Having no friends a dealbreaker in a relationship?

[wonky]

@drewtwo99

I don’t personally use the word female very often when speaking to women, but the more and more I see them taking umbrage to it, the more it makes me want to use it out of spite. It’s a ridiculous hangup.

If you don’t understand it, it must be unreasonable and therefore you should use it to try to hurt people. Charming.

[CatherineZeta]

@Stringbean

Similarly, it is not attractive for a girl to have a thousand guy friends. It’s obvious you just want attention to hide your insecurity.

What’s up with this comment? I have many platonic male friends although they’re generally work friends or housemates*. They’re not guys I hang out with outside of work or outside the apartment with the exception of one who is in theatre and I support his work by seeing his plays, etc. Another guy friend I only see in group situations since he’s my friend’s friend from high school/her roommate and he’s part of our social group by extension.

I think any guy who would have a problem with this is an insecure idiot himself. People have the right to be friends with whoever they click with or are in a situation together with and I don’t think the sex of anyone should matter.

*Many of these guy friends I no longer speak to if I’ve moved on from the job or they’re no longer my housemate, but I’ll still sometimes relate a funny anecdote about something that happened in the past that had to do with them.

And regarding the “females” thing it’s usually how** it’s said, not the word itself. Most of the guys I’ve heard talking about “females” are speaking about them as if they are animals or some other species. It’s also weird because “female” is usually used by these guys when they wouldn’t say “male”, as in “Look at that female across the street” vs “Look at that man across the street.”

[Thudlow_Boink]

@drewtwo99

I just have to laugh and shake my head at people who get upset over the use of the term female to describe human beings that match that criteria.

It doesn’t even register when someone uses the word “male” to describe me. Because I’m a male. And there is nothing wrong with the word female. Nothing to be ashamed of, or to be used only for “animals” (as if human beings weren’t animals, and as if there weren’t female plants as well)

I don’t personally use the word female very often when speaking to women, but the more and more I see them taking umbrage to it, the more it makes me want to use it out of spite. It’s a ridiculous hangup.

This is kind of a hijack for this thread, but it’s an issue that’s been discussed before. Here’s one old thread I managed to find: Do men who call women “females” come off as insulting?