far.
Put the diary back where you found it and say nothing to your wife about it. Do Not confront anybody until you’ve got piles of evidence that can’t be explained away with lies. If you think your sister can avoid confrontation as well, you may want to enlist her as a co-conspirator to gather the goods on your BIL. But if you accuse them or even question them, you can bet they’ll cover their tracks but good.
Oh, and get a lawyer yesterday.
This again. Can we have it read aloud in Morgan Freeman’s voice? Everything is exponentially awesomer when read in his voice.