Ah, well, good whoosh then! 
Actually, as I do know what Oakminster is like I don’t think it was a whoosh, but I’m trying to put a positive spin on it in a messy thread.
Yeah, everything was fine
You bullied a guy you know is simply not equipped to defend himself. Bullies are cowards. You’re a douche because you don’t even realize what you’ve done. This board was one of the few things that made Quasi’s situation suck a little less, for a little while each day. You’ve taken that from him, poking him with a verbal stick to see him explode for the sake of your almighty ego. Your conduct was senseless, cruel, and evil.
I’m sorry, but if Quasi is so far gone from his condition that he can’t participate in discussions in a coherent and rational manner (and all that comes with that- including defending his attacks on others and ideological disagreements from other onto him), then perhaps whoever is caring for him needs to restrict his internet access. This is a message board- one where many a spirited discussion takes place at a rapid and constant pace. People here will attack your ideas and sometimes they will attack you. While I suppose that can venture into the arena of bullying when at its worst, we are all adults here and can leave whenever we please. Including Quasi.
And frankly, I think anyone acting like Quasi is some shell of a man, unable to defend his own words or stand up for them-- well, that’s a whole lot more insulting than any of the “bullying” that went on in this thread. Speaking about Quasi like he’s some child that needs protecting is far more degrading to someone than calling them a douchebag.
No kidding. Quasi might disagree, but I know if it were me, I’d rather be treated like a person than a piece of glass.
Frankly, I thought people should have dropped the argument and was rather :eek: at mhendo’s douchebag remark, but none of that was anything close to bullying. Words mean things. Don’t use them if you are going to use them wrong.
Nobody made him leave. He might be back, but if he is not, then honestly, it was clear that he could not continue to post here indefinitely. It’s a sad situation but no one drove him away.
No, I’m not being sarcastic. I wasn’t aware of the specifics of his condition. But I also don’t quite understand specifically how any of the comments in this thread made fun of him for his condition. Unless, I guess, what people are saying is that Quasi should always be handled with kid gloves.
I think the remark that set him off was “stupid old douchebag”, and I think it was the “stupid” part that did it. Quasi is losing control of his mind, which understandably frustrates him. Makes him feel “stupid” because he can’t remember things the way he always has. Being called “stupid” probably felt like having his nose rubbed in it. I also think that word choice was intentional, needlessly cruel, and says much about the character of the asshat that used it.
One argument in one thread does not constitute bullying.
Look, it’s been clear for a while that Quasi is having increasing difficulty participating here without running into problems. That sucks and I’m hardly happy about it (want to break your heart? Do a search on his posts from several years ago and observe the difference in posting style from then to now) but I think he made the right decision in taking a hiatus while he gets some things figured out. Whether it’s having someone monitor his SDMB time somehow, or adjusting medications, or what, I think it was a smart thing for him to do. He’s been very clear on multiple occasions that he doesn’t want people treating him like he’s made of glass. I think mhendo made a very deliberate decision to respect those wishes and post to him as he would post to anyone else who made the same comments, and I can’t find fault with that.
Yes.
Also, why the hard line false dichotomies for some people? No one needs to treat anyone else “like glass” or with “kitten gloves.” Just try to be patient and understanding. That is all. Not that fucking difficult. Or maybe it is.
Well, from reading mhendo’s subsequent explanations, it seems to me that his thought process went something like, “That post is ridiculous. I’m going to call that guy a stupid douchebag…wait, no, it’s Quasi. He has Alzheimer’s. I should probably go easy. Wait, no, I’m not going to treat him like a child. He says he doesn’t want that. I’m going to treat him like I treat everyone else! I’m going ahead with my douchebag post.”
To me that is a lot more defensible and understandable than “Ugh, I’m calling the Alzheimer’s patient a douchebag just because I can and I don’t give a shit about him.”
Maybe I’m putting words in his mouth here, but that is how his posts came across to me.
Uh huh. I have no problem with anyone pointing out that his argument is dumb, but I can’t imagine ever referring to anyone who I know is struggling with dementia as “stupid” and “old.”
Edit: I said I was done, and I am done for real this time. There’s nothing I can add to make my stance any clearer, or change anyone’s mind. If you don’t agree, then ah well.
What kind of scary world do you live in where they make gloves out of kittens?
I’m just hoping they make them out of *ex-*kittens.
Maybe they are tiny gloves for kittens.
Aww, now that’s adorable.
No more than oakhead’s interestingly reasoned post #169.
Maybe they’re gloves for forty kittens.
Did you accidentally give BigTard your password?
This sort of patronising bullshit is going to be far more harmful to Quasimodem that treating him as an equal, which is what he’s expressly stated he wants. White knighting anyone is retarded, but even more so when they’ve repeatedly asked for it not to be done.
Still, at least you didn’t claim to be a Klingon in that post, so it’s a slight improvement.