If he is not single and hung out with you that long and kept it going after the pub closed he is either definitely single or a first rate asshole doing that with a woman if he already has a SO.
Besides, I would think after all that talk if he had a SO it would have come up in some fashion during the conversation.
As mentioned be yourself, whatever that is since anything else is counterproductive. If you are cool with nudging him along by all means do so. I would not be all over him…just play it cool and have fun. Say you had a good time. Flirt a little when the opportunity presents itself and see where things go.
Another one saying just go for it - what’s the worst that could happen? I mean, really? He says no and that now you asked him out he hates you and never wants to speak to you again, meaning you need to change shifts to avoid him, but how likely is that to actually happen? I definitely think that if there was someone else in the picture it would have come up within 5 hours worth of conversation.
Agree with the suggestion of inviting him out to a movie, that’s safely in the territory between “definite date” and “friends hanging out” so if can be whichever you want it to be.
I vote for take your time. Enjoy the magic. This is the best part!
He’s definitely into you, and he’s got to know you are in to him to. So keep flirting, keep up the long conversations, and the rest will come soon enough.
Thanks for the advice all, sorry for the absence (damn you broken laptop!). Wednesday at work he acted normal, so I 1) didn’t say anything that sounded good under the influence but actually sounded ridiculous and 2) it was definitely a non-date.
I went out with another girl from work Wednesday, and she liked the cafe so much she’s inviting everyone out there tonight. Another non-date, but at least I’ll have another chance to read his signals and a potential opportunity to ask him out on a real date.
Dont worry about the co worker thing,that was just a little bit of insurance against awkward pauses,if he thought that you were stalking him or something he’d have just made an excuse and turned you down.
But it could be that tomorrow he might feel a little shy just in case he’s not sure that you really like HIM so chat to him with the accepted implication that the second round is a definite fact.
This is what I was going to say. You can just do the group outing thing a time or two more and each time, engage him a bit more in conversation. I think it should become clear whether there’s promise for a full-blown date. Then maybe at the end of the next outing, when you’re walking out the door, hit him up for a movie or something. Good luck!!
Regarding the “Is he single?” question, I’d be a little bit astonished if a guy who had a girlfriend spent five hours talking one-on-one with you and never mentioned her. (Unless he’s a jerk who’s trying to cheat on his girlfriend, I suppose.) If you invite him to something else and he still doesn’t mention her, he’s officially a dope.
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