Help me find a reading for my wedding?

I’m looking for a reading for my upcoming wedding, to be read by my fiance’s two sisters, and I’m really picky.

Our ceremony will be 100% secular, so I would rather that the reading does not have any mention at all of God. We’ve pored over literally hundreds of suggested readings in books and on websites, but they all seem overly flowery or mushy, or have been done to death at the weddings of our friends. It’ll be a traditional ceremony (even though it’s not religious) and so something really wacky and off-the-wall wouldn’t really fit in, but at the same time, we’d like something a little different from the same old same old. Also not a big fan of Shakespeare-style language.

The sort of thing that we would like to express is similar to that in the old “I love you not only for what you are but for what I am when I am with you”, but I am really bored of hearing it at every wedding I’ve been to for the last couple years and imagine my friends are too. We also kind of like some of the Native blessings we’ve seen on some of the websites we’ve looked on, but again, we’d like to avoid anything that’s popular enough that it’s on one of those websites in the first place. (And please, I mean no offense to anyone who’s used any of these, I think they’re really lovely, just not quite what we’re looking for)

So, any thoughts for a totally secular, non-mushy, plain-English, somewhat original reading?

We used a reading from Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet:

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

Our three readings, winnowed from a lot:

The last has the word “Lord” in it, but it’s plenty good enough that we didn’t have a problem with it.

Our reading was from The Building of the Ship by Longfellow. Here’s a few excerpts from which you might pull some material:

On the deck another bride
Is standing by her lover’s side.
Shadows from the flags and shrouds,
Like the shadows cast by clouds,
Broken by many a sunny fleck,
Fall around them on the deck.

The prayer is said,
The service read,
The joyous bridegroom bows his head;
And in tears the good old Master
Shakes the brown hand of his son,
Kisses his daughter’s glowing cheek
In silence, for he cannot speak,
And ever faster
Down his own the tears begin to run.
The worthy pastor –
The shepherd of that wandering flock,
That has the ocean for its wold,
That has the vessel for its fold,
Leaping ever from rock to rock –
Spake, with accents mild and clear,
Words of warning, words of cheer,
But tedious to the bridegroom’s ear.
He knew the chart
Of the sailor’s heart,
All its pleasures and its griefs,
All its shallows and rocky reefs,
All those secret currents, that flow
With such resistless undertow,
And lift and drift, with terrible force,
The will from its moorings and its course.
Therefore he spake, and thus said he: –

“Like unto ships far off at sea,
Outward or homeward bound, are we.
Before, behind, and all around,
Floats and swings the horizon’s bound,
Seems at its distant rim to rise
And climb the crystal wall of the skies,
And then again to turn and sink,
As if we could slide from its outer brink.
Ah! it is not the sea,
It is not the sea that sinks and shelves,
But ourselves
That rock and rise
With endless and uneasy motion,
Now touching the very skies,
Now sinking into the depths of ocean.
Ah! if our souls but poise and swing
Like the compass in its brazen ring,
Ever level and ever true
To the toil and the task we have to do,
We shall sail securely, and safely reach
The Fortunate Isles, on whose shining beach
The sights we see, and the sounds we hear,
Will be those of joy and not of fear!”


And lo! from the assembled crowd
There rose a shout, prolonged and loud,
That to the ocean seemed to say,
“Take her, O bridegroom, old and gray,
Take her to thy protecting arms,
With all her youth and all her charms!”

How beautiful she is! How fair
She lies within those arms, that press
Her form with many a soft caress
Of tenderness and watchful care!
Sail forth into the sea, O ship!
Through wind and wave, right onward steer!
The moistened eye, the trembling lip,
Are not the signs of doubt or fear.
Sail forth into the sea of life,
O gentle, loving, trusting wife,
And safe from all adversity
Upon the bosom of that sea
Thy comings and thy goings be!
For gentleness and love and trust
Prevail o’er angry wave and gust;
And in the wreck of noble lives
Something immortal still survives!


Fear not each sudden sound and shock,
'T is of the wave and not the rock;
'T is but the flapping of the sail,
And not a rent made by the gale!
In spite of rock and tempest’s roar,
In spite of false lights on the shore,
Sail on, nor fear to breast the sea!
Our hearts, our hopes, are all with thee,
Our hearts, our hopes, our prayers, our tears,
Our faith triumphant o’er our fears,
Are all with thee, – are all with thee!

e.e. cummings, “i carry your heart”

This was one of the readings at my wedding, and I haven’t heard it at any others, but I don’t know how commonly it’s used.

Thank you for sharing that, that’s beautiful!

It sounds cliched at the beginning, and does mention God, but “How Do I Love Thee?” is very pretty and solemn.

Wow, thank you all, these are all so beautiful.
I really appreciate it!

I had the lyrics from John Denver’s Annie’s Song read at my wedding.

“Come, let me love you, let me give my life to you.
Let me drown in your laughter, let me die in your arms.
Let me lay down beside you, let me always be with you.
Come, let me love you, come love me again.”

They’re beautiful, and I love the song.