Blowback is a mode of operation, and has nothing- well, very little- to do with caliber.
Typically, it’s only used on smaller guns- .22s, .32s, .380, some cheap nines, etc, but if the gun is big enough (since only springs and inertia keep the bolt closed in a blowback) 9mm, .45 and others can be used.
Your “assault rifle” is probaly one of those tubular Sten-wannabe rifles, and thus is probably blowback.
Overall, this has to do with chamber pressure. Simply put, you need to keep the breech shut until the bullet has actually left the barrel and the pressure has dropped to somewhat safer levels.
If the chamber pressure is too high as the empty case is being extracted from the chamber, the pressure can blow out the thin brass once it’s no longer supported by the chamber wall.
Most handguns of 9mm and above use one variation or another of the Browning-designed short-recoil locking breech. The barrel has lugs at the top that engage recesses in the upper inside surface of the slide. The barrel is held immobile- when the gun starts to recoil, the barrel and slide move together.
After the assembly has moved backwards a little ways, a link, cam or pin forces the barrel to slide downward a bit- this disengages it from the slide, which is then free to continue rearward to extract the old case and chamber a new.
Clear your Ruger and cycle it by hand. Pull the slide back slowly and watch the barrel through the ejection port. It moves with the slide for a short distance, then at a certain point you’ll see it drop, then stop, and the slide is free to move back.
In a blowback, only the inertia of the slide combined with the mainspring tension holds the breech shut. For the lower-powered rounds, this is more than adequate. For a higher-powered round, 9mm and above seems to be the cutoff, the slide would have to be HUGE to help overcome the recoil impulse, and thus isn’t really practical.
Though as mentioned, a larger rifle has plenty of room for a large hammer/bolt/slide, so it can get away with a blowback operation. The Thompson (the infamous “Tommy gun”) in .45 ACP is effectively a blowback- though it has a bolt that weighs as much as some small complete handguns.
Now, as far as other options, for a ‘carry’ you might look into the S&W 3913. It’s a tiny DA single-stack 9mm. It’ll be lighter and considerably thinner than the P85, and the last time I shot one it was amazingly accurate. The bark of the round might actually be a little worse, being a slightly shorter barrel and a lighter gun, but a true carry gun is, as they say, carried a lot and shot very little.