This is my first Christmas without my baby girl. Yeah, so what if she’s 19? But wait, it gets worse. Christmas is also her birthday. When somebody has a birthday, they get to pick what we have for dinner. So for 18 years we had macaroni n cheese with hot dogs and chicken nuggets for Christmas dinner. Last night it dawned on me that I haven’t made a traditional Christmas dinner in 18 years and had not even planned one.
I miss my baby!
Yeah, I still have two at home, but we all felt a little lost.
I cannot imagine what it would be like to not have my daughter at Christmas. I’m guessing from your post that she is deceased. Mine is 35, and again, i cannot imagine this. You have my sincerest sympathy and my prayers.
That’s my question, as well. Three close friends of mine are spending their first xmas without their daughter: leukemia, car crash, suicide. I’m sorry for your loss and so sorry that my friends are going through such a brutal time.
The default assumption is that the OP’s daughter has died?
“she’s 19” not “she would have been 19”
“I still have two at home” not “I still have two who are with us and healthy”
I took it the same way Tabby_Cat took it. College, maybe studying abroad? The OP is pretty light for a deceased child post.
I can only imagine assuming the worst comes from the fact that she’s not home for Christmas. Is death really the only reasonable explanation for a young adult to not be home for Christmas? Maybe travel’s too expensive? Maybe she and her boyfriend are spending Christmas with his family? Maybe she had an opportunity to travel but has to do it over Christmas, during the break between the fall semester and the spring semester?
surrounded by literalists, assuming your daughter is alive and well, I hope she’s having a wonderful time wherever she is. I know there’s a certain sting to watching them grow up, and the first holiday without the family all together can be hard.
Well, the problem, you see, is that the OP is, uh, surrounded by literalists
I read it like bienville, and I feel ya. My little one (6) is spending the week with her father in another state. To mangle Jo from Little Women, “Christmas just isn’t Christmas without the littlest Not.” We’ve still got all the presents wrapped under the tree waiting so we can do Our Christmas when she gets home.
The rest of us went to my mom’s for Christmas dinner, but it was just too darn quiet without a little kid running around hopped up on holiday cheer and ripping into fun presents.
My vote is that one of the other children on their non Christmas birthday decided to have the oldest daughter for dinner and they cooked and ate her because, well, birthday kid gets whatever they want.
