No matter how hard I try, when I’m in a conversation with someone I find attractive, I seem to have a tendency to bring up something that makes the other person go :eek: at one point or another…
I really try to avoid the ‘speak before I think’ type embarassment, but its like the more I’m attracted to someone, the dumber I act in their presence. Sometimes I get too excited and say things I shouldnt, because I’m getting carried away in a conversation.
And sometimes I over-anaylze something to death because I’m afraid of saying something stupid. Its like I can’t operate between the extremes.
My sympathy, I’ve suffered from the same problem. Eventually, I got to the point where I realized that if someone can’t appreciate my petty neurosis, they aren’t worth my time. IMHO, be yourself, and fuck everyone who doesn’t get it. It’s worked for me lately.
Good advice, Or cultivate a pleasant personality. Smile, nod, keep up with the conversation. Ask about the other person’s likes, favorite movie, etc. This keeps them talking so you don’t have to. Bonus: lots of people like to talk about themselves - this can keep the covo Going and Going and … ok you see.
Well, in retrospect, I suppose that someone who is able to tolerate all the stupid and silly things that come out of my mouth would appreciate me on a level beyond that of most others. I don’t want to piss people off, but at the same time I do like people who like me for who I am.
If a guy acts a little nervous, sometimes it can be cute. As long as you’re being sincere, it shouldn’t be offputting. Plus, after a few minutes hopefully you can get comfortable with the person you’re talking to and relax.
My fiance was really nervous when we first started dating, he said he was intimidated by me. I really really liked him though and it was adorable IMO. He got over it, so maybe it just takes practice.
