I haven’t recieved any 'compliment’s like that in a bit, but for me it wasn’t always the nicer ones. More often than not I’d be walking along and get calls like ‘hey fatso’ or ‘Quit eating so much you’ll lose weight’ (gotten while walking home and munching on a small bag of popcorn)
Of course these really piss me off because those guys were extreme idiots. I’m certainly not fat as they liked to call me. Maybe they felt intimidated by the fact I’m a woman who was bigger than they were and probably could give them a few decent bruises? Any compliments swinging the other way… well I learned to ignore completely because when I was younger and did smile back I always got the ‘What you think we were serious?’ line and worse.
Of course I am willing to accept a compliment if it is expressed in sincerity. Sometimes when I see a cute guy I just can’t help myself and I smile/grin at them and several times I’ve been told I should keep smiling because I look good while doing so. I generally had a smile on my face the rest of the day…
I actually scored a free box of donughts once from one of those “Smile! It can’t be that bad!” types. He was delivering a buncha baked goods to the Quick Mart I was waiting outside of for some friends of mine to help me move (one of those quickie marts/uhaul places). Considering the fact that I generally look pissed off unless I’m going out of my way not to, I get those comments a lot. I smiled at him when he made the first comment as he was walking in the store and as he was walking out he gave me the box of donughts hoping it would “brighten my day”.
Didn’t have the heart to tell him I’m vegan and don’t eat donughts, but the guys helping me move were most appreciative.
GMR I think it’s the shortening or deep fryer stuff being from animal fats. I knew some vegans who didn’t eat Oreos because the white stuff was made from an animal fat shortening (dunno if that’ still the case, it was ten years ago).
I seem to recall an episode of Sex in the City (my girlfriend makes watch it) where the red-head (Miranda?) was complaining that she hadn’t had sex in a while (I think that’s every episode). Anyhow…she walks past a construction site and one of the workers starts yelling “OOO!!! HEY BABY!! WHAT YOU WANT!!! WHAT YOU NEED!!!”. She’s pissed off anyway so she goes right up to the guy and is like “What I want…is to get LAID!! What I need…is to get LAID!!”. The worker gets all flustered and is like “Er…uh…Take it easy lady…I have a wife and kids.”
I think most regular guys would be similarly surprised if a woman actually took them up on such an offer.
I don’t think you can lump all loud and obnoxious guys together. My loud visitor friend is pretty much harmless. He’s just the type of guy who doesn’t have that part of the brain that goes between the part that controls thinking and the part that controls speaking.
Then you have the drunk kids who feel a need to yell at anyone and anything (“HEY SWEETHEART!! WOOOOOO!!! LOOK, A MAILBOX! WOOOOOO!!”, THERE’S BOB’S HOUSE!! WOOO!!! )…stupid…but mostly harmless.
I would be concerned about the angry guys who yell “Bitch!” if they don’t get the response they hoped for. IANAPych, but it seems to me that you basically have a maladjusted loser with poor impulse control who’s angry and frustrated with the world (and women in particular).
All in all, it’s pretty low-class to gawk and hollar at women as if you were just released from prison. After a couple of hours with my gawking friend, finally I’m just like “dude…either go up and introduce yourself or just shut the fuck up!” (I really wished he chose the second one :rolleyes: ).
If only it were so easy to meet women as sitting on your front stoop yelling “WOOOOOOOO!!!” at anyone who walked by.
I was out walking a while ago and some teenage dipshits who were riding bikes started shouting escalating comments at me. “Hey, baby!” “Hey, my friend thinks you’re sexy!” “My friend likes your ass!” “You gotta nice ass!” “My friend wants to fuck you!” I live out in the country. We were far enough away from the next house that it’s doubtful anyone could have heard, even if they were outside.
What the hell are you supposed to do in a situation like that? Antagonize them and take the chance that they aren’t just cowardly little shits, and being young, stupid, and the kind of assholes who would shout that kind of crap at a woman, won’t decide to follow me, and maybe do something worse? Wait to get home and call the sherrif to say that some, uh, kids, I don’t know who they are or where they life were, uh, shouting, uh, things at me? Or just fucking put up with it and feel like a spineless wimp?
It’s a wonderful way to make a woman feel powerless. I don’t know if men do it because they don’t realize this, or because they do.
