And maybe inviting spouses might help put them at ease. Not that MY spousal unit would go, but maybe jarhubby or BunnyHubby might like to at least get invited.
If food is involved Mr. Jarbaby will be there.
Good point, drop. I think he needs to see that the men are all gentlemen and the gals are all ladies, deep down. Not the freaks we see in the pictures! 
I can always broach the subject, albeit gently. I’ll just keep track of the thread and hopefully it’d work out. I really would enjoy spending some quieter time with y’all, even though you know I enjoy the loud rowdies the most.
After my daughter looked over my shoulder while I viewed the fest pix, making us at least SEEM respectable has been on my mind. 
What’s that wink for? You on the hunt for a little “quiet time” with Dopers? Shall I give you the grand tour of my house?
Yeah, I’m sure that’s exactly what is needed to improve things between me and the missus!
Actually, I was winking because it almost seems, to me, anyway, that I’m a ChiDoper* despite the fact that I’m ~300 miles away from day to day. 'Course, if you are offering, I’d love to tour your abode, dear.
[sub]*: I’ve been up there, what, 5 times this year?[/sub]
Well there’s no friggin’ chance of that happenin’. I’ve met the man and ruined any chance the rest of you have of proving to Mr. Bunny that you are ladies and gentlemen. Except wring, of course. It’s impossible to deny her genteelness.
A quiet get-together sounds fantastic! I actually would have been there on Saturday if my plans weren’t constantly changing and I’d been able to plan my day better. But I would much rather do something quieter anyway.
Also, hubby and I are really into board games, and as such have a ton of them (I mean, really, our shelves are overflowing). So if anyone is interested, we could bring Outburst[sub]TM[/sub] or Trivial Pursuit[sub]TM[/sub] or something like that.
Lemme see when the roommate is travelling this fall so I can plan better, and I’ll posit some dates. Spouses definitely invited! Maybe I’ll even invite some of the “norms” I hang with.
I’m with thinks - I consider myself a ChiDoper too. I think this is a great idea. I remember discussing it at some point last weekend… and I think that the late September/early October idea is fabulous! I also like the idea of board games. We’ve got some reeeeeally smart people in Chicago – I want them on my team.
Sorry, Bob, but that’s hard to believe. You’ve always been a perfect gentleman with me and have kept potentially embarassing boy-on-boy action to a minimum.
I’m all for something that might be a little more low-key, but you all know it’s going to be the same group of people, right? Hell, this crowd makes me look shy and retiring. I wouldn’t expect everyone to turn into wallflowers because we’re not in public. Or are the loud, obnoxious dopers not invited?
errrr…good point, porcupine. Well, at least we won’t be in a naturally loud place, trying to be heard over music and other patrons. Hopefully people will calm down on the photo-stunts - no jumping into each other’s laps, for example. It’s up to the shy, quiet Dopers to either make themselves heard for find a quiet corner with other quiet Dopers and talk, easier to do in a living room than in a bar. I’m still up for hosting, loud, quiet, or otherwise.
Let’s face it…at heart, everyone’s a ChiDoper. Except you. You know who you are.
But, as for a nice, quiet evening, while I doubt the possibility of that, I’m all for it. I’m the wallflower here, remember
And, Bunny, you know you get love from all of us. Good luck with whatever it is.
That sounds like a great idea, Mags! Iwill of course prepare some wonderful dish to astound and amaze as I always do 
Re: the high incidence of groping, the pics thinks took of me which make me look like some weird lecher, I was actually a bit of a wallflower at this ChiDope. I mean that in terms of groping, and otherwise making my horniness abundantly clear, I prefer to keep my light under a bushel as it were…
BTW. drop, isn’t it more likely to turn into an actual orgy if it’s in private?
My point. I can’t ask you people to change your spots, or to become a professional wallflower like me. But this way, whatever happens, I’ll know what’s going on. We wallflowers like to live, too, even if it’s vicariously.
Can I go to this one?
And bring a karaoke machine?
Or my bowling ball?
Or at least the wrist-straightener-thingee?
[sub]Milo, too? There goes “quiet!”[/sub]
I’m sure you are welcome. It wouldn’t be a party without you!