Let me give you an example.
I got to sleep around midnight Tuesday night. At 1am yesterday morning (the 4th), I wake up to one of my neighbors rather flatly yelling “somebody help me” over and over. I get up, go to my door and listen. As I do so, one of the other neighbors steps out, says she has already called 911 and demands to know what is going on. The woman says that her boyfriend is off his meds and she’s not going to let him leave because he’ll hurt himself. He denies this, claims that she’s drunk and doesn’t know what she’s talking about, then says that he doesn’t need his meds.
I step out briefly just for a visual, because there’s no fucking way I’m stepping into the middle of a domestic between a drunk and someone off their meds, and I see her in the door way, one hand on the door and one arm holding him. No blood, no real violence, just a little bit of feeble wrestling. If he really wanted to get through her, he could.
I call 911 as well. They already know my address and say that “lots of help is already on the way”.
BTW: She’s lived there about 6 months, he moved in last weekend.
The man gets out and they stand in the hall arguing. Again, at that point he could have just left. Five minutes later a half dozen cops show up. Very quietly and very professionally, they interview both of them and interview me because I opened the door to speak to them. They ask her what she wants to do and she decides that he should leave. They ask him where if he has somewhere to go, and he says he can go to his parents house. They quietly escort him out* without cuffs, without threats, without even touching him, and the whole thing was over.
- Honestly, they were so quiet about the whole thing that I wouldn’t have known they were outside my door if I hadn’t been standing right there. I doubt I would have heard them at all if I’d been in bed.