My dear Aunt Mllie has passed, and the services are Saturday. It’s okay, she was ninety something and lived a full happy life. I’m meeting my sister there for the funeral, and she asked me to send some flowers from my Mom, her sister-in-law. (I deal with all Mom’s business.) So I’m ordering from an online florist who wants to know who I’m sending them to. Is the deceased the actual recipient* (*required field), or do I address them to the daughter who is arranging things? They will be sent directly to the church where the services are. This may sound like a silly question, but I just don’t want to look stupid, right? I asked Sis, but she said she had not thought of it and had no idea. I told her I knew some nice people who probably would know.
So, what does anyone think?
Just pick up the phone for this one and let the customer service rep figure it out.
When I have sent flowers for a funeral before in a smallish town I just told the florist the name of the deceased and let them figure it out from there. May not work for major cities.
When I’ve done that, I usually send the flowers to “The (deceased’s last name) Family” at (place where funeral will be held).
I just list it as " Bob Jones Funeral" or just “Bob Jones” I’ve often seen the envelopes pinned to arrangements have notes that say “for Jane Jones” or “for Jim Jones family,” particularly on live plants or other things people buy now instead of flowers.
What I usually do is call the funeral house, and ask them which florist they would recommend. Then I call the florist and tell them the funeral home and ask what they would suggest. I’ve never had anyone complain about my offerings, and on those times that I’ve been to the funeral…I’ve been happy.
Hi there, Florist here. 
When you place your order give the name of the deceased. That way everyone knows which service the flowers are for no matter where it goes.
Most funeral homes are preparing for more than one service at a time. It’s not uncommon to have two unrelated corpses with the same last name.
Flower shops are the same way. We’ve ended up with two services in different places with the same family name. It saves everyone time and multiple phone calls to bereaved relatives (which dead person was yours, again?).
As far as etiquette, while funerals are said to be for the living, the flowers are a tribute to the dead. That’s the other reason the name of the deceased is usually on the card.
The recipient should be the funeral home or venue where the service is being held.
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