And yet, she passed cages filled with child slaves, and did nothing. And she watched peasants being murdered and their belongings taken, and did nothing. She loved the man who caused it all. The women were in the process of being raped, and I suspect that touched too much of a nerve for her. But it doesn’t matter - tyrants have always have had the capacity to be merciful and kind when it suited them, and I’m sure they believed it at the time. Caring for people right in front of you is a good way to tell yourself that you are a good person while people you can’t see are being slaughtered by your actions.
My son had never seen Game of Thrones, so I’m now watching it with him. It’s fun watching again with someone who’s never seen the show. Anyway, today’s episode was the one where Daeneris is almost poisoned, and Khal Drogo responds by promising her the seven kingdoms. The scene is on Youtube, so you can see Daeneris’ face as Khal Drogo says:
And how does our child-loving Khaleesi respond to Khal Drogo’s promise to rape Westerosi women and enslave Westerosi children? Well, it seemed to me that she was looking at him with a combination of pride, love, and lust. She didn’t look horrified, she didn’t later say, “No, that’s not what I want! I want to rule through love.” Nope. If Khal Drogo had lived, he would have taken his horde across the sea and raped and murdered until she was on the throne. And she was totally okay with that. And she still loved the guy deeply, knowing that he was one of the biggest monsters on the planet, being the biggest, baddest leader of a culture that exists ONLY to murder men, rape women, and enslave children.
There’s no Doubt that Daeneris was capable of compassion. She’s not a sociopath. I’m sure it truly hurt her to see the body of the boy her dragon killed. I’m sure her reaction when seeing those women being raped was honest. But tyrants through history have been able to compartmentalize and separate their feelings from ‘what must be done’. Hell, they even showed us that King Robert, who used to be just as moral and honorable as Ned, was broken down by the years of compromises and hard decisions to the point where he could easily order the death of a girl he’d never met and who was currently no threat to him and probably never would be. Just in case. But that doesn’t mean he couldn’t have true feelings for his family, or that he would coldly murder someone in his presence.
In the same way, soldiers have been able to go to war and commit unspeakable acts from a peacetime perspective, including bombing buildings where they know children are, or bombing entire cities full of civilians. Then they can come back to civilian life and risk their life to save a puppy. Humans are capable of compartmentalizing these things - we probably had to learn to do that to stay alive.