Yesterday, this hot lady came to my tire shop looking for new tires and rims for her car. I noticed that she was staring and smiling at me a lot more than what is usualy appropriate in these situations. I returned the smiles. Just before leaving she mentioned that she owns the beauty parlor down the street.
What should I do now? I should mention that I am 25 while she’s about 40. Should I drop by her shop and ask for her number? Ask her out? Or are these inappropriate for a lady of this age?
You could have her give you a haircut. She probably feels more at ease talking to a man who is a customer, and she’s running her fingers through his hair. You can get to know each other a little better before you decide whether to go out together.
After all, you’ll need a haircut more often than she’ll need tires. If she comes back for more tires in three weeks, bub, she definitely wants you.
Stop by her shop. Look her in the eyes and say "I came by to see if you were satisfied…(wait a few seconds for a response or reaction)…with the tires? If that doesn’t break the ice you could then ask her to give you a haircut (whether you need one or not) and engage her in small talk. If you haven’t got something going by then I think you misread her intentions.
She hasn’t bought anything yet, she just came for advice. Anyway, I dropped by her shop last Tuesday to give her some wheel catalogs. When I saw her, I was stunned. She was more beautiful than I remembered
Anyway, we did some small talk and I gave her the catalogs. Her name is Jacquelyn and judging from her accent she must be from the UK. I told her that I will need the catalogs back and she said she would bring them at my shop. But almost a week has passed since then and she didn’t come. I’m a little worried now. I guess I will pay her a visit tommorow morning.
I can remember back when I worked as a hairdresser, there was a guy I met at a party. I thought he was interested in me, I was interested in him. I mentioned where I worked.
I was thrilled when he showed up at the salon. He didn’t need a haircut. And I really didn’t want to give him a haircut he didn’t need. He had something else in mind.
He said he needed a manicure. Men getting manicures is a bit more common now, but back then it was unheard of. So his asking for one made me like him even more. It showed me that he was very confident, and didn’t worry what others would think of him. Very sexy. He had some fake reason for needing a manicure, I forget now what it was. But I knew he really didn’t need a manicure, he just wanted to get to know me. And he knew I knew, so the whole thing was quite romantic.
The set up for a manicure is actually perfect for some serious flirting and getting to know one another. It is not usually a sensual experience, but it can be. The manicure station was in the back. We sat across from each other, just a few feet apart, and we spent most of the time looking deep into each another’s eyes. The manicure table was quite narrow, so our knees were touching. And most of the time we sat there, I was touching his hands in one way or another. Since he had never had a manicure, I let him know it would take much longer than usual. He assured me he didn’t mind.
I tell you all this as perhaps an idea for when you next see her. Since she owns the shop I don’t know if she does manicures, but if she does, I would highly recommend it.
Why would a woman at 40 be any different than a woman of 25? Even if she said no, she might be very flattered that you asked and you would have made her day. But definitely size up the situation first (okay make what you will of that statement boys). Getting a haircut or manicure or pedicure is a good suggestion. After you have elicited enough information that she is amenable to dating, you might try the “Would you ever date a younger man?” approach. If she has never done it, offer to be the first. Oh hell, just be yourself.
Don’t be worried that she hasn’t responded in a week. That is where the age factor does come into play. Older woman/younger man is not as socially acceptable…but I hear more sexually compatible. That, I guess, is for you to find out… Anyway, older women, generally speaking, definitely like the man to be the aggressor, e.g., be the one to ask the woman out, make the first move, and so on.
My stepfather is 9 years younger than my mother, and they’ve been married for nigh 15 years. Otherwise, I agree. I’m terrified of women in general so I never make the first move, but if I were in your situation I probably would. Sounds like she digs you and I would definitely make use of A.R. Cane’s line.
I wouldn’t mention the age thing at all. She works in the beauty industry. She most likely spends a lot of time on her hair, chosing the right clothes, make-up etc. She is probably told by others who know her that she doesn’t look her age. She likes to hear that. She may even believe it. So the last thing you want to do is bring it up.
If you ask her out, she may bring it up. She may something along the lines of, “You know, I am older than you.” The proper response is, “I really doubt that, you must think I am younger than I am.” If she makes you guess how old she is, take off 10 years. And base that just on what she has accomplished. You can say you figured she had to be at least 30, because she owns her own salon.
I have quite a few 40ish hairdresser friends, so trust me on this. You can’t let her think for a moment she is the lucky one, having a guy so much younger interested in her. She needs to feel that you see yourself as the lucky one, to be able to go out with her. Having a much younger guy interested in an older woman is flattering, but that alone won’t make her say yes.
And I agree that in these situations, the woman generally does like the man to be the aggressor.
Go grab some flowers (do be sure there is no baby’s breath crap in there) and tuck a clip-on tire pressure gauge in the middle with your hand-written invitiation/note…
“I’d love to buy you lunch this week. What do you think? Dog80 878-837-4846 or stop by the shop”
You can drop this by before her shop opens or have a buddy deliver them for you.
I agree with that. Don’t treat her as an “old woman,” treat her as you would any woman.
I’m not sure about the “older women want the man to be the aggressor” thing though. My SO is 40-something and I’m early 30s, and I would hardly call myself aggressive. She asked me out the first time.
