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Guys who practice putting in the office
Soda jerks
Macaroni
Crips
Dandies
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OK, OP, I’ll give it a shot. Although I am soon to turn 40, I’m still far too angsty for my liking, so I feel like you and I can relate. And here’s what I’ve learned: In your youth, you’ll spend an inordinate amount of time trying to “fit in” (which, in your case, seems to mean identifying the appropriate clique with which to conform), but, later in your life, you’ll discover that what makes people the most interesting (which is to say, cool) is how they are unique.
Do with that what you will. There won’t be some special time and place when you’ll necessarily become comfortable with who you are, but I can at least promise you that the worries you have right now about your masculinity are a waste of your time. Spend your energy cultivating your interests, without regard for how they might be perceived by others. It will pay dividends.
Add in “guys who love to talk in jargon” which would cover Pickup Artist (PUA), Guns and Ammo, Stereo Equipment Nerds, and various other behaviors. Not so much cultures or knowledge domains as behaviors.
I consider codes of conduct, as in the Boy Scout Creed or other similar. If you’re asking “What Is A Man?” well, as a woman… I prefer male codes of honor and so-called “masculine” virtues. They’re more straightforward.
Wanna be more macho and masculine? Step one is quit obsessing about this horseshit. Nothing is more “masculine” than not giving a crap what anyone else thinks.
So believe it, and you’ll grow out of worrying about these false views of “masculinity”.
I’d print out some of the highlights of your threads here and take them to therapy. Or send links to them to the counselor in advance of your appointment…
(Although then you risk them calling you with “SO sorry, your therapist’s been suddenly asked to give a TED Talk out of town…out of the country… in North Korea! During the Olympics, at a family emergency at an undisclosed location, for the Joint Chiefs of Staph infectious disease quarantine.”)
You guys should also be accepting of my posts a bit, too instead of arguing or criticizing them. Yes I will admit is a bit of an over-exaggeration to say all men are being pussified[particularly white men of course], shit white men generally speaking still run the sports world[You got rugby, soccer/football, baseball, auto racing, skateboarding, etc] and still run the political world too[you could say men in general in this case, but considering 80% of the world is developed, then that just takes the point of saying it] So I mean where is the pussification in that? Still, there is no denying though that this is happening.
What we are saying is that your belief that there are certain ways men are supposed to act and that if they don’t act that way, they are “pussified”, and that is a bad thing is idiotic bigoted misogynistic bullshit. We are arguing and criticizing your posts because your posts are repulsive.
Again, so what? These Japanese men have decided that they have other priorities rather than “looking masculine” and pursuing relationships. If they are happy with that and aren’t whining about it online like MRAs and incels and–frankly–you, then why are their choices any of your fucking business?
News flash for you: the world is vastly overpopulated. Vastly. A declining birth rate is a very good thing, and it would be a very good thing if every country in the world had a declining birth rate. (I don’t know what an ideal, long-term sustainable population for a healthy Earth would be, but I’m guessing south of 1 billion.)
Because it don’t effing matter. You got yourself so worked up about someone else when you need to work on yourself. I am gonna say it again, you can’t compare Apples and oranges. You need to be you, no one can do you better than you. You really can’t turn yourself into someone else. You can improve YOU and you can learn to be a better YOU, but that’s it. There is no magic formula. There is no gimmick. That’s all fake. Think about the old guy wearing a toupee and dressing young, he’s not fooling anyone.
You can use all the big words and catch phrases and psuedo-science-y terms that you find on the internet, but we see right through you. You are insecure young man who is worried about his gender identity who has family issues and social fitting-in problems. Get to your therapy, talk to your Mom, or another trusted adult. Sort out your color insecurities, do your homework, balance out your hobbies, join a club at school, teach yourself to play chess, and for gods sake work on the english-written language. Before you open another thread please, please pin down the exact question you want an answer to.