Have you ever been to a prostitute?

[commasense]

@Fear the Turtle

I’ve been to the legal brothels in Pahrump, NV numerous times. Obviously I liked it, or I wouldn’t have gone back. I went more often when one particular girl was working, but she is gone now - so I haven’t gone recently.

I’ve talked with a few of the girls numerous times and I’d be willing to take a stab at answering questions about legal prostitution (as far as I know) in Nevada. Whenever the subject of prostitution comes up on the SDMB, there seems to be a lot of misinformation (or people’s opinions are colored by the illegal type of prostitution).

Thanks for your input, Fear. Would you care to answer any of the other questions in the OP?

@me

Anything you’d care to relate about the experience – why you went, how you found her (or him), how much you paid, how it felt (physically or emotionally), what you learned, how often you’ve been, etc. etc. – would be of interest.

[Otto]

@commasense

(Unless Otto wants to say more about his own experiences)

Sure, my life’s an open book, what would you like to know?

@Siam Sam

If I were gay, and I walked into a gay brothel hoping to have a good time, and I saw someone who looked like Mike Tyson winking at me, that might be enough to turn me straight.

As he looks now with that stupid facial tattoo, certainly. But back in the day before we knew what a freak he was, he had a phenomenal body and, while not my type, wasn’t IMHO ugly. And, if it actually were Tyson, he’d get a lot of play from people looking for the chance to literally become starfuckers.

[Sunrazor]

@commasense

If you wish to respond to this Sam, or if you want to learn more about prostitution in Thailand, Homie, please do it in another thread. It’s OT here.

That goes for Sunrazor and Otto, too. (Unless Otto wants to say more about his own experiences.)

Thanks.

I was responding to my personal experiences with prostitutes. I interviewed them, and in some cases I had to pay them before they would be interviewed (and THAT crosses all kinds of ethical boundaries, I can tell you!)

[Sunrazor]

I have a kind of naive question: If **commasense ** is, in fact, moderating this thread, shouldn’t he/she be identified as a moderator? Otherwise, what business does he/she have trying to guide the thread?

Just askin’, mostly out of ignorance.

[Hirundo82]

@Otto

There was a story in IIRC Newsweek a couple of Decembers ago in which Heidi Fleiss announced plans to open the state’s first brothel with male prostitutes.

As I recall, her plan was/is to cater to women only. According to her website (or at least the Google cache; as I’m at school and the site itself is blocked):

Check out Heidi’s Stud Farm-The first luxury brothel where women can pick and choose the man of their dreams. Men are for hire to WOMEN ONLY. THERE WILL BE NO MALE-TO-MALE SEX.

( Their emphasis)

One of the twists that I remember hearing about for her opening a brothel employing males is that the statutes regulating prostitution require a regular (weekly?) STD exam, including pelvic exam–obviously an issue to perform on men. I can’t seem to find the statute however, so take that FWIW.

[Otto]

@Sunrazor

I have a kind of naive question: If **commasense ** is, in fact, moderating this thread, shouldn’t he/she be identified as a moderator? Otherwise, what business does he/she have trying to guide the thread?

Just askin’, mostly out of ignorance.

“Moderators” on the SDMB don’t guide threads. Moderators enforce the rules of the board. What commasense is doing is requesting that the thread he started remain on track, but he has no power to enforce that request.

It is generally considered a violation of our cardinal rule, “Don’t be a jerk,” to completely and deliberately hijack a thread from its intended purpose. Tangents and temporary deviations are fine, and you’ll often see people contributing to threads who preface their comments by typing [hijack] and closing them by typing [/hijack]. They are acknowledging that their comments aren’t strictly on-topic but may bear some relationship or be of some interest.

[Otto]

@Hirundo82

As I recall, her plan was/is to cater to women only.

Which is why the aforementioned openly gay state legislator made his comments about making sure that she complied with all relevant statutes including those banning sex- and sexual orientation-based discrimination in public accomodation, both of which are illegal in Nevada.

Which raises a question: are women customers allowed at the legal female brothels?

[Rico]

@commasense

If you wish to respond to this Sam, or if you want to learn more about prostitution in Thailand, Homie, please do it in another thread. It’s OT here.

That goes for Sunrazor and Otto, too. (Unless Otto wants to say more about his own experiences.)

Thanks.

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[Asimovian]

@guizot

And if you see a woman on Sunset Blvd. in Hollywood at 11:00pm wearing a short skirt and not going anywhere in particular, you can be pretty sure she’s a prostitute.

I apologize if someone’s already commented on this, but really. I’ve been in the area often at that time of night (our favorite movie theater is right there), and a lot of them really are just women who like to be seen in short skirts.

I think.

[Fear_the_Turtle]

@commasense

Thanks for your input, Fear. Would you care to answer any of the other questions in the OP?

Sure, as best as I can.

@commasense

Anything you’d care to relate about the experience – why you went, how you found her (or him), how much you paid, how it felt (physically or emotionally), what you learned, how often you’ve been, etc. etc. – would be of interest.?

A friend suggested it, and since I don’t have any moral problems with legalized prostitution, and I wasn’t getting laid on my own, I figured why not. I decided, though, I didn’t want to do it just to do it, the girl would have to be smoking hot - hotter than I could get on my own. And she was.

I enjoyed the sex a lot, as she was completely different from any girlfriend I’d ever had. Asian, petite, strikingly beautiful. Girlfriends in the past have always been just Ok in the looks dept, and I wanted to have a chance to have sex with a fantasy.

I like going back to the same girl so I didn’t have to negotiate the price (which I hate even in everyday life, not just this). Also you get to know what you can and can’t do, and what they’ll do may increase as you become a repeat customer. I’ve been with a few different girls, but it’s not as good (too me) as going back to the same girl. For awhile I was going maybe every other month, but since she left I haven’t been back very often.

What you pay is really all over the place, depending on the girl, you, where you are and what you want. Sherri’s is one of the nicer legal brothels in Nevada, plus being close to Vegas they get a lot of high rollers. My understanding is you can get a better deal at the brothels near Reno. I guess a good ballpark is around $400-$500 for straight sex.

Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Cluricaun]

@Fear the Turtle

I guess a good ballpark is around $400-$500 for straight sex.

Heh, “Ballpark”. Actually, that would be a pretty good name for a brothel…

[guizot]

@Asimovian

I apologize if someone’s already commented on this, but really. I’ve been in the area often at that time of night (our favorite movie theater is right there), and a lot of them really are just women who like to be seen in short skirts.

I think.

I was talking about between Western and Normandie. Which theater do you mean? There really isn’t any reason to be standing around on the street there at that time, unless you’re waiting for a bus.

[Otto]

@commasense

Anything you’d care to relate about the experience – why you went, how you found her (or him), how much you paid, how it felt (physically or emotionally), what you learned, how often you’ve been, etc. etc. – would be of interest.?

In no particular order, as I’m remembering them:

1. some guy I met on AOL, this would’ve been around 1995 or 96. We were chatting a bit and I was about to sign off when he said something about a blow job. I jokingly asked how much and he quoted me a price of $50. I determined that he was serious and, since I’d just gotten some money for my birthday and it had been a while, I figured why not. Overall I was not particularly pleased. No kissing, no reciprocation and he very clearly was not into it. Never saw him again.

2. Chatting on gay.com IIRC, would’ve been around 2000. Some guy whose screen name identified himself as an escort had a quote in his profile to the effect of “ask me for my X-rated pics” so I did. He was hot and, as it was around my birthday again, I set up an appointment. I don’t remember what I paid him the first time but each subsequent time was $300 for two hours. The sex was very good and although he was a total top he was affectionate and allowed kissing. I enjoyed myself and I saw him every few months over the next few years. He had appeared in a few pornos and I found a couple of them cheap and he seemed genuinely pleased that I’d sought them out. I felt some genuine affection for him but that rather waned when I lost my job and could no longer afford him and he stopped responding to my emails. Oh well.

3. I took a trip to NYC in 2003 I think. I set up an “erotic massage” with a couple of guys. Don’t recall the price. It was all right but I wouldn’t do it again with this particular duo.

4. a young Latino college kid who charged $80 an hour. Saw him a couple of times but then he moved or I lost his phone number or something. Too bad, I liked him.

5. A stripper visiting one of the local clubs. $100 with no particular timeframe set. I had just broken up with a boyfriend and the session was fairly disastrous, through no fault of his. He was very nice.

6. Another stripper visiting the club. $200 with no particular timeframe. He was rather perfunctory, sort of dropping his clothes and flopping on the bed and, after some length of time, declaring that I’d had enough. He went on to pose in Playgirl and moved to Chicago, where he listed himself for a while on rentboy (dot) com.

7. A guy who advertised nude erotic rubdowns, $50 for 1/2 hour and $75 for a full hour. The first time I went he offered full-on sex but I wasn’t in the mood for it. The next couple of times he didn’t offer to go all the way but let me suck him but after that he would only do the rubdowns. I liked it well enough but got kind of irked at the diminishing returns. He left town. Coincidentally I hooked back up with him one more time a year later when he was working under a different name, although based on our phone conversation I suspected it was the same guy, and it was like old home week or something.

8. A local guy who advertised in the alternative weekly. $100 an hour but he wasn’t a clock-watcher. I liked him quite a bit but he’s since left the business.

I’ve also had other strippers from the club over to my place for “private dances” that didn’t involve sex, for various prices.

Oh, and the time that I got paid for it? Some drunk closet case in a bar. We talked for a while and he said something about how he’d pay $50 to give someone a blow job. Being drunk myself I took him up on it. He blew me, I drove him back to his car and he tried to talk me down to $40. I said no fucking way; even a 1st-time whore has to have his standards.

[Asimovian]

@guizot

I was talking about between Western and Normandie. Which theater do you mean? There really isn’t any reason to be standing around on the street there at that time, unless you’re waiting for a bus.

My bad. I was talking about the Arclight down in the area between, say, Gower and Cahuenga.

Given what you’re referring to, I agree 100%.

[VinylTurnip]

@Otto

Oh, and the time that I got paid for it? Some drunk closet case in a bar. We talked for a while and he said something about how he’d pay $50 to give someone a blow job. Being drunk myself I took him up on it. He blew me, I drove him back to his car and he tried to talk me down to $40. I said no fucking way; even a 1st-time whore has to have his standards.

I have to say, as a heterosexual male I’ve always been baffled by the “pay to give a blowjob” concept. Do you ejaculate Louis XIII cognac or something?

[Cluricaun]

@Vinyl Turnip

I have to say, as a heterosexual male I’ve always been baffled by the “pay to give a blowjob” concept. Do you ejaculate Louis XIII cognac or something?

I found this curious as well, but wasn’t going to mention anything. Who would pay someone for that? Seems weird to this hetro dude too.

[Antinor01]

@Vinyl Turnip

I have to say, as a heterosexual male I’ve always been baffled by the “pay to give a blowjob” concept. Do you ejaculate Louis XIII cognac or something?

As a homosexual male, I find that concept bizarre as well. Though it seems to happen rather frequently.

[Siam_Sam]

@Otto

Which raises a question: are women customers allowed at the legal female brothels?

Answering for over here (even though the brothels are not legal). Yes, they are, and there are some Western ladies who patronize them. People always think of male customers when it comes to prostitution over here, but there is a small but not insignificant proportion of ladies seeking the girls out. Couples, too. I was in Long Gun Bar in Soi Cowboy last week – a bar, not a brothel – and a Western lady was having a good time indeed choosing a girl to go home with her that night. (No, the girls are not forced into lesbian encounters; more than a few of them are bi or lesbian. The mamasan will always know which ones.)

On Mike Tyson, perhaps not being gay colors my perspective, but even when he was at the top of his form, I always thought he was one scary-looking mofo.

[Otto]

@Vinyl Turnip

I have to say, as a heterosexual male I’ve always been baffled by the “pay to give a blowjob” concept. Do you ejaculate Louis XIII cognac or something?

There is a long tradition of “rough trade,” where supposedly straight men allow gay men to service them in exchange for cash.

But yes, I do in fact ejaculate Louis XIII cognac.

[Argent_Towers]

Is it true that there are extremely high-class and exclusive gay clubs where young men catheterize themselves and fill their bladders with wine, and later piss it into the mouths of the male patrons at the club? I heard about this somewhere but it seemed like it was the product of someone’s imagination.