Your cousin’s pediatrician is correct that an increase in breakthrough infections (symptomatic infections in people inoculated by vaccination or prior infection) has been observed with the B.1.167 variants (‘Kappa’ and ‘Delta’). However, vaccination, and in particular the mRNA vaccines (Pfizer/BioNTech, Moderna) still seem to offer good protection against severe illness and death based on trends where it is spreading in vaccinated populations compared to unvaccinated people. How much the newer variants compromise immune response is unknown because nobody is really doing comprehensive population sample testing and the virus often presents no symptoms in otherwise healthy people (although there has been an increase in severe infections in younger people compared to the original ‘wild type’ SARS-CoV-2 virus) but virologists and immunologists have suspected from the beginning that this virus would adapt and become endemic in the population.
The rate at which it has adapted and the pathology of the virus has been surprising because of the original perception of this being ‘just’ a respiratory virus, but that just reinforces the need for a comprehensive vaccination campaign as well as continued development of therapeutics and treatments for those who do get a severe presentation of the disease. What I’ve seen of the B.1.167.2 variant is worrisome although more for what it will do to the nearly half of the US population who apparently refuse vaccination, or to populations around the world that don’t have ready access to good vaccines; provided that we can get vaccines and booster shots in arms, this is far more manageable of a pathogen than the potential that many others have.
It is unfortunate that the guidance on vaccination status and preventative measures has been so muddled and politicized. If you are fully vaccinated and meeting with other fully vaccinated people, none of whom have had contact with someone suspected or known to be infectious, you have basically done all due diligence, and the question boils down to whether or not to continue to wear masks. Although a lot of emphasis has been put on masks as the primary prophylactic measure, there is still surprisingly little definitive data or studies on the effectiveness of non-respirator masks in confined spaces; it is, however, clear that little transmission occurs in outdoor and well-ventilated areas. I would personally emphasize ventilation over the wearing of masks in a group setting, particularly if you’re going to be taking them on and off to talk, drink, and eat.
As far as who to listen to and trust, I would refer to medical authorities knowledgeable in infectious disease who are independent of political agendas and vested interests. They may not always have complete answers for questions of risk because there is not enough information to produce definitive guidance, and they may hedge toward the more conservative response in absence of such data, but you can trust that they are at least being honest about what is known and unknown. I think if you apply that yardstick to the information and guidance you receive you’ll be able to suss out facts from speculation and nonsense, and are certainly way ahead of the people getting their information diet straight from social media.
As for “moral questions” of putting yourself and others at risk, that is something that everyone has to decide for themselves, but that you are even thinking about it puts you in the select category of people who even give enough of a damn to consider it. Given that this virus will become endemic, it isn’t realistic to avoid social and occupational contact indefinitely even if you have the means and privilege to do so, and if you and your friends are vaccinated, aware of the general status in your area (e.g. ICUs aren’t packed to capacity), and otherwise making a reasonable effort to mitigate possible transmission, you have done a reasonable amount of risk mitigation. I personally err toward the more cautious approach to returning to some kind of normal , meaning that I still don’t eat inside of restaurants, wear a mask (N95 and a cloth mask on top of it) at work and stores, and don’t plan to do any air travel for the foreseeable future, but I wouldn’t hesitate to meet with a small group of vaccinated and asymptomatic people who I trust to play games for a few hours.
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