Guys: does your hair stylist do this?

In My Humble Opinion
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Well, when I lived in the next county over, I regularly went to a female stylist that was very attractive and who always wore tank top sleeves and no bra. Her boobs were probably fake, so she could go braless and not look like a granola girl.

So, not only was the nipplage usually visible, but she would also frequently reach across my face with one arm or the other so I could see right down her sleeve.

Nothing was ever said, but I’m positive she knew what was happening… heck, she probably paid a lot of money for 'em, so why not show 'em off. They certainly kept her male clients coming back, me among them. And her tips probably got enlarged along with her chi-chi’s. (And she cut and styled rather well, in case you cared.)

After I moved to this county, I got a referral to a male stylist by my roommate. At this point I was looking for another female stylist with a similar, ahem, chairside manner. But I needed a cut so I went…

And the guy repeatedly pressed his crotch against my hands as they lay on the arm of the chair. First I had to move one hand off of the arm, and then the other to avoid his attempt to flirt with me using his frank and beans.

I never went back.

Now I’m married and my wife cuts my hair, since as a ponytail-wearer I just need the split ends trimmed and the nape sheared. I asked her to do it naked once and she looked at me like I was nuts.

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Former hair stylist here. For me, any touching was completely accidental, and often could not be avoided. I have relatively short arms, and at the time I worked as a hair stylist I was heavier, and my chest larger, and it just got in the way at times.

Friends have asked me similar questions. From that I realized that in the daily life of the average patron, they do not have physical contact with people with whom they do business. Sales clerks, cashiers, waitresses, receptionists don’t usually touch their customers, much less run their fingers through their hair for 30 minutes. Stylists spend their day touching 10 -15 different people, so we are desensitized to that physical contact, and generally aren’t aware of brushing up against someone. But for the patron, they notice it, because it is not the type of contact they normally have.

There may be some “Gentlemen” type salons that a hairstylist may be more apt to purposely rub up against a patron to get a bigger tip, but 99% of the stylists I know wouldn’t do that on purpose. Just comes with the job. And 99% of the patrons don’t purposely lean into the hairstylist’s chest, caress the stylist’s leg, or beat off under the shampoo cape. But every now and then…

43

I’m gay, and the guy who does my hair is CBS (cute but straight). There’s some body contact, but never enough.

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Thanks, Grits! I was hoping a stylist would weigh in.

I’m finding this all quite fascinating, y’all. I’m a small woman with very simple easy-to-cut hair, which perhaps is why I’ve never experienced any brushing up - intentional or otherwise.

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Glassy, glad to have helped!

I just wanted to add one more thing as to why this “phenomenon” happens more to some than others. The body type of the stylist will make a difference. As I mentioned before, short arms and large chest, there will be some rubbing going on, can’t be helped.

But the body type of the patron also makes a difference. A small woman like yourself will have only the top of her shoulders exposed while sitting in the chair. This will make any contact very unlikely. But a man, or tall woman will have quite a bit of back and all of the shoulders exposed, thus making contact very likely. And a man (or woman) with very broad shoulders will have even more chance of being brushed against. Added to this, some people tend to lean forward in the chair, and sit with their shoulders rounded, they won’t be touched as much as the people who tend to lean all the way back in the chair with their shoulders pushed back.

So guys, those of you wishing for more breast-against-the-back action, choose busty hair stylists with short arms, and remember to sit up tall, lean back, and make your shoulders as wide as possible. :wink:

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I’m a tall girl with broad shoulders, and I have noticed this boob-pressing phenomenon many a time. I have never had my hair cut by a man. A week or so ago when I got my hair cut short again, the stylist definitely leaned against me. The funny thing was that she was not particularly attractive (though she did have great hair :smiley: ), but the contact made me feel a bit…let’s go with “edgy” for now. It was nothing to my last haircut experience, however. The stylist was very pretty, and I wished she’d taken a bit longer with me. It had no bearing on the amount of the tip, though.

47

Yeah, my regular hairdresser does this, so have a lot of others I’ve used in the past. It’s weird because it doesn’t consciously feel like a sexual thing to me, however at the same time, I do actually really enjoy it (but I enjoy the whole experience of having my hair cut, no matter who is doing it).

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Back before I shaved my head, my stylist put her boobs on my head. Just lifted 'em right up and put 'em on there.

Granted, she’s a friend, and she also did the same thing to my wife once.

YMMV.

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As a tall male, I’ve had it happen lots of times - mostly unintentional, a few times that definitely were not.

When I was 18 my mom suggested I go to a friend of hers who cut hair on the side at her house. This friend turned out to be a gorgeous 40-something newly divorced aerobics instructor. Let’s just say that nothing she did (or wore) was unintentional.

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Downtown Chi-town there’s a topless haircuttery. Can’t remember the name right now, nor have I been, but I hear it’s nice.

51

I’d have agreed completely with Grits, before I started going to a friend who for haircuts. I’m tall, and not especially broad shouldered, but my shoulders fill more of my chair than my butt by a long shot. Many who cut my hair would eventually make contact. In the case of fat men or women, it was generally unintentional belly contact with elbows, hands, knees, whatever was sprawling out. Unfortunately, the most attractive women did not make contact. My friend, who is a runner (and short) never makes contact. So I know it is possible for the trim to trim me without contact. Should I now assume the others were making intentional contact?

Oddly, the girl who cut my hair in college did want to go with me. I just didn’t know it until after I met my wife. :frowning: \

Sign me, just your standard clueless guy.

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SlowMindThinking,

I wouldn’t assume now that the other hair stylists were intentionally making contact. It could be that the woman now who cuts your hair is making an effort to make sure there is no unintentional contact. I thought DWTom had a good analogy about a mechanic working on a car would mostly likely brush against the fender while working on it. If the mechanic for some reason was told he was not allowed to touch the car fender, he could still fix the car, but it would just take longer, being extra careful when near the fender, and he might not do as good as of a job, because in the back of his mind he would worrying about not touching the fender, not concentrating on the repair job.

Since the woman who cuts your hair now is a friend, she may realize her brushing against you would be a little awkward, being friends and all, and she makes an effort to avoid that kind of contact. I no longer work as a stylist, but I do cut a few friends hair now and then. I make a real effort not brush against them. That is much easier for me to do now. As I mentioned before, I was heavy then, and I had a quota to meet. For me to avoid any unintentional contact would have really slowed me down. Now, I am small, and not in such a hurry doing the haircuts so I can avoid the contact. And it could be that your friend is more coordinated than the average stylist and is able to adept at avoiding contact.

You bring up an interesting point about it never being the attractive women that brushed against you. It could be that the more attractive stylists find that any rubbing against is taken by the man as a come on, and those men are more likely to hit on them. So they have learned from experience to be very careful to avoid that contact to avoid being hit on. I never made that much of an effort to avoid it when working in the salon because my getting hit on was not something I had to worry about. I was very overweight, felt terrible about myself, and knew if I accidently touched someone, they wouldn’t take it as an invitation. I figured it probably grossed them out, but it was difficult to completely avoid.

I haven’t worked as a stylist since losing 80 lbs, but I can imagine I would probably be more aware that my brushing up against someone might be taken as something other than unintentional contact and I might try harder to avoid it. Or it might be just the opposite, if I had been working as a stylist for 20 years, I might even more desensitized to it and notice it even less.

So I guess I am on a quest now to dispell the myth that hairstylists rub up on their patrons as a come on, to get bigger tips, or just to tease the guy. Of course their are exceptions, and once in a while a stylist might be doing it on purpose, but I assure you it is very rare.

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Two women run the place. It’s called the Boobershop Quartet. :smiley: :stuck_out_tongue:

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So many men have told me that their stylists do this that I have to believe that I am amazingly unattractive - 'cause I have never noticed it.

OR, maybe men just want to believe that EVERY woman wants them and they notice even small gestures and interpret them as they wish.

I dunno.

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Well I do have a fairly long torso, so I rise above the chair, and I have always had really wide shoulders and what is basically a barrel chest, even from the age of 12 or so(I come from stocky peasant stock) a hair cut has always meant boobie contact for me. It’s not some wishful thinking or illusion that she is interested. Hell even when I was 12 and my mom was watching every snip and she was paying the bill and tip, or my aunt (who was a professional hair lady) was doing the cutting, there was lean in and pressing. I know it’s not a conscious issue for them, but I happen to be very aware (particularly when it’s uncomfortable) of womenly parts touching my body.