I’m just curious what your feelings are about the idea of having sex with someone of the opposite gender. Does the idea gross you out? Is it an intriguing prospect? Are you curious about it, or not the least bit interested? Would you ever try it? Do you think it could be more sexually pleasurable (in a physical sense, anyway)? Do you find the opposite sex’s anatomy interesting in the least bit?
(For the record, this is not a politically-motivated question. I’m just interested to hear your perspective.)
I have tried it. I didn’t hate it - I liked some parts of it - but mostly it was just meh and I was going along with it just because I liked the man and wanted to make him happy. I guess it’d be the equivalent of a plain grey concrete wall instead of a beautiful mural full of life and interest. Except the penis bit - they are disgusting and I’m glad for straight men that there are so many straight women happy to play with them.
Grosses me out, is not in the slightest intriguing, not curious and not interested. Wouldn’t try it.
Physically, it would probably be ok because well, it’s sex but I still have no interest. I do love the female form, but I like seeing it clothed. I feel about lady parts in much the same way as scifisam2009 feels about mens.
Spent some time in my teens pretending to be straight. I was convincing enough to have a few girlfriends. Having sex with women was an unpleasurable chore. Women do not turn me on so it was very difficult even as a teen to maintain an erection and even harder to achieve orgasm. A lot of my time having straight sex my mind was concentrating on other things.
The female form is curious to me. Not sexually interesting but can be beautiful. The lady parts gross me out. Memories of cunnilingus make me feel sick so I don’t like to think about it.
My stock answer is that to me, sex with a woman is like Finland. I’m sure it’s a very nice place and the people who live there like it a great deal, and while I can’t rule out the possibility that I might go there someday for a visit, I don’t have any particular desire to do so, so I’m not really planning on it.
You probably need to realise that most gay people actually have had sex at some point in their earlier years with someone of the opposite sex, so it isn’t some mysterious foreign land that you suggest. I hardly know any gay people who haven’t had at least some sexual contact with the OS - we call those that haven’t a ‘gold star’. The reasons for this are myriad but include teenage experimentation, lack of awareness of our true sexual desires, wanting to fit in etc etc. Point is, most of us have been there.
So, with this in mind, in answer to your questions (I’m a lesbian BTW):
Not exactly gross me out, but is distinctly unappealing. Bit like how I feel about eating peas - eating one won’t make me vomit, but I really don’t fancy the idea.
Not remotely, but then I have been there. The few ‘gold stars’ I know are vaguely curious, not in a ‘I’d like to try it’ sort of way, more in a theoretical/survey kinda sense.
Those who would probably already have.
It’s isn’t. I think sexual pleasure is about what pings the switches in your brain. Sex with men was always ‘meh’. It wasn’t until I had sex with a woman that my mind was blown. Having the right bits to put peg A into slot B isn’t important.
I find male bodies unappealing and generally unattractive and the idea of the penis pretty gross and comical, to be honest.
Never had sex with a woman and never wanted to.
Thus, I am one of those Gay guys who knows full well that most straight guys are not going to switch any more than I would - no matter how many beers.
I wouldn’t say it is “gross”, just have not an iota of interest.
I think heterosexuals should continue to have the right be be married and it is none of my business what they do in their bedrooms, although it does gross me out to see them holding hands and kissing in public - how dare they flaunt their sexuality where kids can see it!!
Can I also say that I certainly don’t find the idea of sex with a woman, or women’s bodies, “gross” or offputting or whatever.
I also definitely appreciate women’s physical beauty and have tastes in women, much like I have tastes in men, except that the sexual motive is absent.
The idea of intercourse with a woman doesn’t repulse me but it doesn’t interest me in the slightest. The idea of performing cunnilingus repulses me. I can tell you if a woman is hot but it’s completely objective information, the same way I can tell you whether she has a pretty singing voice. [Whatever-actress-is-currently-considered-the-hottest-in-movies] could strip naked and sleep next to me and my main concern would be that she not disturb my dogs.
I actually enjoy French kissing women strangely enough, but it’s more like practice than anything else- nothing stirs in me romantically.
Speaking of cunnilingus, gay men I know who have been married or otherwise had relationships at women didn’t like it but got good at it because it doesn’t require maintaining an erection. Most gay men I know who had sex with women also said they sometimes found it enjoyable but just not at all fulfilling and that it more confirmed the knowledge they were gay than it confused it.
I do have the notion that inside every gay guy is a sort of vestigial heterosexuality, which doesn’t mean latent desire to have sex with women but more of an “I know what kind of women I would be attracted to if I were straight”, though I’m not attracted to them now. I think if I were straight I would be very attracted to smart and curvy black women (such as Queen Latifah, who if rumors are true wouldn’t do either of us any good) and to attractive “ginger” women, though as a gay man I’m not usually attracted to chubby black men or to ginger guys. (Note: this is more like a phantom attraction, not an actual attraction.) I’ve wondered before if straight guys and straight women have any notion of what their type would be if they were gay.
Yes, I know exactly what kind of woman I’d be attracted to . . . and she’d be very similar to the kind of man I’m attracted to. And for many years when I was younger, I thought that what I really wanted was a man with a vagina. My partner convinced me to get rid of that idea.
Why not also ask straight people their feelings about the idea of having sex with someone of the same gender?
One of my gay male friends was once engaged (to a woman), and told me almost exactly this. He said he was mostly able to enjoy the physical stuff, but that there was never any “spark” – nothing like the connection he has with men.
What an interesting question! I’m a 38-year-old straight woman, and I spent my 20s in gay bars because my lesbian best friend wasn’t comfortable in straight bars. Two of the things I learned – and that are still true – are that I have zero interest in women sexually, and that the gay women who hit on me tend to be much more attractive than the straight men who hit on me (too bad ;)). Anyway, despite my “immersion” I’ve never really thought about what kind of woman would be my type, beyond some kind of primal understanding that it would never be a butch lesbian. Even thinking about it now, I still have no idea. Maybe because I don’t really have a type when it comes to men?
Somebody asked me that recently. As an ideal mind you ( like I’d have a chance scoring in that league ), your later in career Cary Grant/Sean Connery/George Clooney types, I think. Your distinguished alpha silverbacks, so to speak.
), your later in career Cary Grant/Sean Connery/George Clooney types, I think. Your distinguished alpha silverbacks, so to speak.