I know most car salesman are two faced and of course little children that tell little innocent lies, but how can you tell if someone at work or a friend is two faced?
Check the back of their head?
See how they deal with and talk about others. If they are gossiping about others, they are probably telling others things about you. If they brag about their latest conquests, you may be next.
This. But I guess another question one has to ask is does it really matter? In my world, it’s the exception when someone DOESN’T talk shit about others.
Granted, there are varying degrees that people talk shit about others, but there you have it.
They smile in your face, all the time trying to take your place…
A long time ago I had a two-faced coworker. The way I knew she was two-faced was because she was smiley and cheery when I interacted with her, but I’d hear all these stories about her complaining about me behind my back from other coworkers. All the complaints were lies or exaggerations, manufactured to drum up non-existent drama.
Finally I had enough and I confronted her. That shit stopped immediately.
Pretty much as above. If they talk shit about other people or lie to them, rest assured they’re doing it to you too.
All too often people maintain relationships with people who are absolute shits to everyone else around them under this strange idea that “Oh, but they’re not that way with me/They wouldn’t do that to me - I’m their friend”. This is self-delusion. Give them a reason, give them a doubt, and they’ll gladly push you down the stairs.
I don’t think talking shit about others makes you two-faced. Here’s how I think you can make the distinction: If you have a coworker (for example) that is two-faced, that coworker will make snide remarks about a person behind his or her back, but act friendly to his or her face. Not merely courteous or cordial, but giggle and act like you two are friends.
A not-two-faced person may still talk about a person behind his or her back, but rather than acting friendly with the person to his or her face, the person is merely courteous enough to avoid causing drama. (Well, okay, some people will be obnoxious, but the ones I respect the most are the ones who are both not two-faced AND not dramatic.)
I don’t agree with: “of course little children that tell little innocent lies” and am surprised no one else has any disagreement with this.
Doesn’t 95%+ of the population tell innocent little lies from time to time? To me “two faced” has nothing to do with innocence; it has nothing to do with politeness.
Many people are two-faced, worrisome things that leave you to sing the blues, in the night.
I’ll probably get pitted for this but you just described about 70% of all the women I have ever know in my entire life.
I’ve only known women to do this. They’ll talk mean nasty shit about “Jane” and then as soon as Jane comes around they’re all nice to her.
Now, if they stopped right there, it wouldn’t be a big deal because guys do this too. What really boggles my mind is they’ll take it a step further. They’ll try to be pro-active and make plans with Jane. As in “We should totally hang out this weekend Jane!” :smack:
Yes, guys do the fake nice thing too but we don’t try to make plans with someone we clearly don’t like.
Okay, I’ll put my broadbrush down now.
I’ve met several women who say they have few/no female friends and just like male friends because of these social games. I have no idea if that is something other people have run into.
I’m not too sure how to tell, I’m fairly dense. I had someone I thought was a friend who I found out was badmouthing me behind my back for years. I guess it is hard to really fathom that someone can be nice to your face and hold you in contempt behind your back.
I guess the best advice is what is given, if they are doing it to other people they will do it to you too.
OP: Are you asking about other people in general, or do you have a specific “friend” or co-worker in mind, of whom you have your doubts?
If so, is said person male or female? More to the point, is his name Quirinus? If so, there’s a clue there.
I assume everyone is two face at work at treat everyone the same. In my personnal life I do the opposite until I find out otherwise. After working with someone for a year or so I have a pretty good idea.
As A boss I was upfront in letting everyone know that when reviews came along I would give an honest opinion no matter how well we got along on the floor. Some would still consider a bad review snitching, oh well.There’s no point in disagreeing with the obvious. There are tons of articles on this topic across the net (and I’ve just googled one here).
But, indeed, being two faced and lying are distinct things.
Hypocrites don’t just tell random lies, they do it strategically and they turn it into a way of life. They’re trouble, these guys. Stay away from them.
One of my family members is very rich and is 91years old and another family member told them a lie. It was an out and out lie too, but I can’t bring the subject up to the rich family member due to time and distance. I was sort of hoping to be in on a small inheritance, but with this lie I’m probably out of luck.
So I bring the lie up to the other family member who probably out of necessity told the lie to gain favor. So I bring it up by first saying, “I forgive you” and she says, “for what”? Her tone of voice was that she didn’t have a clue about what I was talking about, but of course she really did due to the fact that the person that she told the lie to was my only son who then repeated it and then in turn he told me. He believes me, but it’s too late for the millionaire to believe due to I can’t even bring it up.
Complicated, but my heart is hurting and I can’t do anything about it.
I got to wondering how you can tell if someone is two faced while watching everyone laugh and smile this Christmas on the NBC morning news show ‘Today’ … I know they get paid to be full of joy and mirth, but some people just do it as a way of life.
It’s in their Kiss,… That’s where it is
Mr Quatro: You need to develop a strong relationship with this relative. If you do this he is going to believe you–not someone else. Undoubtedly he has a phone and a mailbox so you can communicate with him.
Tread: I have no idea what you are saying.
if their name is Janus
Does he turn around when you call “Hey, Harvey Dent”?