Step away from the computer and get some fresh air. You need it.
If you want attention, SDMB isn’t the place for you. And you CLEARLY want attention.
My condolences with the girl troubles, though.
Well then, I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt, and leave any other threads out of this one.
As far as questioning her any more when she comes to get her stuff, I would suggest no. I doubt any good will come from it. It’s going to be extremely tense anyways, no need to rub salt in each other’s wounds.
As for the future, it’s going to suck a lot for a while. Waking up alone, seeing couples at the park, hearing a mutually loved song on the radio, etc… it’s all going to reopen that feeling of hurt. But (and it’s a big but), it does get better with time. Really.
Yes, you did. And you’d better not do it again, if you value your posting privileges.
From where I am, that’s pretty durn young.
If you think this may actually happen, a restaurant is the place for it.
I remember what a hell the pain was when it was fresh and I was young and didn’t know that it would go away.
Oh no! It’s Mr. Creosote!
Kurdt,
Sorry about the girl troubles, but I’m with Jodi on this. Right now, you want closure, later on though, that closure could turn into a debilitating self doubt. Of course the usual applies here, “there are other fish in the sea” “Time will heal” and all that rot, but above all, this is a learning experience.
You’ve got to see it that way, or it can drive you barking mad.
Let it hurt, but don’t let it consume you, because it will, without any reservation.
Most importantly though, regarding the folks on the board who are ripping you…
From what I’ve seen of your posts, you’re reaping what you’ve sewn. Much as it pissed you off to have others bust your balls, you’ve got a chance to use this as another lesson, perhaps being less of a hothead, will allow you to better deal with whatever caused your current chick problems.
Best of luck.
I been there before -
"Because"= Her new boyfriend thinks you take up too much of her time.
“Kurdt, that pretty much sucks. Sorry to hear it.”
Micheal Ellis has posted to my thread.
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Asking “Why?” in response for every statement is something a three year old would do.
“Don’t put a fork into the electric socket.”
“Why?”
“You might get electricuted.”
“Why?”
“There are these things called electrons and they will shock you.”
“Why?”
“Because I said so!!” smack upside the head
Good luck, and don’t act like a three year old.
Fuck off. I plainly stated that the words themselves were approximations of what we said.
You never did answer my question. Why would you post this here? Why should anyone here be sympathetic to your boring teen dramas? Go talk to friends, not to us. We’re here to fight ignorance, not help you work out your personal relationship failures.
If we are here to talk about personal relationship failures, get in line. We’ve all had them.
Did I ever tell you about Rosa Coletti? …
Eli, you’re being a bit of a jerk. Plenty of relationship threads get posted in the Pit.
Better now instead of getting married and losing half your shit plus making a monthly “I fucked up payment”, also known as alimony. Man, look at getting dumped as a license to do some serious ass tappin, not as a big disaster. I now understand the old saying about “If I knew then what I know now…”. Yikes.
Girl, what the fuck? You’re so damn fine. Smoove will caress your sweet curves and make you forget all your cares. I will take you to my apartment and bathe you in the purest of mineral water.
You will finally realize “what it means to be from Maine.”
Barry White will be playing on the stereo, the subwoofers making sweet, sweet love to his basso profundo. Or, if you do not care for the sensuous stylings of the late Mr. White, I will put on whatever you prefer. I have a fine selection of freaktastic music at my disposal.
And did I mention the oysters? There will be oysters. I will bring out a heaping plate of oysters and feed them to you. We will lock lips between bites. At that point, you will no longer be able to control your urge to sex me wild.
Girl, I want to ride you like a pony right here on the floor.
Damn, girl.
What the hell?
Now I have no one to love me.
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Kurdt, I’m sorry you’re having a hard time, but didn’t it occur to you that given your past behavior a) an unsympathetic response might have been a remote responsibility or b) “I’m sorry, I know I’ve been an asshole, but I really would like some help here” would have been a more appropriate as a reply?
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She chose the place so that you wouldn’t freak out. So she thought you would freak out - I assume she has some experience of you freaking out.**
You DID have communication problems. These problems were so bad that she didn’t even want to give a reason why she broke up with you. This could have been because she was scared of your reaction, or simply that she felt there was no point in discussing her reasons with you in a rational manner.
Until you acknowledge and deal with some of the issues governing your behavior, I suspect that these problems will recur in the future.
Good luck.
Oh my god! I nearly wet myself reading this…damn girl*, now i’m gonna have to go and read the whole ‘Schmoove’ archive at The Onion. Thanks!
*in no way implies you are a girl