A coworker told me that a couple of guys that we work with were talking about me, saying how they really thought I should get a man and “get out” more. They were puzzled why I never talk about my social life (like everyone else does.) The coworker says she tried sticking up for me, but she didn’t know what to say. Actually, I don’t even know why she even told me about this conversation. I didn’t really need to know about it.
I wasn’t offended or anything, but it feels weird knowing that my personal life was being discussed. I’ve heard other people being talked about behind their backs. I’ve talked about others behind their backs. But I guess I never figured that I would ever be the subject of anyone else’s conversations! Doh! :smack:
I don’t plan on acting any differently around these guys or anyone else. I yam who I yam and I’m fine having no man (or ma’am) :). I’m also not going to be making any grand confessions to anyone about why I yam the way I yam, because no one at work needs to know that kind of thing. But it did make me realize something for the first time. There are 40 something people on my floor. I don’t know everyone personally, but you spend a few minutes every day in the breakroom and you eventually learn the salient features of everyone’s life. I’m the only one in the group who’s not dating, married, or ever been married. And it will probably always be like this. This realization doesn’t make me feel sad or anything, but it does make me feel something. I just can’t describe it. Oh well. Maybe it will pass.
So I guess I shouldn’t be shocked to learn that I’ve been a “topic of the day.” I am an anomaly. Might as well get used to it.
Has anyone else made a similar discovery (that is, that people were talking about you at work, in a not-so-good way)? How did you feel when you found out? Did the discovery make you change how you behave so you would no longer be a topic of discussion, or did you just let it roll off your back? I guess it all depends on what people are talking about. If the guys were talking about my horrible BO, I would feel embarrassed. But just about anything else wouldn’t faze me. I wonder why that’s so? Seems like the reverse would be the case, right?