I grew up with and love animals, and I’m single and don’t have pets. A definite part of why I don’t have pets is precisely because I’m single. I’ve had friends and family suggest that I should have pets because it would help keep me from feeling lonely. The fact is, I quite enjoy my alone time, and though I will get lonely occasionally, it’s far more the exception rather than the rule.
Yes, as I’ve watched others’ pets from time to time, an animal has a nice way of pretty much not interfering when I want to enjoy solitude, but also being comfort when I want company, and that’s a nice thought, but that’s not the whole consideration. For instance, as being single, if I’m not there, they’re alone. How fair is it of me to have animals around to keep me company for the times when I want it, but then be out and about a significant amount of time. That seems unfair to them.
It’s definitely unfair to a dog. Hell, if I’m home during the day, I can hear my neighbor’s dog whining constantly through the wall while they’re gone. Cats are, of course, more tollerant of solitude, depending on their personality, and can probably be okay without me while I’m at work, especially if there’s two of them, and that’s one of the suggestions that’s been made to me, and I admit it’s tempting.
But that all seems like a bad reason to have a pet. I want to have a pet, not because I’m afraid to be by myself, but because I want to have that relationship with an animal and I’m willing and able to commit to the responsibility of taking care of the pet, which isn’t just feeding and cleaning up after it, but spending time and energy cultivating that relationship and entertaining eachother. And, in my view, that’s something that works well in a relationship and in a family, and less so when I’m single.
And that’s not to say that single people shouldn’t have pets, there’s nothing wrong with that, but I do think they should take that into consideration. If you work a lot, have other activities that you do outside the house or even in the house that keep you distracted, and more or less just want a head to pat when you’re lonely, you may want to reconsider. If, however, you want to take the time to actually take your dog out for a walk and play fetch, or sit watching tv petting a cat in your lap then having him chase a laser pointer, then great. If you’re not sure, you probably should err on the side of caution.