I was at work yesterday (I work part time in retail), and I overheard a young girl telling her friend about what she got up to the previous night.
Basically, she was at a club of some sort, met a guy, they danced for a bit, they went back his place, and they had sex.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m fully aware this kind of thing goes on, to what extent I am not sure.
The thing that I picked up on with this particular girl was the care-free tone she used while telling the story. There didn’t seem to be any hint of regret, she giggled through parts of the story, etc.
I’d really like to know what the thought process is of young girls that do this sort of thing. Are they able to do it without feeling any hint of regret? Without feeling cheapened? I know of a couple of girls who have done this, but they’ve told me they did have feelings of regret about it. What about these girls that seem to do it without any ill-feeling at all? What’s their thought process?
In the young female demographic, are we approaching a situation in which the majority of young women are open to doing this kind of thing, without feeling bad about it?
And yes, I am asking via the angle of a girl’s perspective. Being a guy, I have a fair idea what the male thought process is in such a sitation :rolleyes:
And why should the girl’s perspective be any different than the boy’s, and why should she feel bad about it? Assuming she protected herself from pregnancy and STDs, why should the experience have been anything other than positive? What is she supposed to be regretting?
Then shouldn’t you be rejoicing that you overheard a girl not getting all anguished about it?
To answer the question in the OP though, I’m guessing that the girls’ thought processes are much the same as blokes the world over, to whit, they had a great night out dancing and laughing then topped the evening off with a magnificent orgasm WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED.
Oh, and yes, I know a LOT of young women and apart from those with orthodox religious backgrounds, all of them are fucking and smiling about it afterwards.
What’s the problem exactly? It’s her life she didn’t seem too traumatised from your own words. None of your business how she behaves in her own time. Also the conversation wasn’t for you so you shouldn’t be listening anyway.
You know I got into it with an old lady one time about this sort of thing.
This bar I used to frequent in my 20’s. I used to have quite the reputation as being a man whore.
The old lady starts to wag her finger at me; telling me what a piece of shit I am for “taking advantage” of these poor little girls. I then had to inform her that I wasn’t taking advantage of ANYBODY. Believe it or not, there are girls out there who just want to get laid!
The old lady had a hard time believing this. She just couldn’t fathom the idea that girls just want to get laid.
So maybe the paradigm has changed in the past couple of generations?
[shrugs] I don’t know. All I can say is I aint hate’n it!
You get dressed up, you go out, you dance, you’re horny.
You see someone attractive who makes you feel pretty, then makes you feel good physically.
You have sex, it’s fun.
You say goodbye.
If you’re not looking for anything more than sex, if you don’t expect it and you don’t want it, you don’t regret not having it.
Girls who feel cheap and used are the ones who ARE looking for an emotional connection and are disappointed when all they get is a physical one.
Oh Rilch, don’t you get the jist of this OP…they’re GIRLS, so they should be nice and chaste and oh so regretful of their naughty night-out. The boyz get a free-pass because, hey, that’s the natural way that blokes behave.
Girls have been brought up to think and act as independantly as their male peers. Some like to party. Once they look after themselves in the same way we expect males to, condoms etc. I don’t see the problem or why it even any of our business what people get up to in their spare time.
