Thank you–Led Zepplin
If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you.
When mountains crumble to the sea, there will still be you and me.
…
My love is strong, with you there is no wrong,
together we shall go until we die.
My sister and her husband danced to “When I said I do” by Clint Black and Lisa Hartman.
Here’s the lyrics, cheesy typical wedding song, but so beautiful:
These times are troubled and these times are good
And they’re always gonna be, they rise and they fall
We take 'em all the way that we should
Together you and me forsaking them all
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Sorry for inspiring all the warnings, Dex. Guys, just names and snippets are fine! No whole songs, please.
Right now we’re swamped in getting the invites out. I’ll be back next week to finish going through the suggestions. Thanks!
I highly second The Luckiest by Ben Folds.
Also good is Meant To Be by the Squirrel Nut Zippers. Snippet Here
*All the time
I’m finding ways to make things fall in line.
I know how tricky things can be.
But I really do believe that you are mine
and all the stars are there before us.
Listen here some things are meant to be. *
Love poem from Tom Maxwell to his wife (they’re still married! yay!)
OK, thanks again everyone for their responses. Here’s what we thought so far:
[ul]
[li]Storybook Love - Falls into the “one-sided” trap. It’s about how much he loves her, and not vice-versa. [/li][li]Tonight You Belong to Me - “I know, you belong to somebody new”? nope.[/li][li]The Nearness of You - Too jazzy[/li][li]What a wonderful world - Too overplayed (Even Iz’s Over the Rainbow version, which I looove.)[/li][li]Love Song for a Vampire - I’m not even sure I understand the lyrics. “Cruel winter chilled the bud, and stole my flower too soon”?[/li][li]Baby Mine - Too sad[/li][li]I Will - “And when at last I find you” We’ve already found each other.[/li][li]You Are So Beautiful - Too overplayed (makes me thing of an environmental PSA of my youth).[/li][li]At Last - Personal preference, I just don’t like the song.[/li][li]The Air That I Breathe - “Making love with you. Has left me peaceful, warm, and tired” [/li][li]You Take My Breath Away - “So please don’t go. Don’t leave me here all by myself”[/li][li]More Than This - too abstract, lyricly.[/li][li]Somos La Semilla - too Spanish. 
I want to be able to understand it.[/li][li]Merry Widow Waltz - I’d rather not have “widow” in the title.[/li][li]The One - “When chances breathe between the silence, Where sex and love no longer gel” nope. Also, not a big Elton fan.[/li][li]Beautiful In My Eyes - Lyrics are nice. GonzoGal doesn’t like the music.[/li][li]I Concentrate On You - not a big Sinatra fan.[/li][/ul]
Anne Neville, thanks for the advice, but it’s not that Grandma will fall over from shock at hearing words like “make love to me through the night.” It’s more that they probably don’t want to be thinking about the two of us in particular “making love through the night.” The abstract is ok. For the first dance, though, it’s naturally connected to us, which is TMI for the relatives.
PsychoBabble, well, there’s France, where we got engaged, but like I said about the Ricky Martin song, I’d like to understand the lyrics.
[ul]
[li]I Know You Know - “And I know I should’ve left while I still could” nope[/li][li]**These Are the Moments ** - GonzoGal vetoed this for being overplayed. I’ve never heard it before, but she listens to stuff like “Delilah” on the radio, so I trust she knows what she’s talking about.[/li][li]Love Will Keep Us Alive - Has the “I was down in the depths of despair until I met you” vibe.[/li][li]Annie’s Song - “Let me die in your arms.” That’s either depressing or bawdy and I don’t know which.[/li][li]**Book of Love ** - “The book of love is long and boring”? We think love’s pretty exciting.[/li][li]You Send Me - “You send me” where?[/li][li]In Spite of Ourselves - Cute, but too risque, and too sarcastic[/li][li]I’ll Be Your Mirror - sweet, but not really us.[/li][li]I Won’t Last a Day Without You - Another “I was down in the depths of despair until I met you” song[/li][li]It’s Only Time - Somehow I skipped this one… Will have to give it a listen.[/li][li]Love Song - hard to dance to, GonzoGal doesn’t like it.[/li][li]Then we got some jokesters… Here you go: 
Now, moving on…[/li][li]Tupelo Honey - Too one-sided. [/li][li]It Had To Be You - Nice song… but I’m not crazy about it.[/li][li]Absolute Beginners - After 8 years together, we don’t feel like beginners.[/li][li]Annabella’s Song - one-sided. Plus: “Call you on the telephone, you will not talk to me”[/li][li]Come What May - yes, too cheesy. 
but we had considered it.[/li][li]FNT - “Fascinating new thing” Fascinating, yes. New, no.[/li][li]Could I Have This Dance - Too Anne Murray ;)[/li][li]We Belong - Love Pat Benatar, but isn’t this more of an after-breakup song?[/li][li]They Don’t Know - Too defiant. There may be people who “don’t approve,” but we want the first dance to be about us, not them.[/li][li]Come Rain or Come Shine - Another one I missed. Will have to give it a listen.[/li][li]Heart “If I didn’t love you, I would look around for someone else” Meh.[/li][li]These Dreams - Too abstract, and too rockin’[/li][li]Aqualung - another smartass, but I do love Jethro Tull. GonzoGal hates them, though…[/li][li]The first time ever I saw your face - Close, but… “And the first time ever I lay with you”[/li][li]Love Me Tender - Niether of us particularly like Elvis…[/li][li]Parabol/Parabola - Not quite danceable is it? (Moshing aside)[/li][li]So Far Away - No Staind… sorry.[/li][li]In Your Eyes - sweet, but overplayed.[/li][li]Head Over Feet - too reluctant[/li][li]Dreams - also overplayed[/li][li]Yellow - I can’t stand Coldplay. (Although GonzoGal likes them.)[/li][li]All I Want Is You - too overplayed[/li][/ul]
Phew…
That’s how far through the list we got so far. More responses to come. I’m beginning to think we’re too picky. Although the good news is that we may have a back up. We were sitting in the bagel shop the other day, and You’re the Inspiration by Chicago came on. And yes, somwhere in that ridiculously sappy 80’s song is exactly what we want to say. After all, it’s no more sappy than “From this Moment on”… is it?.. is it?.. We’re considering… But don’t let that stop you from making more suggestions. (In fact, some might say it’s even more of an incentive to find something better.)
Thanks again!
Damn. Ever think about a career in vetting Bush Administration intelligence, gonzoron?
I always liked You’re the Inspiration…
Did you not consider my suggestion, Lonestar’s Amazed, because it’s Country?
Keeper of the Stars is another good Country love song, so is Unanswered Prayers.
I’m partial to Shameless, but that’s because it’s a Country song originally written by Billy Joel.
“Our Sister the Sun” by the Insect Trust (okay, this is from the '70s. But it doesn’t sound like it.)
However, it’s almost 8 minutes long. But good for a slow dance I’d think.
Guarantee it hasn’t been done to death!
I’ve been down this road 3 times. “The One” was the first dance at my first wedding (still think it was a good choice). The Honeydrippers’ “Sea of Love” was my second. Now that I’ve (hopefully) got it right this time, I suggest “Amazed” by Lonestar. I’m no big fan of country music, but no song evokes my feelings for my wife quite like it. Good luck!
If you want something a little less schmaltzy, you could go with Bad Touch by The Bloodhound Gang: You and me baby ain’t nothin’ but mammals so let’s do it like they do on the Discovery channel
How about “When you wish upon a star.” sung by Jiminey Cricket. I thought this was a very cool first dance. Mushy yet whimsical. Well known but in a new context.
How is *Parabol *not danceable? *Parabola *isn’t but that’s a seperate song.
It makes more sense if you see the movie—A main character’s—OK, it’s Dracula himself—girlfriend (the “rarest rose”) died tragically while he was still human, and he took it pretty hard. So, basically, the song’s about his doomed, immortal love.
And Lennox has a purdy voice, to boot.
I’ve been told this WILL be the song for my upcoming wedding. She had the song chosen before she had me. As I am really quite unconcerned with such trivial details as the first song that become family lore (and boy do I hear it every time Eric Clapton’s “Wonderful Tonight” comes on when I’m with either of my parents), I’m fine with the choice. It’s a good song, great with Tony singing.
For the OP, the title (and some lyrics related to it) might put it in your “no” bin, but we had been considering Norah Jones “Turn Me On” for a while before Only Mostly Missus decided she wants to use her standby.
Something that worked really well in a movie was Van Morrison “Into the Mystic” in American Wedding (American Pie 3). There’s probably other Van that would work too (“Have I Told You Lately”, most famously performed by Rod Stewart comes to mind, but is in your one-sided category).
My parents used “God Only Knows” by the Beach Boys, which I think is one of the most beautiful love songs ever written.
I have a few…
Bed of Roses - Bon Jovi
And two songs from the Shrek soundtrack (quite nice actually)
You Belong To Me - Jason Wade
Just remember till
You’re home again
You belong to me
Oh I’ll be so alone without you
Maybe you’ll be lonesome too
It is you (I have loved)
But an unexpected way
On this unexpected day
Could it mean this is where I belong
It is you I have loved all along
As a footnote, I’ll be having Bittersweet Symphony by The Verve as mine, I played it at my step-dads funeral and it’ll be like having him right there with me. But other than that…what an amazingly beautiful song…
Die Walkure - aka “Ride of the Valkyries”.
“Toccata And Fugue In D Minor”.
I virtually guarantee you these have not been "done to death’ for weddings. 
We usedLonger by Dan Fogelberg. We had these two lines on our invitations
“We’ll fly through the Falls and Summers with love on our wing.”
Our other choices were Our House by Crosby, Stills and Nash, orThere is Love (The Wedding Song)by Paul Stookey or We’ve only Just Begun by (blush) The Carpenters.
My choice, Janis Ian’s Page Nine was vetoed.
If you’re willing to learn to tango you could use the achingly beautiful yet whimsical and recognizable Solace: A Mexican Serenade by Scott Joplin.
Though we didn’t do the traditional ‘first dance’ at our wedding, we used this piece as our recessional and meet & greet music. I think it just sparkles with understated joy and a sense of hopefulness.