I have a good friend who is very outgoing and happy most of the time, but has recently confided in me about some struggles she’s had with a relative passing away this summer. As we’ve talked, it’s emerged that she still has trouble coming to terms with her own father having passed away several years ago, while she was in her mid-twenties.
She never really talked about her dad except in passing, until this past week when she opened up for the first time with me on the subject and talked about his personality, the things he liked, etc. All throughout her tone was happy and she seemed glad to talk about him . . . except I noticed that she would frequently slip into the present tense. "My dad likes . . . " "My dad says . . . " But other times she’d revert back into past tense, and she’s never seemed to imagine that he’s still alive or anything.
I was just curious how common this might be, and whether it’s a sign of something to be concerned about.