That’s always my recommendation. I never viewed the SDMB as a dating service, but it’s proven to be a remarkably effective one. Contrary to the image some apparently have of Dopers as a bunch of “losers,” it’s actually quite the opposite. I was very pleasantly surprised by the level of hottitude I found at Dopefests, and Dopers are as a group far more intelligent and lively than your average collection of folks. And even if you don’t get lucky, Dopefests are just fun.
I met Gunslinger in Very Vaguely Creepy in fall of 2000, during the height of a “virtual marriage” craze. I dueled with Zoggie over his affections and won. We were the last “virtual marriage,” and I think the only one that is ending up non-virtual. It started as a joke, and ended with me moving across the country to live nearer to him. We are currently engaged but haven’t set a date yet.
Would you say it’s more luck or skill? Will the law of averages come into play at some point, or should one take lessons to improve one’s skill?
I can tell you right now that there are some people who are never, ever gonna get laid at Dopefests. Ever. So I’m thinking you can just throw the law of averages right out the window.
Crap.
The Dopefests I’ve been to have mostly been Bunches Of People Talking Loudly And Happily In Restaurant And Pub Environments. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. For wild orgiastic gatherings, perhaps I should get out of town more. [sub]Montréal… Montréal…[/sub]
OTOH, I’m meeting RickQ and Brynda at the Sheraton tomorrow for an impromptu walk around town, so Dopefests are where you make them.
Er, not that that has anything to do with ‘hooking up’, per se, but I am getting more social 
Okay, I’ve never participated in one… but this is the general idea I get from them: you mail your junk / stuff you don’t want anymore to random people (okay, Dopers) in exchange for other people’s crap. Basically, it’s an exchange of junky stuff. I’m sure someone will be along to correct me if I’m wrong.
Now, who was I thinking of before I started that part of my reply? Hmm… I know I have at least a few more examples that haven’t been mentioned yet! Ah yes, these couples spring to mind:
Eutychus and Persephone
Kal and Washte (though they didn’t meet on the boards. they met IRL)
Feynn and lolagranola (see above)
Anthracite and Fierra
matt_mcl and Potter
rjk and Zyada
todd33rpm and bodypoet (that’s who I was thinking of, before… and I hope they’re still together, or this post will be pretty embarrassing)
F_X
I didn’t say that I included you in that over-generalization, did I? I’m not gonna do you, but you may yet meet a nice Doper.
If I were to express my opinion on this comment, this thread would be moved to the pit. And quite possibly, I would be banned. I imagine you can fill in the blanks.
I would appreciate it if you would refrain from projecting your own failings on the rest of the members here.
All I’m saying is that there are plenty of us who damn well are losers, and we’re proud of it. We’re the ones who aren’t married and have no significant others or close friends. We’re the ones who live alone.
That’s not everyone here, and it’s not most people. But there are more than a few of us, I’ll warrant you.
Let’s not forget Shayna and Spiny Norman. She is beautiful and bright and intelligent. He is handsome, brilliant and adorable. They were both WINNERS in their own right before they met, and successful as single people. They met IRL at a DopeFest and fell in love. Over a year later, they married and in May celebrated their first anniversary. I was priviledged to be at their wedding, and she looked like a princess…I have never seen two people more in love. Over a year after their marriage, they are still in love and even MORE successful as a couple than they ever were alone.
LOSERS? I don’t THINK so. In fact, I KNOW it isn’t true.
Also, we have:
Coldfire and Heloise
JavaMaven and JustPlainBryan (married this year, June I think…)
psycat and demo (married in July)
I’m sure I am still missing some.
This site is NOT a “Lonely Hearts Club”, it is a site where intelligent, insightful people hang out. (And some loons, but then where in life DON’T you find some of those?) I don’t think anyone is here because they are looking for a mate and they are too lame to find one “face-to-face.” (Well, except for the loons, maybe.) In the course of discussion, a person might find someone who piques their interest because their views coincide or they are intrigued by something that is said. As far as I am concerned, this is a much better way to meet a friend or a lover than hanging out in bars. Or the like.
My apologies, I have gone and lost my temper again. But it just ticks me off when someone denigrates people I care about like Giggle Gaggle did. Especially when they are WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!
Upon preview… Dan, I DO NOT view you as a LOSER. You may live alone, but I do NOT think you are a loser. NOT having a SO does NOT mean you are a loser. Am I gonna have to hit you over the head with a brick to get you to realize that?
::Smooches for Dan::
And trust me when I say that living alone is highly underrated.
I wept when I moved out of my own little apartment.
No, none of those things mean that you’re a loser. I am one for many other reasons. It’s more of a cumulative thing, you see.
Saying those without SOs are losers is insulting to a lot of people; same fo saying those who live alone are losers. Even those who live alone sans SO aren’t SOs unto themselves.
No, it’s a lot more complicated than that.
I’m glad you thought of us, Scotti… but Bryan and I didn’t meet on the boards. We had been together for several years before the SDMB became a part of our lives. We did have several Dopers at our wedding, and we consider many of those we’ve met here as good friends. Our lives certainly would be much different without the boards.
I’m glad you thought of us, Scotti… but Bryan and I didn’t meet on the boards. We had been together for several years before the SDMB became a part of our lives. We did have several Dopers at our wedding, and we consider many of those we’ve met here as good friends. Our lives certainly would be much different without the boards.
Oh! :eek:
We have big footsteps to follow in!
Anyway, here we are on Friday night, and I find myself so lucky to be spending time with such an awesome young man…
Check us out…isn’t he the greatest!?
http://www.spicecoffee.org/~brooke/
OK Maybe I am being mushy, which I am normaly NOT, but GEE we have the best time together, and it’s all thanks to the SDMB! 
We took these pictures and made this page tonight…
http://www.spicecoffee.org/~brooke/
By the way, we never were, nor are we, LOSERS! IMHO, we’re both pretty good cathces!
:o blush… ain’t she just the greatest DoperChick ever? I think I feel like the luckiest guy on the planet right now 
wistful sigh I’m pretty much speechless, but three cheers for SDMB romance, eh?
And on that note, I think it’s about our bedtime… blush again…
I first wrote to Potter when I noticed him as a new (well, recently delurked) Board Homo back in May 2002. We exchanged a few emails about assorted interests we had in common, then I went to Spain and we didn’t hear from each other for a while.
Then he de-lurked in Ruffian’s Stereotype yourself! thread. I fell in rampaging lust with the description and sent him a brief and unsolicited but highly salacious email. Happily, he reciprocated. (Historical Note: he says he had become interested in me when I referred to myself as acting “prim” in another thread.)
We cheerfully pursued a highly naughty exchange of emails, which led to ICQ and IRC. Finally, I burst out and let it slip that I was head over heels in love with him. Once again, he reciprocated.
Can we get a :D!
It’s truly spooky how much my Ideal Man he is. I recendly found an old post of mine in which I described my dream guy as “a kind, patient, handsome and funny left-wing skinny gay nerdboy with glasses and a British accent [who] would fall in love with me [and] be great in the sack.”
This post, naturally, is dated a month before Tom registered and fifteen months before I wrote to him.
Add other notable hard-on-makers of mine such as “punk” and “short” and “femme” and “highly perverted” (and did I mention the British accent?) and you can see where this is going. (And that bit about him liking tall hairy Canadian boys with fuzzy, soft spare tires doesn’t hurt either.)
My first-anniversary gift to him is going in the mail tomorrow kiss love my tommy-kun.