With my wife four year, married for almost three, never cheated.
This answer will remain the same as the years go on.
Getting cheated on it such a betraying experience that I vowed never to put anybody through that. Years of building up your own self esteem can be ruined in an instant.
In any woman’s mind “I cheated” = “You aren’t good enough to keep my interest”.
It’s a tough situation.
And I’ve been cheated on a lot unfortunately, but never done it.
-foxy
I’ve been with my current girlfriend (soon to be fiance, Shhhh don’t tell her!). Never cheated on her.
Have cheated before though when I was younger, and was also cheated on.
I think PoorYorik’s Wise suggestions are gold.
Finding other people attractive is part of life. I will (and do) find other people attarctive, aso will my girlfriend.
I think our relationship is strong enough to help us make the right decisions.
As Poor Yorik mentioned, it’s all about attitude and avoiding sticky situations by using common sense.
That’s 4 years I’ve been with her, why can’t I edit my posts?
Unless a person has been found out,will anyone be honest? I’m sure spouses can read all these posts if they bothered 
Anyway, I felt cheated on when I was replaced with the computer for a while, but it stopped when I found out my husband was shooing me off to bed to access porn. I was feeling very neglected and snooped around the computer and found tons of evidence of his nightly escapades.
At least he stopped. It’s just that we’d agreed to talk about problems instead of finding any alternatives!! That way things would at least have a chance of resolving themselves before someone got hurt!
So after I found out, he told my antidepressants (post partum depression after having his kid) were making me tired and causing me to gain weight. Thing was that I had gone off them by then and was returning to my normal self, so the issues were resolving themselves. So he had no excuses to shoo me off to bed anymore.
It’s annoying to know he would lie to me (he told he was just playing video games). He had replaced me with porn (and video games) and not given me a chance to hear he was getting any kind of frustration, especially since I was readily available at any time for affection and sex…but he was the one shooing me off!!
Ughg. So I feel he’s capable of lying and sneaking around no problem. I also feel I don’t love him the way I used to…as freely, I’m more guarded, because I know he’s able to lie to me so easily!
I don’t know if I will trust the same way I used to ever again, but I think it would be way worse if he was physical with another woman in person.
I have not cheated on my fiance, nor have I been tempted to do so. I almost cheated on my ex in the sense of having another boyfriend (not a sex-mate, though, as I was a virgin at the time), but I decided not to, and lost the friend involved as a result. My ex then, a few months later, cheated on me in much the same fashion (he had another girlfriend).
After having been through that, I don’t think I could ever cheat. I couldn’t put someone through the months of hell I went through. However, I understood why he did it; he’s human. And he’s forgiven, he’s just not my boyfriend anymore.
I haven’t cheated on anyone I’ve been in a serious relationship with. I have been the “other man” twice, both of which were a cross between friendship and lust with romantic love never having a hope of showing up and both parties being fully aware of that from the start.
If I had it to do over again, the statistics would be different because I wouldn’t have gotten into situations where my own ethics would require me to turn down an opportunity for friendly sex because it would be a betrayal of a trust.
If I had even a hint that that betrayal of trust would exist for the partner of the person I was considering taking to bed, I wouldn’t do it.
Drabble - it sounds like you have struggled with this. Perhaps speaking to someone, either by yourself or as a couple would help? I wish you strength as this continues on - trusting your mate is something to value.
As for me - nope. Love to look, would never ever consider touching. It’s a very “do unto others” type of thing - I couldn’t handle it if my wife did something, so it is only fair and right that I not do anything. So frankly, it’s never been an issue.
Not to mention - but who would I get to talk about it with if I did? The handful of times I have been flirted with over the years, the first person I tell is my wife - “Honey - I got flirted with!! And she was cute, too!!” She laughs with me and move on to the next subject…
No. Hell no. I dispise cheaters.
Cheat? I’d love to. Nothing going on in the bedroom at home. No other complaints about my wife, though, so I don’t want to leave her. Unfortunately, since I can’t get away from the Mrs in the evening, the chances are pretty slim that I’m going to find a woman during the day I can nail without dating first. I don’t want to talk for four hours, I just want to screw. I might be willing to try, but probably would fail since insincerity comes awfully hard for me. Dammit.
(Makes me sick to think about all the opportunites I missed in the golden days because I couldn’t pretend to like a girl for a few hours. I don’t know how other guys do it.)
Hookers? No thanks. Tried it once and it was awful. It was nothing like the glorious sex of my youth. Better nothing than that.
Drabble, your husband’s interest in porn is not necessarily a “cheating” thing. Maybe he was embarrassed to discuss his interest in porn with you. Lots of women don’t get it. Sounds like he just didn’t want to let you in on some of his kinks, for fear you may not approve.
I had a close friend that cheated for almost a year then just decided it wasn’t worth it and ended it. She was very happy with her husband and they had a great life together. She wasn’t really sure why she cheated. The guy she cheated with was a jerk and lied to her constantly and I heard endless stories and listened to her cry about what an ass he was.
Why would someone cheat with someone who made them feel so horrible when they had a good life at home that they were happy with?