When I get carded, the people who actually go to the trouble of calculating how old I am based on my birthdate are usually do a double take. When I go to casinos I carry my ID in my shirt’s front pocket; once a pit boss decided to give me some sticker indicating to dealers that I had already been carded.
When I was 26, I had a car-window-tinting salesman at the mall tell me to come back when I got my license.
Older people, when commenting on how young I look, always end with “you’ll be thankful when you’re older.” I’m fine with it now. Growing a goatee helped a little, but my facial hair comes in slowly and blonde.
I have always been told I looked young for my age. Recently someone a full decade younger than me assumed we were the same age.
I’m in my late 30s and it. Is. Awesome. My parents both look young for their age as well. Unfortunately my younger brother (3 years) looks older than me.
Not really a babyface per se, but I have always looked young. I don’t have laugh lines or anything. You have to look really close (like be right in my face) to see faint wrinkles when I smile.
I’ve been using plentyoffish.com and it doesn’t seem to be customary for people to give a reason for rejection. I’ve found that if a girl isn’t interested she will just delete my message. This is why I said, “I can’t really prove it”.
Anyway I think the main reason I’ve been getting a lot of comments about my boyish looks lately is because I have lost a lot of weight (70 lbs since last March). Basically everyone who comments on my weight will also bring up how much younger I look now. One of my coworkers recently said I look like I’m 17… And she said it in a way that was meant as a compliment, but it was something I really didn’t need to hear, haha.
It’s only been two weeks so I haven’t quite given up yet
Have you ever let yourself grow some stuble? Women love that and it will make you look older along with a good haircut. Make sure you are smiling. The problem is most woman don’t want to be with a guy that looks a lot younger then they do. Call it vanity. My Grandmother lied about her age and she was only two years older then my grandfather? If you look 17 then get some advice from your hairstylist and friends on how to look older. Update your pic and say you make 6 figures. Good luck!
You could start smoking, if you don’t already. That will take care of your youthful appearance problem, what with the premature wrinkling and sagging. Also, worship the sun. That’ll help a lot.
Looking young for one’s age runs in both my parents’s families. My mother and father both looked 10 years younger until they were well into their 60’s.
Since my teens I looked and sounded very young for my age. Being small didn’t help either. Took forever to reach my adult height of 5’7.
By my late teens it was a curse. At 30, I looked 20 and sounded 15. At 40 I still looked and sounded at least 10 years younger. About that time it began to be less of an issue for me; for example, my professional reputation was well-established by that point, and my “first impression” appearance mattered less. At around 50 it finally turned into an asset, and now at 59 I quite enjoy looking so young, although the effect is diminishing – my wife says I now look “only” 5-10 years younger.
I’m short (only 154cm / 5’1/2’’), with blonde curls, a young face and a high voice. I’m eighteen but look about fourteen. It drives me nuts.
It can be particularly annoying when I’m with my Brownie group (who are between six and ten), as I’m obviously too old to be one of them but don’t look nearly old enough to be in charge of them. Or when I’m trying to rent something rated MA from a video store.
It runs in the family. A teacher once thought my mother, who was 48 at the time, was my sister, and my grandmother used to get charged a child’s fare when she caught the train to work even when she had her nurse’s uniform on.
I get asked if I’m old enough to buy beer and lotto tickets every time I buy them at the corner store. I’m 28 AND I buy these at the same store, staffed by the same three guys every time. After two years, I’d think they’d know by now!
Have you ever considered that the title of the website is really “plenty offish” and the women have a thing for ugly people?
I’m only 20 so it’s not much of a problem for me, but stubble isn’t always an option. I can’t grow facial hair too well. I’m so blonde that everything from a stache to stubble is utterly unnoticeable. A full grown goatee to the point where you can see it without being two inches from my face just looks scraggly on me, even if I “groom” it it just looks like a tangled mess.
do not look my age. I once mentioned to a 15 year old that I remembered when rock music started with the Beatles. She was totally nonplussed for three minutes, drop jawed and staring at me. Finally she said “Just how old are you?” I aid 51. She screamed “I thought you were about 35!”
I’m a 30 y/o male who has a baby face. I am often carded; a friend of mine recently told me that I look like I “finally” turned twenty. It’s been very difficult. Women have often spoken in a condescending tone to me, often saying things like, “well, isn’t that cute?” when I try to add to the conversation before turning away from me. Most men have been unable to look me in my big eyes and have frequently acted as if I am not there because, I think, big eyes are a turn-on and they can’t admit to themselves that a guy turned them on. My one saving grace has been my very dark, very thick beard. I actually went through a period recording people’s reactions to me in a journal when I wore a beard and when I did not wear a beard. People treat me much more civily and respectfully when I wear a beard (although men still can’t look me in the eyes, they allow my input in the conversation). Every once in a while I shave off my beard because it really is a lot of maintenance to keep it looking nice for the office, but I’ve immediately grown it back because people start speaking condescendingly to me again. I would definitely recommend growing a beard if you can. Without a beard, I’m sure my career would not have advanced as far as it has.
Looking young is one thing. When I hear ‘baby face’ I think of someone with a round face with chubby cheeks and soft youthful features - that’s something different.
I had the opposite problem, I was born looking 35 (“congratulations–it’s a dowager!”) and I have looked middle-aged ever since (now that I *am *middle-aged, maybe things will start to even out).
I remember going to check out my high school for the first time and being asked if I was there to register my son or daughter; and when I went to dinner a few years ago with my (older!) sister, the waiter asked me what my *daughter *wanted! She has never let me forget that.
Oh this is an old thread but the common wisdom I’ve heard about dating sites is that men send messages and women receive them. If you are a man and you are not getting messages that aren’t spam, it’s probably not just you - it’s the way these sites have come to work.
Or take Crystal Meth. Have you ever seen pics of how that ages a person! :eek: