Well, it appears that Phil and I both posted anniversary material simultaneously yesterday afternoon (I hadn’t read his when I posted mine). Knowing his propensity for privacy regarding mushy stuff, I lightheartedly shared the tale of our first date only to find he had posted a most beautiful, touching and, yes, tear inducing anniversary wish to me. Bordering on mushy but filled instead with sincerity and love, so…
To: Phil,
who is also my best friend, my lover, my encourager…he has taught me so much about life, humanity, self-respect, the world and the universe (literally–he’s worked on alleviating my math and science-phobias). With his encouragement I undertook college, which I never thought I would do. He has supported and edified me and with kindess pushed me to go beyond what I know to try new things and to believe I could accomplish things I never thought I could.
He has taught me to question and challenge rather than merely accept blindly. It was not without growing pains and along the way I had to see and learn some of the ugly truths of life that my evangelic upbringing had sheltered me from, but they were important lessons to learn just the same.
Sure, we have had bumpy times like all couples do, but hearing him stum his guitar trying to figure out a song…watching him train his telescope to the heavens to find a celestial body he’s read about…listening to him explain with great enthusiasm some scientific discovery he’s read about…partaking in his joy over a new movie or book that he’s been eagerly awaiting…or just having him listen or hold me when life throws a knuckle ball that beams me at the plate smooths every bump on that road we share.
I rather like the theory that husband and wife are a type of yin-yang; not opposites exactly but complements to one another–that each brings out the best in the other and that their love for one another covers the rest.
I left some serious things behind when I married Phil, but he has opened up doors and windows for me that I didn’t even know existed. He challenged and continues to challenge me (in a good way), and I love him all the more for it. I think sometimes he doesn’t realize that I am better for having him in my life–I am. I love you, too, Phil.
Now, regarding…
Um, that was uh…figuratively speaking…yeah, that’s it! He was being figurative.