I’m nearly 60, widowed for nearly 10 years, work from home in a very rural environment in an area with no family members close by. I definitely have to work harder at having friendships – but it’s not that difficult.
Meet Up is a lifesaver, maybe literally one day. I joined a group with common interests (Center for Inquiry - Skeptics, so mostly atheists), and now have quite a lovely collection of friends upon whom I can call for most anything. We get together frequently for dinner parties, card games, weekly coffee and almost everything in between.
I joined a neighborhood women’s group. We meet monthly for a potluck at someone’s home, sometimes raise money for a local charity but mostly just hang out and jaw about neighborhood happenings. I met most of my neighbors through this group, and that’s a nice thing.
Also available for rural dwellers are grange halls. There are 2 that are quite active in my neighborhood and I drop in periodically to keep up with the happenings. If I’m not careful, they’ll recruit me to help with no end of local festivals and such like! If I lived in town, I might check out the local Lion’s, Elk’s or Rotary clubs.
There is one neighborhood cafe where the folks hang out for coffee and conversation, so that’s another option, though not one I have exercised much. Too busy.
I learned long ago that to have good friends, you have to be a good friend. I entertain regularly, at least once or twice a month. If someone is in need, I try to offer my help before the person has to ask for it.
I’m comfortable with being on my own and so far, I’m able to take care of my place, my livestock and all the rest. But when the day comes that I need to move closer to town and proximity to the friends I have made, I won’t hesitate. Meantime, I do consider myself fortunate to have friends I can call on for help when I need it.