The list really isn’t that enlightening. Just common sense if you happen to be in that situation.
True, but among people who find themselves in that situation, I suspect that common sense is in short supply.
they’re talking about dating. not cheating on your wife or husband.
hasn’t anyone ever been in a situation where you meet two people in the same week/month and date both of them?
what, if you go out on a second date with someone, you’re suppose to cut off the rest of the world?
Well, the clear implication is that you’re lying to one or both of them – i.e., don’t date two coworkers or costudents. You’re trying to date them both without them finding out you’re dating someone else. That IMO is the problem.
If I’m “dating” I may date several guys at once (or, rather, in a row), but it’s unlikely any of 'em are going to get any nookie, and I don’t consider myself to be “seeing” any of them.
But if I’m in a relationship or “seriously dating” or “seeing” someone, I’m not going out with someone else too.
And the key thing for me is: The guys know it. I don’t make any bones about seeing other people if I am, and I don’t pretend to be in an exclusive relationship if I’m not. That’s the thing that bugs me about that stupid list – not the “dating several women at once” or “dating only one woman at a time,” which is, after all, a judgment call and a matter of taste, but the lying to them.
You shouldn’t be sneaking around like a dirty dog, that’s all, whether you’re with one woman or twenty.
JdeMobray, did you perhaps miss the part of that list that indicates you’re deliberately NOT TELLING the other woma/en involved?
I’d wonder if you missed the part of Ginger’s post where she said all four men knew, but you must have read that, because you quoted it…
Fuck. I have a difficult enough time trying to get ONE girlfriend at once, let alone two. Anyone who is shagging two women at a time is just fucking greedy.
Heh, considering I’ve nailed quite a few people on the first date, including two of the three long term relationships I ever had in my life, I think this whole thread is horse shit.
Dating, sex and commitment have nothing to do with one another. I’ve fucked people who I never dated. I’ve dated people I never fucked or committed to.
I’ve fucked multiple people in succession.
I agree with the dishonesty thing. If you know they’d have a problem with it, then you’re being a prick. Up until I got married I told everyone without fail that I would fuck other people, and I did.
It’s better to be honest about it.
But if you are just dating and everyone involved knows there is no commitment, neither fucking them, nor dating others without telling them is inappropriate. Dating is testing someone out to see if you’re interested in more than just dating them. There is 0 commitment involved in dating.
Erek
Actually, I prefer 3, but it’s hard enough just getting one…
Point taken (but I disagree a bit when you say that dating, sex, and commitment have nothing to do with one another… but that my opinion… YMMV.)
I guess what really twisted my shorts when I read that link last night was the implied assumption that all guys NEED to know how to lie well in their dating lives. My opinion is that there is no need to lie at all! If you are going to date more than one person, be honest about it… allow the women (or men) you are dating to know that you aren’t serious about them yet. That seems to me to be simple human decency. And if you are having sex with more than one woman at the same time, doubly so in these times! Let each of the women you are dating KNOW so that they can decide for themselves if they want to put their own health at higher risk.
For the record, when I first dated Astrogirl, I was already dating another woman (if you can call 2 or 3 dates dating, that is… we had never even held hands or kissed yet… Koreans tend to take these things a little slower…). Both of them knew that I was dating other people; and, in fact, when I decided to exclusively date Astrogirl, the first woman took her aside and gave her a talking to! “He’s a good person, don’t hurt him, etc.”
I’d need a full time staff to pull that off. Dating ONE girl is hard enough.