This has been on my mind for quite sometime, but another thread about developing a medical condition is what finally got me here to start a thread about it. The phrase that intrigued me was:
I guess I can’t relate to, and therefore don’t understand, why one would choose to lead a sedentary lifestyle if they have a weight problem and a fondness for junk food. Or why one would indulge in one’s fondness for junk food if one has a weight problem and leads a sedentary lifestyle. I know that some people have problems and can’t help it if they gain weight, but this person seems to not only be cognizant of the fact that s/he has a problem, s/he almost seems to revel in it. I honestly don’t get it.
In addition to letting oneself go by all but purposely gaining lots of weight, I don’t understand why some people leave the house looking so. . .sloppy, I guess would be the best descriptor. I don’t so much see this at the school my son’s currently attend, but at my son’s former school, a lot of the Moms would look so bad when they’d drop their kids off. They’d have on ratty sweats with bedroom slippers or gross sneakers, threadbare shorts and decades-old, yellowing t-shirts–just foul-looking. These Moms didn’t just stay in the car, either, they’d stand in the playground until the bell rang signaling the children could enter the school. In all honestly, I would not have been surprised if I’d learned they’d just rolled out of bed and got in the car to take their kids to school.
This isn’t about not caring what other people think, either. I don’t think it’s that simple. I say that because I don’t care what people think about my appearance. I wear what I like to wear, regardless of what people think (and I’ve got the paisley cords and Hank Williams t-shirt to prove it, too). I was raised to make sure I look presentable whenever I leave the house. If I was off from work on a day I had to drop my son off from school, I’d make sure my hair was combed, my teeth were brushed and I had on something decent–a pair of jeans and a sweater, a denim skirt and a t-shirt, a pair of chinos and nice hoodie, or something along those lines–nothing fancy, but nothing gross, either. At first I thought maybe these people didn’t allow enough time in the morning to groom themselves, but I see people like this at the grocery store, sometimes, too, so I don’t think that’s the issue. At least, it’s not necessarily the issue.
So, help me understand this mentality. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating every woman, for example, should be a size four and ensconce herself in Robert Rodriguez ensembles whenever she leaves the house. I know not all people are like this, either, but I see and hear about enough who are, so I’m trying to understand those who let themselves go. I find it especially puzzling if the person who’s let his/herself go is married. Why wouldn’t you want to look good for your spouse, of all people?
Finally, this is emphatically not a rant. I don’t want it to escalate into a platform for bashing people. It’s really just a plea to help me wrap my brain around behavior practiced by a subset of society that I just don’t get.