Half naked teenage girls

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I work in the mall and a large part of the clientele consists of 12 to 17 year old girls. And many of them are dressed so suggestively, well it’s just awkward. I mean I am embarassed for them and for myself for even seeing them.

I’m not attracted to them, I’m 26 and I sort of prefer women slightly older than myself. But with so many sickos, perverts, molestors, and pedophiles out there, how can any parent with a conscience allow their teenage girl to wear thongs sticking out of low slung jeans (some frontally as well as behind) and super tight or rather loose tanktops or see through material that make it possible to know what sort of underwear is under there and so on…

Maybe these girls get together after school and change somewhere. I don’t know. I am not a prude, and I am all for GROWN WOMEN being able to flaunt their goodies, but when I am at work I don’t appreciate being able to see a 15 year old girl’s budding biscuits whenever she ties her shoes…

Anyway, I am hardly old but when I was that age - way back in 1992, I remember girls as cute but never dressing as sexpots. Maybe on a hot day they might wear a baggy t-shirt and knee length shorts, or maybe a puffy blouse thing, but I never recall seeing (intentional) breast or butt cleavage on a girl that age…even at parties - and certainly not at the mall. Only at a heavy metal club or concert would I see anything really really revealing.

Sometimes I think its just a local trend, but is it all over the place now. Are lolitas just everywhere these days? It’s funny, on shows from the 1980’s where a girl is dressed to look like a “slut” (like Kelly Bundy on Married WIth Children), she almost looks quaint now.

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Well, as the mother of an 11-year-old girl, I agree with you. We regularly go through the whole “NO! I will not buy you that!” routine. I have tried explaining to her that little girls just have NO reason to look provocative. But I don’t blame her, I blame the stores for catering to this trend, the magazines for promoting it, and yes, the parents who do buy slut wear for their pre-teen/teen-aged daughters. What mother, let alone father, in good sense allows one’s daughter to go out wearing a shirt proclaiming she is a “Slut”, “Boy Toy”, “bitch”, etc? And why would anyone want his or her daughter to wear something that accentuates her budding sexuality?

I am all for wearing sexy clothing…on an adult woman who understands the effect it has on a man. But people, please, let your little girls BE little girls. It lasts but a short while anyway.

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I agree. The way little girls go around these days is shameful, and clearly indicative of neglectful parents. The tops of the jeans keep getting lower and lower, and the bottoms of the tops get higher and higher. As a general trend this is FINE by me (21 yeard old male, so yeah), but on little kids… it’s just wrong.

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I wouldn’t necessarily go out of my way to blame the parents, though. My parents were very conservative, very strict, but when I stayed at friends’ houses, I would borrow their clothes, or we’d change after we left home.

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Nope. My husband is a 7th grade teacher. A couple of weeks ago I went with him to see the school play. I was floored by what the girls in the audience were wearing–the clothes were just as you describe. My husband said that that is exactly what they wear to school. And the parents were there in the audience, too, so they clearly approve of the outfits.

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It may not be that the parents approve, but that they have chosen their battles, and dress is one they threw in the towel.

I’m not saying it’s right, but that could be the case.

Imagine my surprise asking out a gal that I was sure was in her mid 20’s to find out she was 16…D’oh!

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I took my son to the Megamall yesterday. Imagine my surprise to find out that Saturday is minislut day. They seem to run around in little gaggles, from costume jewelry display to shoe store to Sam Goodys. The food court was especially well-stocked with the little hookers.

Funny, in a pathetic kinda way.

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Ahhhh. It is so refreshing to be mother to a prude. Until very recently my daughter only wore baggy sweatshirts and big jeans. In all honesty I was hoping she’d grow out of this because my daughter is quite beautiful (Biased? Me? Naaah!) and I think she was doing herself a disservice by dressing like a frump.

She has grown out of it, but I’m glad to report that she still shows great distaste for what she calls “hoochie mama” clothes. Still, she thinks Britney, Christina et al look “cool” when they walk around showing pube cleavage. I guess I’m lucky that she can distinguish between Hollywood Cool and her own personal style.
And I agree with the “picking your battles” comment to a point. I let my kids wear what they like-- most of the time. But if my son is walking the street with me, I insist that he pull his pants up over his boxers. And my daughter would never be allowed out in a see-through shirt without a tee underneath ( not that she has ever showed any desire to wear a see-through shirt.)
P.S. I think the teenage years is the most appropriate time to experiment with styles and to be a little daring. Or should we lock our daughters in closets because of the molesters and pediphiles?

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Argh! Here’s a (potential) rant I agree so much with.

In our latest mall, a ‘La Senza - Girl’ just opened. La Senza GIRL? Lingerie for preteens? Someone tell me why :frowning: I can understand that young women like feeling pretty too, I haven’t been in the store yet, but can imagine a pervert sitting outside the shop and watching… fumes

In the airport a month or so ago, along trots a 8- or 9-year old girl with pants that say ‘Hot Girl’ all over them. Her father with her.

The midriff baring tops and the low slung pants and the tight tight tight tight tops AND bottoms just scare the crap out of me. Don’t people have ANY discretion? Considering that I have little to no contact with that generation outside of my own family, and the only firl that age in my family has a mother that would swallow broken glass before letting her wear something like that at her age, this is just what I see when I go out.

Biggirl, I agree that the ‘teens’ are defintately the time to learn your own style (as your daughter seems to be doing) but I don’t consider a 12-year-old to be in that range…maybe by 14 or so? How old’s your girl?

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:smiley: What the dickens is pube cleavage? Do I have any? How can I get some?

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My own invention, pube cleavage. Pants slung so low you can see where the groin starts.

My daughter is 14 (15 in 2 months). Since I’ve never had a problem with her wanting to wear revealing clothes, I can’t say how I’d handle it if she were to start wanting to show the world what her bra looks like. Probably something along the lines of “You are not leaving this house with your underwear showing!” Sorta like I do with my son (also 14, 15 in two months). “Pick up your pants, boy! I can see your drawers!”

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I asked my friend, an actual teenage girl, why they dress that way & she said that they want to look like Britney. Makes sense to me.

One time a saw one wearing glitter on her cleavage. That takes the cake.

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I am a 43 year old guy and, as such, I’ve never been an adolescent female, but I would imagine that it would be fun and exciting, and would be experienced as a form of power, to be sexually attractive.

We as adults don’t see it as power, we see it as vulnerabilty–kind of like rubbing one’s self all over with raw hamburger and then crawling into a cage full of hungry timber wolves.

But consider…

• Whether it is cultural or innate, male sexuality is to a great extent oriented around the visual aspects of sexuality, meaning for hetero guys the way that females look. So while the appearance aspects of sexual attractiveness may not be everything, they are a lot.

• By 16 or 17, many females have a pretty close approximation to the appearance that is culturally defined (at least in this culture) as the epitome of female sexual attractiveness. Even by 12 or 13, they are starting to approach it in some aspects, and they clearly know they will continue to approach it as the years go by.

• This would all be pretty impressive if the males who were attracted to the females were of approximately the same age as these females–that, in and of itself, would be a pretty powerful experience, suddenly hitting the peak of their gender’s attractiveness to boys their own age and having this powerful visual sexual impact on guys their own age. But instead they are having this impact on guys ranging from their own age on up to guys 100 years old, including the most powerful males on this planet.
So you’ve girls who, between the age of 10 and the age of 16, have gone from having no more than the typical social power of a 10 year old kid to having THIS, and that’s got to be pretty heady stuff.

We, of course, see them dressed like that and think “sexual objectification”, “date rape”, “sexual molestation in the junior high lunchroom”, and “judge says girls were ‘asking for it’”. We think of girls who want to fall in love and be loved, not exploited. We think of girls who ought to have the chance to just be girls, and who should not have to be wary like someone carrying a stack of $100 bills openly through the wrong part of town.

But I think we go about it wrong by not acknowledging to the girls that we understand the lure of this sense of power, and this is about welding it responsibly and coming to grips with the tradeoffs, not about keeping them from experiencing it and having fun with it.

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Excellent commentary AHunter3. Very good points indeed

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This subject scares the bajeesus outta me. And, my daughter’s just short of 17 months. (I like to worry far in advance.)

My wife and I wonder if when she’s 14 the trend will be to walk around in two pasties and fig leaf. I just don’t look forward to the day that my baby might be oggled by the character-challenged. I hope she’s naturally conservative.

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Well, they aren’t really half naked & besides that, someone bought their clothes for them. Our local schools have dress codes too.

How come you guys don’t write about teenage boys walking around with half their butt exposed?

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We just assume that they are plumbers-in-training.

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I’m curious as to whether people who live in beach states see this issue differently to those who live inland.

I can’t think of anywhere in Australia where you wouldn’t expect to see teenage girls (and boys) walking around minimally clothed in summer, and it’s been that way throughout my lifetime.

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originally posted by Clucky

I wouldn’t worry - it’s a fad that’ll doubtless burn itself out soon and be replaced with something less revealing.

Remember grunge? All the girls walking around wearing loose, baggy clothing with long sleeves.

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Must say I’m 25 and some of the teenage girls these days are hot to look at. I wouldnt go lower than 16 though.