Have you ever been sexually attracted to a family member or a person of an inappropriate age? How did you deal with it?
No to the first; and like most males yes to the second ( because our “inappropriate age” is well after sexual maturity ). I dealt with it by ignoring it; and I’d do the same for the former. And no, I don’t feel guilty; guilt is for things you have control over.
Exact agreement here- AND HOW OFTEN DOES THAT HAPPEN HERE?!?
Let me clarify…
Ever seen an ass that you thought “holy jebus that’s fuckin hot” only it was a family member?
I’m going to go ahead and admit it - sometimes I find myself attracted to young teenage girls. I mean, I remember my high school years very well; I was fully sexually mature and sexually active in high school, and I was attracted to girls my own age. Which means girls who were 14 or 15 years old, in many cases. Hell, I was sexually mature (but not active) in middle school and I remember how intensely I was attracted to girls who were 13. Now, I am primarily attracted to women who are my own age or older. However, that part of my sexuality which was attracted to girls who were my own age when I was in high school has not disappeared. It is still there; it’s no longer in the forefront, but it’s still there. I know this might sound wrong, but it’s just the way it is.
People grow up, and they evolve and change over the course of their lives - but things from their past still stay with them. I will never forget the passionate crushes and the intensely exciting relationships I had with girls my age or younger, when I was 15 and 16 years old. I mean, it was such an exciting time…how could anyone forget it? Why would anyone want to?
So yeah, of course I catch myself getting aroused at the sight of young teenage girls, 14 or 15 years old; I mean, there’s always a new wave of them every year. I wouldn’t ever act on it, of course, because first of all, I have a girlfriend who I would never cheat on, and secondly I don’t really feel like being charged with statutory rape and going to jail.
I’ll be perfectly honest.
She is my Aunt and this question is 25 years old.
So anyone who was thinking I’m into younsters… SHAME ON YOU!!!
Well, yeah, cousins, but that’s perfectly OK, IMO.
Was this your parent’s sibling or your unlce’s wife, BTW?
Mothers sister FWIW.
everyone. pussy ain’t got no face (or age).
Not into the cousin thing.
Or any other type of incest.
Years ago I saw an ass that has stuck with me and it just happeneed to be my Aunt.
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This is a poll so it goes in IMHO. I edited the title to be more descriptive too.
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Act on it! 
I can’t do the 14 and 15 year old thing but 17 year olds definitely catch my attention sometimes. I don’t have very many first cousins but two of the females are incredibly attractive and I couldn’t help but notice. I also had a stepsister that I never really knew until I stayed with my father for a week and she is very, very attractive. She is also the most flirtatious person I have ever met even in the inappropriate physical sense and I didn’t really mind at the time but I still resisted. She was also 17 at the time so I guess I get a double score for that.
Frankly I assume this goes for everyone unless they suggest otherwise. It’s perfectly normal.
Both. What’s to “deal with”? Are most people incapable of being sexually attracted to someone without becoming sexually involved with them or something?
Oh man, if I got sexually involved with everyone I was attracted to, the damn thing wouldn’t have any skin left on it. I am total slut at the core. If Jimmy Carter was right about lusting in one’s heart, I’m so going to hell. On the other hand, it’s so perpetual and so, umm, unpicky, it’s also a bit like background noise. Some 0.0000000000002 % of it translates into anything remotely approaching sexual activity and I don’t expect the phenomenon of being sexually attracted to someone to have any such outcome unless a whole hell of a lot of other things also transpire.
Yeah, the way people are reacting to the, “Did you not act on it?” or “Go for it!” is a little weird because don’t you think that even if the one who’s attracted has no sense of normal boundaries, wouldn’t the other person presumably think it’s weird or creepy? If I had a nephew who was hot for me and he told me, I think it would make family reunions so awkward and weird and just horrifying.
No, though that could have something to do with the dearth of females in my family
In a casual sense, as in, “Hey, she’s sexy. I enjoy looking at her, and I’d really enjoy doing more than just looking if there weren’t plenty of good reasons not to”? This can, and does, happen dozens of times a day, given enough opportunity, and with females of all ages from puberty on. (Pre-pubescent girls, no, though every once in a while I see one that makes me think “She’s going to be a real hottie when she grows up.”) But these sorts of things aren’t things I need to “deal with.” So, in the sense that you’re talking about, probably not.
But if such a thing did happen, I would hope that how I would deal with it would be to not feel guilty about it; not obsess over her; maybe enjoy the good feelings I get from occasionally thinking about her; but never act on the attraction or behave toward her in a way that was at all inappropriate or sexually charged.
Some of my cousins have some very hot kids . . . all in their late teens through twenties now. I deal with it by enjoying the eye candy when I see them, and otherwise ignoring them.
As far as age is concerned . . . I seem to be the only person on the planet who has absolutely no age preference. I can be turned on by a kid or an elderly man. I recently saw a homeless man in France who had to be well into his 80s, and I had fantasies of bringing him back to my hotel room. And sometimes I see a little kid, and I think “This kid’s gonna be smokin’ hot after he reaches puberty,” but the thought never progresses beyond that. I’m not attracted to kids, but am able to discern potential.
I often will see young people that I find aesthetically pleasing, and enjoy their beauty (both male and female), but I don’t tend to feel sexually drawn to or aroused by them. They seem like babies to me, and that feels incompatible with sexual feelings in my responses. There are occasional exceptions, though.
When I saw the Harry Potter movie about the tournament, and the scene with Harry in the bathtub trying to figure out the egg? I had an immediate reaction of “grrrr…yow!” Then I felt bad about it. I talked myself through it later by saying that the situation (with the ghost girl being sort of predatory towards him) was what caused that reaction. Then I felt worse.
Good thread, and the honesty with which other posters have responded made me feel better, thanks.
What they said. You don’t hit yourself upside the head over it but just admit that you had an involuntary reaction, that maybe this person just plainly IS totally hot and your mental defenses were momentarily down; and since now they’re back up and it’s out of the question for anything to come from that, you let it go and move on to whatever else it was that you were supposed to be doing.
That’s setting aside that in the strict legalistic/cultural sense it’s almost inevitable for someone of “inappropriate age” to get a rise out of you at one point or another. There’s any number of girls in their early/mid teens who in looks and behavior would evoke Traci Lords (she was 15 in her first porn pics; anyone who has seen those can tell you, that was **no **“child”). Nothing to “deal with”, it’s just a natural reaction and you continue your daily business, wanting to curse The Man for setting the AoC one or two years too high, before admitting that anyway you don’t want to be That Creepy Old Guy hitting on the highschoolers.