I would say that I’m hypervigilant when I’m out and about in the world. I know what’s going on around, in front of, and behind me at all times. My car doors are always locked when I’m inside, even when it’s just a quick trip to the corner store. I’m frequently scanning for unexpected or unusual activity.
While I’m not paranoid, I do instinctively feel that there are predators out there, perhaps more than one would think. It wouldn’t surprise me to learn that there are predators at almost any location, watching people to pick out one that looks weak, unaware, and/or helpless. It’s my goal to automatically come across as most definitely not a target, and it must be working as I’ve never been targeted as far as I know. Maybe I never would have been, even if I’d put myself across as the nicest person in the world, I’ll never know, but I’m happy with my results, regardless.
A couple of weeks ago, a woman was standing outside her car on the side of a busy city neighborhood street and tried to wave me down. I felt bad about it, but I didn’t stop. I may have if my young son hadn’t been with me, or if it had been a remote area, but I figured in that situation the safe thing to do would be to let her flag down some big strong guy in a work truck, one’ll be along any second. Would you have stopped?
Of course, the reason I am so serious about my and my family’s safety is because I’ve been a single mom for a long, long time and everyone’s protection is my job. I imagine men have felt this way for time immortal. It is stressful, you can never just daydream and stare out into the sky. You’re always waiting, waiting, for something odd to happen so you can take action. It’s a good thing nothing ever happens, though, because for all the badass I try to act like I am, I can’t fight for shit. I’d totally get my ass kicked.
And now for the poll part: Are you a drifting daydreamer as I long to be, or are you constantly alert and aware of what’s going on around you as I actually am, or are you somewhere in between? Male or female? Parent or not? City or rural?