My GF is dealing with similar from her 92yo dad. But Dad is affable, not hell on wheels. Just as he’d always been. It’s often said that dementia doesn’t change who you are subconsciously; it just takes most of the filters off in a random and ever-growing manner.
But if GF calls Dad on Tuesday to chat for an hour, one of his complaints will be that she hasn’t called him in weeks; weeks I say! Despite their hour chat the day prior, Monday. The same thing will happen on Wednesday. They actually talk about once a week more or less at random, but even when they do talk on consecutive days there’s just no recollection. It never happened.
My own late aged MIL wasn’t exactly suffering classic dementia, but a series of TIAs had slowly punched a bunch of holes in her thinking. A big one of which was recent memory. We spent a lot of time repeating info we’d given her last week that simply didn’t “stick”.
And hearing about e.g. the great meal she’d had for dinner last night … if only she could remember what she ate and who she ate with. But it was excellent; much better than usual. Or vice versa; poor food with poor company. But the details were simply absent and even when gently challenged on it she seemed to have no awareness that forgetting that kind of stuff that soon is unusual for a healthy person such as herself.
Anybody can forget what was for dinner e.g. 2-3 nights ago. But she was the one choosing to tell the story of this particular exceptional meal. But not exceptional enough to remember anything about it.
Golly that’s sad to watch. Mercifully she dropped dead of a heart attack before she really got bad. Would that the rest of us had that luck.
But don’t you then have to pay full price for the phone? I’ve been with my current carrier practically forever, so when I get my next phone – which might be soon as I’d like to get a more modern phone and finally subscribe to a data plan (and finally be able to order an Uber! The Uber app refuses to run on my current phone because it doesn’t like its version of Android) – it would seem to make sense to get a subsidized phone with the requirement of a two-year contract. No skin off my nose since they’re a good company and I’d be staying with them anyway, contract or no contract.
With a two-year commitment, some of the lesser phones are free, while the fancier ones get a moderate monthly charge tacked on for two years. I would actually save money even if I got the most expensive phone and cancelled my landline, but then I’d lose that emergency backup element. Yung’uns who only have cell phones and no landline are probably not expecting heart attacks or a tumble down the stairs, at which point, per Murphy’s Law, the cell phone is guaranteed to be missing, broken, or otherwise inoperative!
So called MotorOil (again) today. Apparently the warehouse team told the CSR to cancel the order and give me a refund. But the update was never emailed me as promised. So I asked if I would actually get my refund since they refused to send me the phone I paid for and refused to follow through as promised the last two days. They assured me I would and I told them flat out I have no faith in their promises anymore.
What is the opposite of Porch Pirate? - Instead of stealing packages inappropriately, they leave packages inappropriately
I got home about 7:45 & went inside w/o issue. When I literally ran out for a fire (I’m a volley - it was someone else’s fire, & it wasn’t much of a fire as we got recalled) around 10:30 pm I damn near tripped over a package that some large woman left on my porch. Why was I so super-pissed (like regular pissed, just wearing a cape ) about that? Because I didn’t order anything from that tribe of warriors. Nope, those @#$%& lackey that slink around in the night, parking in the middle of the street in their own, personal delivery vehicles left my neighbors stuff on my porch…again!
We both have our house # posted on the front of our house but at least every couple of weeks I get their package but I’m getting sick & tired of having to be an unpaid delivery person for them. The last one was a big box (I’m guessing the 47 trillion pack of paper towels because it wasn’t actually that heavy), so big that I couldn’t even get onto my porch, of course that was when I was coming back from being away & had armfuls of stuff that I needed to put back in the car to deal with their package before I could get into my house. I get along well with my neighbor & don’t want to ruin that but is there anything I can do?
I have a fancy-schmancy Garmin watch. One of it’s tricks is it calculates your sleep score. For some reason it’s creepier than Sandy Claws (who only knows when I’m sleeping & when I’m awake) it only counts sleeping in your bed. When I pass out on the sofa; eventually waking & going upstairs & getting into bed for the rest of the night my sleep metrics in the morning show me going to sleep at 1:30am or so, which then negatively impacts the other metrics that use sleep in their calculations. Shouldn’t horizontal & unconscious on a sofa be treated the same as horizontal & unconscious in a bed???
You must be rich. I haven’t kept track of the cost of modern cell phones since I haven’t had to pay for one in decades. The Samsung I currently have was sent to me for free by my service provider after I complained about my old flip phone being obsolesced by their new-fangled cell network technology. But the list price for some of these fucking gadgets is thousands of dollars! Not in my budget, not after the new fridge, new car, other unanticipated expenses, and Snowplow Guy!
We must be kindred spirits or something. I suffered reverse Porch patronage just yesterday.
The apartment next to mine is rented to somebody who travels a lot, so packages accumulate around her doorstep for a few days, then all disappear. Lather rinse repeat. They’re usually not bulky or in the way, just a tad unkempt. No real complaints from me.
Anyhow she’s had no packages for a few days and when I return home late afternoon yesterday there’s a package sorta tossed over near her door. With a foot I pushed it neatly into the recess of her door frame so it’d be more out of everyone’s way. Go inside my apartment to discover an email from Da Jungle saying a package had been delivered for me. Which attached delivery picture looks suspiciously familiar.
Go out in the hall and yep, the package I’d moved with my foot was addressed to me. It made it all the way across the country only to perch about 8 feet from the correct spot. Missed it by that much!
So I Porch Pirated my poorly perched package that the package person had Porch Patroned to Penny.
Given that all this happens indoors on a smooth carpeted surface like a hotel hallway, shoving her packages over to my door or vice versa isn’t too onerous.
For my own micro-rant …
The box I just mentioned was ~8"x6"x3". The product inside was about the size, thickness, and weight of a book of stamps. ~3"x1.5" x <1/8" thick. That box could have held about 4000 of the item I bought. WTF?
I realize teeny packages can get easily lost. But the same item could have been put in an ~5"x6" plastic bag/envelope just as easily which would have weighed a bunch less and presumably saved them some shipping cost. Then again what do I know about shipping compared to them?
I don’t think Porch Patron is quite right because I don’t get any benefit from their incompetence; instead I have to do work (okay, so it’s not that many steps, but still)
Get their phone number and text them when you get their package.
They should have gotten a notification that they had a delivery with a delivery photo - if not, they can find a setting to enable it somewhere. Surely they recognize your door by now.
@Spiderman: Good point there; if you kept your neighbor’s packages then you’d be benefitting from the largesse of a Porch Patron. Since you have to choose to give them th the rightful owner, not so patronly.
Whether you get delivery photos from Amazon couriers is 100% at the worker’s discretion. Sometimes you do, sometimes you don’t. There’s no way to control or influence it from your end that I’ve found.
But your larger point is spot-on. Swap phone numbers with your porch partner and txt each other to come get their crap whenever either of you see a mis-delivered package.
And always provide feedback to Amazon. Good or bad, but especially bad. I always give them an “attaboy; you followed directions” whenever it’s at my door with a photo. At my door no photo? No feedback. You delivered it anywhere else? Negative feedback. Every delivery gets feedback. Helps increase my cred which may make my comments matter more to how management steers the workers too.
That’s odd. I haven’t not gotten a photo with every delivery in well over a year. (Unless it’s my daughter’s delivery on her own account, but delivered to my house, in which case she gets the photo.)
I think it depends on if it’s actually Amazon delivering the item. If it’s Amazon, I will get a photo, but if Amazon hands it off to USPS (for example) and they deliver it, I won’t. (Usually because it ends up in my mailbox.)
But yeah, Amazon will provide a photo. And when it’s delivered to the wrong house, I get to play Sherlock Holmes and wander around my neighborhood trying to figure out whose porch matches the one in the photo I was given. Considering there are many dozens of houses in my neighborhood and they are all squeezed very close to one another, that can be a pretty daunting task. Sometimes I never find it and just have to report it to Amazon, and then I have to wait days later before Amazon finally admits their fuck-up (because I have to wait a couple of days to see if it will magically arrive from where I know it was misdelivered, otherwise Amazon refuses to do anything).
Luckily it’s infrequent enough that I haven’t been totally fed up with Amazon.
At least for us, our Amazon deliveries by folks in blue and yellow Amazon vests is totally hit or miss on whether there’s a photo. More often than not, but far, far short of 100%.
Of course we have about a dozen drivers who deliver to our building every day. Just now I’m at happy hour typing at y’all. On the way down the elevator at about 5 pm to come here I met and talked to three different Amazon delivery people each pushing large carts down one hall or another laden with packages. Did they each take pix of every package? Probably not.
UPS, FedEx, and the several no-name delivery outfits are far less diligent about pix than genuine Amazon couriers.
USPS is its own dog. No pix, but there’s also only one place it could be: in my locked mailbox or lost forever.
It’s literally quicker to walk it over to them than to pull out my phone & contact him. I’m pissed that someone inappropriately put a tripping hazard on my porch late at night.
How can I leave feedback as a non-customer? I don’t even know the order # as I didn’t order anything from them.
Then keep your eyes outta the MMP, Swampy’s talkin’ will make your haid esplode
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